For young people, "going ashore" is not just a word, but also a spiritual symbol. It represents a life attitude of overcoming difficulties, transcending oneself, and pursuing excellence.
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Fan Xiaoya, a junior, worked hard to get three internship experiences in order to successfully "land" in a game company after graduation; Wen Ming, a senior, has completed the 2023 graduate admissions examination and is waiting for the trial of "landing"; Qi Lulu is working as a graduate student I started looking for a job in the third semester. I applied for 94 resumes, went through 52 written tests and 20 interviews, and finally successfully landed in a public institution directly under the central government...
In the "2023 Young People's Search Keywords Report" (hereinafter referred to as the "Report") released by Quark and the China Youth Research Association, "Going ashore" was successfully selected as the 2023 young people's status keyword.
"Going ashore" civil servants, "Going ashore" teachers, "Going ashore" graduate students, "Going ashore" state-owned enterprises, and "Going ashore" college entrance examinations have become the top five search terms related to "Going ashore".
The "Report" mentioned that "going ashore" refers to the successful state of young people at the examination level. It will be widely used in examination fields such as civil servants and public institutions in 2023, reflecting young people's desire to achieve career ideals, life goals, and a better future. Pursuit, persistence and yearning.
For young people, "going ashore" is not just a word, but also a spiritual symbol. It represents a life attitude of overcoming difficulties, transcending oneself, and pursuing excellence.
Among the hot words of the year, why are young people obsessed with "going ashore"?
Wen Ming has always liked the broadcasting and hosting major, but because his parents didn't know much about the art exam, he didn't dare to try it easily.
After entering college, she still did not give up her desire for broadcasting and hosting.
"The postgraduate entrance examination is an opportunity to make a new choice," Wen Ming said. "I want to take this opportunity to explore the areas of real interest."
During the half-year preparation for the postgraduate entrance examination, Wen Ming often felt fearful and confused. "When I feel depressed, I will doubt whether the path I have chosen is right, and I will also worry that I will not pass the examination and make others laugh."
"In October last year, my mentality was very bad, and I had the idea of escape. I considered whether to change my track, go abroad, take the public examination, or find a job." Wen Ming said, "While I was breaking down, I also thought clearly about going abroad. The financial pressure is too great; I always feel unwilling to take the civil service examination, but I still want to try more careers when I am young; there are many opportunities to find a job, so there is no need to rush."
Wen Ming recalled, "After thinking about it clearly, I felt that the postgraduate entrance examination was not only an improvement in academic qualifications for me, but also an opportunity to prove myself. Even if I didn't succeed, I would gain something after surviving this test." During the exam , Wen Ming filled in his answer sheet and persisted until the last second.
When Qi Lulu first looked for a job, he just wanted to find a good job, but how to define "good"?
She couldn't tell.
Like Wen Ming, her "coming ashore" process was full of struggle, entanglement and confusion.
"When I was looking for a job, some of my classmates wanted to work in a 'big factory' to make money, and some wanted to work within the system, which required stability, including establishment and household registration. I had no idea about these two options. I also wanted to make money, and I thought some stability would be good. ." Qi Lulu said, "In the early days of job hunting, I would submit my resume as soon as I saw the relevant recruitment notice. Whenever the recruiting unit asked me why I chose their company or what my plans for the future were, I always couldn't answer." .
The turning point occurred during an interview with a private company.
The interviewer asked her how long she planned to stay in Beijing. Qi Lulu was a little confused. The interviewer told her that the company had no household registration or establishment, and employees were highly mobile. Most employees would return to their hometowns after a few years.
That interview made Qi Lulu's goal of "going ashore" gradually clear, "I have loved Beijing since I was a child, and I have never thought about going back to my hometown for development. If I want to stay in Beijing for a long time, a household registration is a necessity, so I have to solve the problem of compiling a household registration." 'Ashore' direction".
