Seven tips to reach orgasm (and that it does not happen to you like Rachel Bilson)

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Rachel Bilson

rose to fame thanks to her role as

in the series

, in addition to having participated in other productions such as

or

.

Now the actress has a podcast titled

in which she has opened up about her sex life, admitting that she had her

from her while she was having sex at

.

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interpreter

was chatting with

, who made a revealing confession.

"I'm going to say this, it's a wild thing. I haven't had an orgasm from sex until I stopped using the pill. I never had one in my life until I was 40, but I could do it with my hands," she said.

"I was just like you. It didn't happen to me until I was about 38. Isn't that crazy?" Bilson replied.

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What is female anorgasmia and why does it happen?

From the

they define

as "the absence or

of orgasm, persistently

recurrently

after a phase of excitement considered normal."

"The woman does not experience the orgasmic discharge and remains in a more or less elevated state of arousal, despite the fact that the stimulation is sufficient and adequate," adds the institution.

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The causes of anorgasmia are multiple and

points out that they can be

, if for example you suffer from

or are going through a stressful stage, or linked to your

, either due to a lack of communication or trust with your partner.

In some cases it is due to a

.

"Long-term conditions, such as

,

or

, may be contributing factors or complicating orgasmic disorders. Tissue damage from

, such as a hysterectomy or cancer surgery, can affect the ability to have an orgasm," the clinic says.

Types of female orgasms

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Different types of orgasms are often talked about, although some experts disagree.

"There are not two types of orgasm, it is

. Orgasm

, and like all reflexes, it has a certain range: some people need a light touch on the knee to move the leg and others need a The female orgasm seems

in

: at one extreme, those who have never experienced an orgasm, and at the other extreme, those who can reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation or only through fantasy. this bell are those who need a

to the clitoris and those who can reach orgasm with penetration (after an intense or short stimulus)", they explain from

.

With this in mind, orgasm can be classified into types depending on where the stimulation takes place.

• Clitoral orgasm

  : this is the most frequent.

  In a study carried out by

  Diversual

  , 66.9% of the women surveyed stated that clitoral stimulation is the most important thing to reach the climax.

• Vaginal orgasms

  : it is the second most common.

  "When orgasm occurs during intercourse, it does not occur due to stimulation of the penis in the vagina, but through

  indirect stimulation

  of the

  clitoris

  ," recalls Clínica Ment.

• Some sexologists claim that orgasm can be achieved without stimulating the genitals, either through nipple feeding

  ,

  kissing,

  or

  anal

  sex

  .

Tips to reach orgasm

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If you have problems reaching orgasm and you think

to any

below

.

• Know your body

  : The first step to a fulfilling sex life is to know your own body and know what you like and what you don't.

  "Exploring your body will allow you to know your sensations, times and preferences," they emphasize from

  El Prado Psicólogos

  .

• Do not focus

  on

  orgasm:

  One of the biggest mistakes is to focus solely on the search for orgasm, something that can make you obsessed and frustrated.

  "The key is to stop looking for pleasure and allow

  pleasure to come to you

  ," they emphasize from

  Avance Psicólogos

  .

• Communicate with your partner:

  Once you have practiced self-awareness and you are clear about what you want, you must communicate it to your partner.

  "If it is difficult for you to communicate, try to practice short and clear sentences with which you feel more comfortable," they propose from

  Serena Psicología

  .

• Change

  your

  postures

  and

  movements:

  Whether you are alone or accompanied, including

  variations

  in your sexual life can stimulate you.

  "Do not settle for the classic variety of sexual positions if they do not give you any results. In the same way that each position can mean different levels of pleasure in each woman, so the type of movements and the speed with which we do them also

  work

  " recalls the psychologist

  Silvia Sanz

  .

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• Do not focus

  on

  penetration:

  If you are having sex, keep in mind that there are

  many practices

  outside of penetration that

  will increase your arousal

  and make it easier for you to reach orgasm.

• Try new things:

  "Experiencing new things in sex is a way of

  surprising the body

  and

  mind

  with new sensations that will help increase sexual tension. In addition to encouraging yourself with practices or stimulation, including erotic accessories such as sex toys has many benefits" , say from El Prado Psychologists.

• If nothing works,

  seek professional help:

  "Once a physiological cause has been ruled out, we should ask for psychological help," recommend the experts at Avance Psicólogos.

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