70% of the interviewed college students are looking for a partner, and the three views are the same
82.6% of the interviewed single college students are looking forward to a campus love
The love time on the college campus is a beautiful memory about youth and an unforgettable growth experience.
Campus romance is not only a hot topic among students, but also a social concern.
How to establish a correct view of love and understand the true meaning of campus love?
Last week, a survey of 2011 college students conducted by the Social Investigation Center of China Youth Daily and the questionnaire network (wenjuan.com) showed that when looking for a partner on a college campus, three views, character and moral character are the most important things. aspect.
When it comes to a campus romance, 68.0% of the interviewed college students believe that they can learn to deal with emotional problems and become more mature.
Among the college students interviewed, 38.5% are in the first and second grades of undergraduates, 53.7% are in the third and fourth grades of undergraduates, and 7.8% are postgraduates.
Boys accounted for 41.3% and girls accounted for 58.7%.
82.6% of the single college students surveyed are looking forward to a college romance
Liu Jintao is a senior at a normal college in Nanchang.
When he first entered school, he had good expectations for love.
"I was fortunate to meet a girl I liked in my freshman year and took every opportunity to express my heart."
The two have been together for 3 years now.
Zheng Xinyu, a freshman girl, is studying in a normal college in Xi'an and is currently single.
She is looking forward to a sweet campus romance.
"University is a place where many beautiful beginnings begin, full of unknown possibilities. I hope to meet someone who understands and loves myself. The two know each other and work together."
Among the single college students surveyed, 82.6% are looking forward to a college romance, of which 30.3% are very much looking forward to it.
Only 17.5% said they did not expect it.
The interactive analysis found that the interviewed boys had higher expectations than the interviewed girls, and the first- and second-year undergraduate students had higher expectations.
Zhu Xiaoman, a junior in a university in Beijing, is currently single.
"I used to look forward to going to the library, shopping, and doing a lot of interesting things with my boyfriend. But I am not ready for love. Now that I am about to graduate, I am still alone, so I always have some regrets."
Zhao Yue is an undergraduate student at a comprehensive university in Hangzhou. She has always been single, and she follows the flow of nature when it comes to love on campus.
"When graduating, the two often have to face the problems of developing the city and planning in different directions, which brings a lot of uncertainty. I think this is an objective and realistic problem to be faced by a college love affair, and it is also a big test. So right Campus love, I quite let it go. First of all, I have to do a good job in my studies."
69.6% of the interviewed college students admitted that they would regret if they failed to have a campus romance.
The interactive analysis found that the interviewed boys (76.2%) felt more strongly than the interviewed girls (65.0%).
The interviewed college students most value three views, character and moral conduct when looking for a target
When looking for a partner in a university, Liu Jintao values his character and learning attitude the most.
"For example, do you value money and material things, and will you treat people in different industries differently? You should always be filial to your parents, respect your elders, and be grateful. Because we are students, earnest study is the most basic attitude, and we are also responsible for ourselves. If I can do that, I think she's a very good girl."
He said that his girlfriend also thinks the same way. The two have the same three views, and they are very tacit and happy together.
Xu Haohao, a first-year graduate student at Zhejiang University of Media and Communications, is engaged to her boyfriend.
In her view of love, the two must first have similar interests, and they will be happy every day if they can play together.
The second is to have similar living habits.
"Character should also be good, kind and loving."
Huang Yu, who graduated from a university of science and technology last year, has been with his girlfriend for 5 years.
He said that compared with the external conditions such as appearance and body that many people value, he values the inside of each other more, such as character and way of doing things.
"Both of them are more mature, they can consider each other's perspective better in their relationship and handle problems better."
Zhao Yue feels that boys must be motivated, "I don't like people who only know how to play and do nothing all day."
Secondly, she feels that it is very important for the two to have the same three views, "from the little things in daily communication to the future development plan. And you should have a good temper, be polite, and be mature and steady."
