The real version of "Fan Shengmei" makes netizens feel distressed, experts: the parents should not be paid

　　Recently, a program released on the Internet by the "Hangzhou Peacemaker" column of Zhejiang Hangzhou TV Station has aroused heated discussions among netizens.

A girl born in the 1990s died unexpectedly, and her parents claimed 410,000 yuan from her daughter’s company for “buying a house for her son”.

The girl died unexpectedly due to high tide

Parents claim 410,000 yuan to buy a house for younger brother

　　In October 2019, a girl died unexpectedly when she encountered high tide while relaxing by the Qiantang River.

Because there are big differences between the girl’s parents and the company on the amount of compensation, this episode is a mediation between the two parties.

　　Once the program video was released, it caused widespread heated discussion in the community, and many netizens expressed dissatisfaction with their parents and the mediator of the program.

Some netizens discovered that the girl was forced to support the family and younger brother before she was alive, and her parents would use her pension to buy a house for her younger brother after her death.

Some people call the woman who passed away the "realistic Fan Shengmei".

　　It is understood that before entering the mediation process, the company has given the family of the deceased a pension of 60,000 yuan for humanitarian reasons, but the parents of the deceased asked the company to pay another 350,000 yuan, and the compensation will be used for the son's down payment.

　　After watching the video, many netizens said that the mediator was "hey mud" and expressed dissatisfaction with the parents of the deceased woman.

Mediator: Taking out of context leads to online violence, and mediation is not "harmony"

　　Luo Ruiqi, a psychosocial worker at the Xizi Juvenile Justice Social Work Service Center in Hangzhou, Zhejiang, is a mediator of the show "Hangzhou Peacemaker".

In an interview with a reporter from China Central Broadcasting Corporation, she said that after the program was re-broadcast on the Internet platform, the program group encountered a lot of online violence. These abuses were mostly caused by netizens' misunderstandings about whether the woman committed suicide or not.

"Every sentence has the context of the front and the back." Luo Ruiqi said, "but the netizens picked up this sentence and posted it on Weibo, and went to the host to abuse and attack."

　　Regarding the tragedy itself, Luo Ruiqi believes that "children are a subsidiary of the parent relationship." If adults are not mentally prepared to become parents, tragedy will sooner or later usher in.

In Luo Ruiqi's view, the parents in question were immature in their thoughts and feelings and kept asking their daughters, which brought greater pressure to her daughters.

"China is a country that is sympathetic." Luo Ruiqi said that the profession of mediators is not a "conciliation", but as a supplement to the law, not only to reconcile the parties, but also to "make the people aware of whether this behavior can be done."

Legal expert: company compensation is just for humanitarian reasons

　　According to media reports, according to the final agreement reached between the two parties in November 2019, the company where the deceased woman was alive paid a total of 160,000 yuan to her parents.

Zhu Wei, a legal expert and deputy director of the Communication Law Research Center of China University of Political Science and Law, told reporters from Central Taiwan that the company where the deceased woman was alive paid her parents not "compensation money", but a "compensation and condolences."

　　Zhu Wei said that if the death is caused by a work-related injury, the employer must pay compensation in accordance with the standards stipulated in the "Work Injury Insurance Regulations" and be inherited by close relatives.

However, in this incident, the female department died unexpectedly outside the scope of work, and the company gave more "humanitarian-based compensation condolences."

"The specific amount of compensation is negotiated by both parties." Zhu Wei said that the parents' negotiation requirements for the company and the company's non-compensation are the rights of both parties.

Psychologist: The parents were very wrong when they were paid

　　The well-known psychologist Wu Zhihong said in an interview with the central station’s Yangguang reporter: “They (the girl’s parents) finally got the money. In fact, this is a big mistake!” Wu Zhihong believes that the deceased woman’s parents may be unpaid. For good influence, what should be done is for the society or the judiciary to "very clearly" tell them "you are wrong" and "you should bear the greatest responsibility" and punish them.

　　For those who also feel the pressure from their native family, Wu Zhihong suggested that when victims are trapped in a vicious circle, they need to use public opinion and other social forces to cut off the "blood-sucking" hand extended to them by their parents.

This "cutting off" helps the self to gain liberation while also alerting the family.

Wu Zhihong said that if you are really unable to change, you should seek the help of professionals such as psychologists if necessary. It is also very necessary to receive psychiatric medication when depression is severe.

　　Headquarters Yangguang reporter丨Wang Xian