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The great revolution that made us stop being insignificant apes, with little more interest than eating and copulating, was not that of the crotch, neither in shape nor in size, but came from subtle changes in the brain. 70,000 years later, Sophie Marceau has caused a great shock by declaring herself sapiosexual. That is, any debauchery or lust, either comes in an intellectual key or does not arrive.

Can some verses awaken our libido? Can we desire someone simply because of their culture or IQ? The Parisian actress confirms that yes, intelligence can be very sexy. He has taken advantage of the presentation of his book of poems, stories and fables, 'La Souterraine', to make an intimate revelation that draws attention in a society immersed in a growing feast of increasingly fleeting and varied experiences in terms of carnality and sexual pleasures.

A lasting desire

The idea is not new. Those who study the erotic brain know that wisdom and charisma may be the biggest triggers of hormones related to pleasure and sexual interest, even more than any other condition or attribute. The Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel theorized about it, already in 2006, in a bestseller entitled 'Erotic Intelligence'. In its pages he argues that this type of desire can be much more consistent than any other, because it does not fade as easily, as it happens when it is based on a physical attraction. According to him, this erotic intelligence contains everything that our erotic brain can demand: adventure, novelty, mystery, risk, surprise, passion and, of course, pleasure.

The sapiosexual is interesting someone who gives off, without effort, security, serenity or similar qualities. They are people who are emotionally linked to people like this and manage to create an erotic charge. Perel observed it after traveling to more than 20 countries to investigate and contrast the erotic brain in different cultures, religions or sexual options. He was surprised to find that the differences were rather small. Regardless of nationality or condition, he saw that desire increases when we discover in our partner its magnetism and the effect it causes on those around him.

Security has an erotic charge

His conclusion was that there is no greater sexual attraction than that aroused by a radiant and self-confident person. "It may be the most exciting in the world," he says. These are qualities that, he found, are better appreciated when we take some distance from it and see it with new eyes. At that moment, his intelligence can become a very intense aphrodisiac, without having to go looking for impossible positions or a greater repertoire of adventures.

The author insists that erotic intelligence has fascinating components to spare to maintain an intense sex and love life. The most powerful is imagination. It is an eroticism that does not respond only to the natural instinct to practice sex, but goes beyond and transcends physical beauty, age or other conditions that sexuality sometimes imposes when it is purely biological. A sapiosexual falls in love with charm and is enraptured by the ability to captivate and influence or by a simple conversation.

Beyond the physical

Rosa Navarro, psychologist and sexologist of Diversual, believes that the intelligence we attribute to a person can be very erotic. "It's one more stimulus. Just as there are people who are attracted to specific physical characteristics, there are also people who experience sexual attraction based on the intelligence of the other." He agrees with Perel that "it is a type of attraction that is not based on something physical, but on qualities such as creativity, knowledge or the cultural level that another person has. It's possible that that admiration excites libido."

However, he advises to keep in mind that we are talking about a very subjective and complex concept, which makes it difficult to know how this peculiar way of expressing desire and excitement works. In his opinion, it is likely that sapiosexual has intelligence in his ideal as a very admirable value: "There are theories that suggest that this admiration could be due to the fact that in our childhood we have had leading figures with these qualities, but it is something about which there is not enough contrasted evidence."

Sexuality and labels

The truth is that, as the expert indicates, every day more labels appear to give name to the enormous sexual diversity with which we live the passions: demisexual, pansexual, asexual ... " They are just some terms that have been incorporated into our vocabulary to name different ways of expressing our sexuality."

Without falling into stigma, he believes that naming all this helps to enjoy greater erotic richness and also that a greater number of people can find ways to understand how they work in the sexual sphere, know each other better and feel represented. In short, Marceau's proposal may be a great advantage. It remains to be seen if it is easy to find candidates cultivated in this art of seduction that defines sapiosexuality.

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