Gao Yan, associate professor at the School of Education at Beijing Normal University, Zhuhai Branch, believes that young people's life choices are gradually diversifying, but having more choices is not necessarily a good thing. They will be confused and anxious when faced with various choices, and no one tells them how to choose.
That’s why there are so many young people going abroad, “taking public exams”, studying for graduate school, “preparing” for editing exams, or constantly setting the goal of “going to school” and repeatedly pursuing “going to school”.
Gao Yan said that young people's pursuit of "going ashore" seems to be that they want to settle down in an uncertain environment and seek certainty in life. From a deeper psychological analysis, they are pursuing a kind of self-identity and identity. Agree.
"In the process of constant contact and collision with society and the outside world, they slowly realize what kind of people they are and what kind of life they want to live, and gradually form a clear self-concept and self-portrait." Gao Yan said, " 'Going ashore' is actually the psychological need of young people who have reached a certain stage of psychological development."
"The pursuit of 'going ashore' is not unique to this generation of young people," Gao Yan said. "The older generation's pursuit of 'going ashore' in their youth and the current youth's pursuit of 'going ashore' are both manifestations of the pursuit of self-identity."
"No matter what age, young people are always the group most willing to try and meet challenges. However, they will show different tendencies due to different social environments." Gao Yan said, "In the 1990s, the overall society The environment is very certain, and young people will want to take risks in the sea if they can't stand the life that they can see at a glance. Nowadays, affected by the COVID-19 epidemic, coupled with the unstable economic situation and intensified employment competition, "going ashore" for young people is not only about stability, but also about seeking stability. It is more of a kind of exploration, using this as a starting point, using the form of 'public examination' and postgraduate entrance examination to make myself relatively stable."
After work, there is still a transition period followed by another transition period.
When Qi Lulu "drowned" in the sea, after the interview, it was common for a person to hide in a corner of the subway and cry, "constantly falling into self-doubt, repeatedly collapsing and rebuilding."
At that time, she always fantasized about what she would be like after finding a job, "How happy will my life be after I land? I will probably have no worries in life!"
Now that he has been "off shore" for more than a year, Qi Lulu has been diagnosed with depression. "The troubles are still endless. I don't know why I am depressed. I have overcome all the difficulties in the past. I live an ideal life but I get sick." ?”
High school entrance examination, college entrance examination, postgraduate entrance examination, and countless exams of various sizes. Qi Lulu likened the days of trying to "go ashore" to the transitional period of life.
"In every transition period, anything and any emotion that happens to me should give way to 'going ashore.'" In the last semester of the third year of graduate school, many new flowers were planted at the school on Qilu Road, and they bloomed especially in spring. Beautiful, passing by those flowers, Qi Lulu did not dare to stop. "It seems that even stopping to take pictures is a sin. I always think that I don't deserve to be happy until my goal is achieved."
After "coming ashore", Qi Lulu became even more confused. Looking back on his life over the past 20 years, "it seems to be one transitional period after another" and "it will be fine after I ××" has become Qilulu's mantra.
After working, life no longer consisted of test papers with standard answers. Qi Lulu suddenly didn't know how to answer the questions.
"Everyone is telling me to study hard and find a good job, but how should I live my life after I find a job? How should I get better? No one told me." Qi Lulu said, "It's the same as when I was looking for a job. , because I don’t know what I want. It’s good to see others have everything, but in fact, I haven’t thought about what kind of person I should be and what kind of life I should live.”
Song Wei, a teacher at the Mental Health Education and Counseling Center of Beijing Foreign Studies University, believes that because young people don’t know how to choose, when they encounter difficulties, they tend to choose the method that they are most comfortable with. "Postgraduate entrance examinations and public examinations, "examination results can provide timely feedback on personal efforts in a short period of time, allowing us to see that 'no pain, no gain', this model is the most common from the perspective of students."
Gao Yan concluded in her long-term psychological counseling practice that real psychological counseling and career planning is not to instruct young people on what to do, but to help them explore themselves, understand themselves, and seek self-identity. “In the face of the stages and stages of life development, As social uncertainty grows, 'going ashore' is not the end of life once and for all. The most important thing is to help students find the meaning of the present and find ways to explore self-stability. The present is the other shore, and the other shore is not far away."
