The mother with cancer told her son that the "college entrance examination is greater than the relatives" should be broken

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A few days ago, a video circulated on a platform: At the college entrance examination oath meeting of a middle school, a mother with cancer chose to write a letter to inform her son of her true condition, "I don't want to tell him on the day of the end of life, (that) is too cruel to him."

In this regard, many netizens think that the mother's approach is wrong, "should hide the condition, and then tell the child after the college entrance examination" and "tell the child that he has cancer before the college entrance examination, which will be a great blow to the child and affect the child's college entrance examination results." The messages of some netizens are quite representative: "I don't know what she thinks as a mother" "Shouldn't we pay attention to the college entrance examination and make way for the college entrance examination?" ”

In response to the messages of the above netizens, some netizens also reflected: "I myself subconsciously already feel that the college entrance examination can be greater than the life and death of my relatives, horror!" "The first thing I thought about was why I told me before the college entrance examination, I actually felt that the college entrance examination > my family." Indeed, "the college entrance examination is greater than the family" has become the subconscious of many people, not to say that parents are sick and do not tell the children who are about to take the college entrance examination, that is, grandparents and grandparents died, and some parents choose not to tell their children, so that the children can fully prepare for the college entrance examination.

There are many people who understand and support the practice of hiding the condition of their relatives from children preparing for the college entrance examination. As a media report before, a college entrance examination student was only told that his grandfather had passed away after the college entrance examination, and he took the college admission letter to comfort his grandfather's spirit in heaven. In this public opinion environment, the awareness that "the college entrance examination is more important than anything else" has gradually become popular.

It is precisely with the existence of this consciousness that the mother told her child about her condition before the college entrance examination, which seemed very "alternative" and was questioned by some netizens. This is precisely what needs to be reflected. For students, the college entrance examination is very important, but because of the college entrance examination, it ignores the responsibility education and life education for students, reflecting a distorted and short-sighted view of education and talents. The college entrance examination is a rite of passage for every student, and adults need to have responsibilities and responsibilities, and it is also a very important lesson to educate children to face the serious illness of their parents and the death of their families. Students who know how to take responsibility will correctly deal with the illness of their parents and the death of their family members, and reap the growth of life.

Not telling these to students will make the child become cold, even without family affection, and lack of sound personality. If you take the college entrance examination for your child today and don't tell the news of your grandparents' death, then tomorrow your child will also think that something is very important and can even sacrifice his family regardless of family affection. Some parents complain that they devote themselves to their children's education, arrange everything for their children except learning, shield their children from the wind and rain, and make their children carefree, but the children do not understand themselves and become "white-eyed wolves". In fact, this is also the result of parents' indifference to their children's education, lack of humanity and warmth.

In fact, the education department clearly requires schools not to hold the college entrance examination oath conference, because many oath conferences are full of "murderous" slogans, which not only stimulates the competition for the exam, but also distorts students' views on the college entrance examination. China has entered the era of popularization of higher education, schools, students, families, and society should all treat the college entrance examination with a normal heart, and regard the college entrance examination as a student's life growth experience, rather than a life-threatening "threshold".

The school's oath meeting arranged such a session, indicating that the school is also thinking about the meaning of the college entrance examination. There are also different interpretations of this, such as thinking that this is a gratitude education for students, with parents who are seriously ill and still caring about their children's learning, to urge students to be grateful to their parents, and to repay their parents with academic performance. And if it is for such an "educational" purpose, it is still to serve the test competition.

At present, China's basic education still has a tendency to test-taking, utilitarian and short-sighted, in order to make basic education full of humanistic care and give students a warm education, it is necessary to get rid of the test-oriented orientation of only grades and further studies. On the one hand, it is necessary to continue to promote the reform of the college entrance examination, break the single score evaluation system, and establish a multiple evaluation system, on the other hand, school education, family education and social education must adhere to the common sense and bottom line of education, and do not tell stories such as "parents hide their illness to make their children feel at ease in the college entrance examination". (Source: Beijing Youth Daily)