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I am working, with motivation coming out of my ears, in the I DONATE newsroom, when suddenly I see a message enter my email inbox with this suggestive subject: 'Working unmotivated
seriously
harms health'.
Inevitably, of course, put everything I'm doing at that moment on hold and immerse myself in reading that email (although, I insist, it
's not my problem).
The first thing I find, in the body of the message, is that "the psychologist from the MGC Mutua insurance company,
Andrea Doreste,
reveals how to behave if at this moment one finds oneself demotivated at work. As she comments, 'carrying out a job that is not like it can be a
trigger
for
psychosomatic
or other illnesses'".
I am alarmed (and not because of the questionable editorial quality of the received email): what diseases are these?
I open the attached press release to find them;
As Andrea Doreste explains, "usually these people who feel a negative state towards their work tend to have
ailments
very
similar
to those caused by
stressful situations,
with the digestive system normally being the most affected, the so-called second brain, because it has a similar neural network to the brain, causing
emotions
to directly affect the
intestine
Other symptoms, also frequent, are those related to the muscular system,
migraines
, tension
headaches
and
dermatological problems".
demotivation epidemic
Well, what an epidemic we have on us.
Because in its '2023 Labor Market Guide', the recruitment consultancy
Hays
recently revealed that
61% of Spaniards
feel
demotivated
at work, and that the issue is growing (the percentage has grown by 14% in a single year).
Downhill, with headache, migraine, acne and no brakes, wow.
In his report, Hays also reveals, at least partially, the keys to this massive
downturn
: "65% of those surveyed highlighted that, in order to achieve greater motivation, companies could
offer salary increases.
In addition, 35% pointed out that a A second alternative to consider could be
more recognition,
while 24% responded that more
flexibility
in the work day could fuel their enthusiasm.
Let's see, the fact that 63%, according to the same source, do not envision
options for professional growth
in their company will also have something to do with the matter, I say... On this issue in particular, women
are
also , more
pessimistic
.
Only 25% (compared to 34% of men) see light at the end of the tunnel of their professional progress.
The problem is that companies are not always willing to work (despite the fact that employee motivation is essential for their productivity, according to any Human Resources first grade manual) to raise salaries, give more recognition to their employees or implement policies of flexibility, so the following question is obligatory:
what do I do, demotivated, to remotivate myself?
(the I in the previous sentence is purely rhetorical, you know).
From looking only at the 'beautiful' to thinking only about tomorrow
A first sweep in Google offers me infinite listings so that I can learn to
deal with the problem.
For example, an article in
Business Insider
recommends that I
focus
on
what I do like
about my job;
the psychotherapist
Amy Moran
suggests me, among other 'tricks', to
'visualize' the day to day
instead of the distant final goal: what
concrete things
am I going to do today to carry out my tasks;
Juan Carlos Cubeiro
and
Jorge Carretero
propose to me from their book 'Dare to motivate yourself', change your attitude or change companies...
Too much information, I tell myself.
I need an authoritative voice that can give me a concrete answer on how
to recover lost motivation.
And the answer comes, again, from the email, from the already mentioned psychologist Andrea Doreste: "When a person begins to have these ailments [those mentioned above: headaches, migraines, dermatological problems...], you have to be aware that the
body
is
warning
you that
you need a change;
and this
does not have to be work, but simply a change of thoughts and attitude".
And here, the MGC Mutua psychologist gives a series of recommendations to try to improve motivation, which are, in summary: try to
do your best;
work for the purpose of making a
profit;
foster
relationships
at work;
dedicate time
and space to the
personal sphere;
be aware that you must carry out your tasks regardless of how much you want to do them, and try
not to surround yourself with toxic colleagues.
Come on,
suck.
A radical change of perspective
Sure?
Because maybe the
solution is not in us,
although we have been led to believe that it is and whatever psychology says.
Carlos Javier González Serrano,
philosopher, counselor, director of the podcast
'A la luz del pensar' (RNE)
is very critical of the prevailing belief that people have the ability (and therefore, the obligation) to overcome the obstacles that life decides to put in front of them -among them the lack of motivation at
work-
, especially through the
fashionable virtue,
resilience
(formerly called
putting up with carts and wagons).
"Currently we have a
structural problem,
which has been built in collusion with the 'if you want, you can' discourse, related to the constant procrastination of the future, with permanent promises and with expectations that are always postponed", warns the philosopher .
"They tell us that fulfillment is always yet to come, that the moment of true
success
will arrive, that it is only one step away, and that
we must take that step.
Now, if that step is wrong (or judged as such),
the The blame always rests with the individual,
while the economic and social structures that allow and foster our malaise remain unscathed."
The inalienable right to feel demotivated
So, perhaps, the solution to demotivation does not depend on oneself;
we may, in fact, lack the tools to motivate ourselves at a certain point.
"The price to pay for the
rhetoric of 'if you want, you can' magical thinking
and
meritocracy
is that it shifts responsibility to the exclusive place of the individual: it's only you who sinks or fails. So, self-help comes to the rescue with 'inner journeys', 'personal growth' or resilience, and no, what we need is more and greater
capacity to question the context
through which inequality and social injustice are generated. More humanities and less self-help", claims González Serrano .
Or, in the words of
Marian Donner
('Manifesto against self-help'), which is more
brutal:
"If the world keeps telling you that you are not good enough, healthy, elegant, productive, positive, zen, or that you're out of shape, it's about time you asked yourself what has gone wrong with the world."
And then embrace your demotivation.
Because after all, yours has cost you to get it.
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