"Instead of 'going ashore', it is better to 'build a shore'" to build a solid inner shore.
Talking about future plans, Fan Xiaoya thought about it, "I should find a job directly after graduating from undergraduate degree. The ideal goal of 'landing' is to be able to enter the game industry, join a project team that I like, and work in a job that is 'more money, less work, and close to home'" ' job." Although she is pursuing "going ashore," Fan Xiaoya does not feel as if she is "drowning" in the sea. She has full predictions and clear plans for the future.
大一时，范小雅也很迷茫，不知道该做什么，因为兴趣爱好开始接触游戏制作，一位行业前辈建议她可以多多实习，提前感受工作氛围。大学3年，她陆续在国内3家知名游戏制作公司跟组参与项目。“3段实习经历不仅让我学到很多专业知识和技能，还让我对整个行业有了深入了解，意识到自己在哪些方面有不足，现在的我正在努力提升行业竞争力”。
“可能对这个行业有足够的了解，我过早对这份工作‘祛魅’”，范小雅说，“实习让我意识到，工作固然重要，但也不能为了工作忽略生活。明确了自己的‘上岸’目标后，我更加珍惜‘上岸’前的生活，珍惜在学校学习、努力的日子”。
宋巍认为积极追求自己想要的生活是一种好状态，但与其将“上岸”看成一种结果，不如当作一段过程。“与其一直紧张地盯着远方，不如审视当下的自己，或者回溯过往的自己。反思一下由近及远，我们经历了怎样的成长？在‘上岸’的过程中，我们为这件事投入时间、挥洒汗水、克服困难、磨炼心性，由此而生的喜怒哀乐，都是人生体验的一部分。不要只把眼光放在结果上，要看到自己在拼搏过程中内化的成长与收获。”
与范小雅等待“上岸”不同，一直扮演着“别人家孩子”的王振从“岸”上退回了“海”里。本科出国留学，毕业后接连在亚马逊、微软等公司工作，王振意识到自己并不喜欢稳定的工作，在国外做了一年志愿者后，王振决定回学校读书，充实自己。
“回国后我经常搬家，上海、北京、浙江，好多城市都待过，我很喜欢这种自由的生活方式。当然也会有困扰，找对象的时候，别人看到你到处漂，会觉得你不稳定，就不会选择你。但凡事有得必有失，想清楚就好了”，王振觉得，“现在大家有很多选择，不一定非要走考研“考公”这条路。可以创业、自由职业、远程工作，选择无所谓好坏，关键还要看个人的兴趣和能力所在”。
宋巍建议，“大学生职业生涯规划这门课应从大一入学时就抓起，为同学们制定成体系的生涯发展、自我探索的课程。通过多样化课程设计帮助他们了解自己，学校也应该为学生们积极争取更多实习、实践机会，让他们对将来从事的工作，所过的生活有较为充分的了解和规划。”
对于学生本人，宋巍建议，在做选择时千万不要盲从，随大流，“信息化的时代，应当打破信息茧房，了解事物发展变化的全貌，不被他人轻易误导。走出校园、走向社会，与不同行业、不同年龄阶段的人多沟通交流，从而促进独立、理性、辩证、客观地思考，形成自己‘个性化定制’的生涯规划”。
“与其‘上岸’，不如‘造岸’”，高艳建议年轻人不要只盯着技能证书、实习经历，迷茫时多读一些关于人生、心理、哲学方面的书籍，“这些书籍虽然不能解决实际的问题，但它们会帮助你知晓未来想要成为什么样的人，人生道路希望怎样走，帮你去构建内心坚实的彼岸”。
(文中范小雅、闻铭、齐鹿路、王振均为化名)
中青报·中青网见习记者 谭思静 实习生 张渝翎 记者 郭韶明 来源：中国青年报