What factors do college students look for when looking for a partner on campus?
The survey shows that the three views are the most valued by the interviewed college students, ranking first, with a selection rate of 71.2%.
Followed by character, 65.0% of the interviewed college students value.
This is followed by moral conduct (55.7%).
Other aspects include: appearance (46.5%), personal ability (38.9%), hobbies (36.5%), figure (33.8%), living habits (32.9%), and academic performance (21.1%).
In addition, 9.7% of the interviewed college students felt that as long as it felt right, it would be fine.
Three views, personality, and moral conduct are the three most important points for college students to fall in love with. Ling Zi, a member of the Zhejiang Provincial Mental Health Promotion Association and a specially hired marriage expert of the Hangzhou Federation of Trade Unions, believes that this is a very ideal and rational state.
She also mentioned that some college students are influenced by some social aesthetic concepts when they fall in love, and they will attach great importance to each other's appearance.
Compared with boys, girls tend to value the other person's attention and consideration for themselves when choosing a mate.
In addition, due to the requirements for housing and cars in the current social marriage and love market, there are more cases of finding a partner on campus and paying more attention to family conditions than before.
Falling in love in college, 68.0% of the interviewed college students believe that they can learn to deal with emotional problems and become more mature
Liu Jintao feels that love on campus can make young college students mature and take responsibility more quickly.
Have a clearer understanding of love and grow in how to deal with and deal with feelings.
When the two first got together, they didn't know how to pay properly. They always accommodated each other unprincipally. The pressure was very high, and neither of them was happy.
"Later, during the home study due to the epidemic, we separated, calmed each other, and self-reflected. Four months later, the epidemic improved and we returned to school. When we met again, we both had a new understanding of emotions and got along better."
Xu Haohao thinks that in love, he can learn to analyze and deal with problems rationally.
"For example, if one party has emotions, they would not understand it before, and would be angry and cold. Now that there is a problem, we will think about where the crux is, and the two will communicate with each other calmly, review the situation, and solve the problem."
Falling in love on a college campus, what changes does it bring to college students?
68.0% of the interviewed college students believe that they can learn to deal with emotional problems and become more mature, 50.6% of the interviewed college students believe that they can adapt to the way of getting along in intimate relationships, and 50.2% of the interviewed college students feel that they can encourage each other in learning.
Others include: will cultivate and enhance the sense of responsibility (45.3%), improve self-confidence and personal image (37.5%), enrich life experience (36.5%), and have more companionship and care (30.7%).
Lingzi said that it is very important for college students to learn the ability to love in love.
She pointedly pointed out that the relationship between the two cannot rely on instinct.
"Instinct here refers to the way that the original family brings a person to see and deal with problems. For example, having an only child is very favored by his parents, he has been self-willed since he was a child, and all his needs are met. Then in the interaction between two people, they will often ask for The other party comes to satisfy themselves. I feel that 'my parents are so good to me, you should do the same'".
What exactly does "the ability to love" mean?
Lingzi said that you must be able to accept that the other party's ideas are different from your own.
Cognitively, able to empathize and empathize.
Have the ability to manage emotions, when two people have differences, they can communicate well.
"People with weak emotional management ability fall in love, and quarrels often become routine. Many couples come to the conclusion that 'we are not suitable, there is no way to be together'. In fact, you can sit down and have a good talk, thinking about whether it can make both parties The demands are agreed." She reminded college students to attach importance to cultivating the ability to love and reduce unnecessary conflicts in communication.
She also reminded that the most fundamental task of college students is to study first.
Love is a result of the interaction between classmates and friends after school.
"Nowadays, many parents are affected by the problem of young people's marriage and love in society, and they will also urge their children to fall in love on college campuses. I think love is spontaneous and should not be influenced by parents' urging and social atmosphere."
China Youth Daily, China Youth Daily reporter Du Yuanchun intern Xiao Pinghua Source: China Youth Daily