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After the divorce
Dr..
Alaa Jarad
Garad@alaagarad.com
While shopping, my wife and I met with our neighbor, and he used to accompany his two daughters while they were in elementary school to buy them some supplies, and they were all happy and in excellent spirits. The eldest daughter is my daughter’s friend and schoolmate. We have known this little family for three years, and some disagreements occurred between the spouses and in In the end, they decided to separate and the divorce took place quietly, and from our knowledge of them we understood that they explained to their daughters the situation, and they set a system for their lives after that, as the financial conditions of the family were arranged, and the most important thing is to arrange the human and family conditions, so the divorce does not mean that the family collapses and the children are dispersed. On the time and days that the daughters will spend with their father, on Saturday and Sunday as the weekend, and also a plan has been made for the rest of the holidays throughout the year, and the mother takes a break that she spends with her friends and takes care of herself during the weekend, and the father spends a wonderful time with his daughters, and the most important thing is that the girls are happy too The mother does not speak bad about the father, and the father does not speak bad about the mother.
Personally, I know at least 10 cases of this situation, and one of the families spent a whole year with a social worker to prepare for the post-divorce. I contemplate this, and we talk about it a lot, me and my wife, why not do this in our Arab societies?
Why do we not take into account the human side and give priority to children's interests over stubbornness, vanity and arrogance?
There are cases in which the heart is bleeding and the forehead dries, the last of which is the mother who left her baby at home alone until he died of starvation and his body was stubbornly dissolved in his father, and the mother who threw her two sons in the river, but personally witnessed a case in which the son died in an accident and the father refused to receive the body in the mother His ex-wife), and the mother also refused to receive the son's body!
What is this stubbornness and lack of faith!
Why do we not observe the boundaries of God and apply the Almighty’s saying “divorce twice ۖ, so holding on to a good or releasing a good?”
Charity is the highest degree of faith, so what would happen if the husband and wife were good to each other and stopped distorting the image of each of them with the children, what fathers and mothers do leave psychological wounds in the conscience of their children that cannot be dealt with by time, the war between the father and the mother has a settled outcome, and both are losers Even if he believes that he has won, or achieved his goal driven by stubbornness, intransigence and arrogance, our popular tradition says, “Stubbornness inherits disbelief”, and stubbornness causes the destruction of families and the destruction of thousands of homes every day. I hope that every father and every mother stops before embarking on an act that harms children and destroys their lives. They will only gain heartbreak.
Why do we not observe the boundaries of God and apply the Almighty’s saying “divorce twice ۖ, so holding on to a good or releasing a good?”
Charity is the highest degree of faith.
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