Learning to shut up is also a kind of kindness

Data map: The picture shows the sunset scenery of Qianzi Mountain.

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　　China News Service, Beijing, August 26 (Reporter Xing Rui) Have you ever seen such a person: they always like to point fingers and make irresponsible remarks about other people's lives.

When you see a friend buying a brand-name bag, you accuse others of worshipping money; when you see a colleague get a promotion and a salary increase, you guess that someone is a "connected household"; when you see someone shopping around for things, you will laugh at others for being stingy...

　　They are accustomed to use their own standards to measure everything around them, as if they are always right and always sober.

However, there are no two identical leaves in the world, your ideas may not always be right, and others may not always be wrong.

　　As the saying goes: "Sit in meditation and think about your past, don't talk about others' faults." Sometimes learning to shut up is a form of self-cultivation, a pattern, and a kind of kindness.

Data map: The picture shows Xiamei Village in Wuyi Mountain, Fujian Province.

Photo by Wang Dongming

Don't persuade others to be kind

　　I once saw such a piece of news on the Internet: a woman stumbled all the way to the bus, and got up after several falls.

After getting into the car, the woman's face was flushed with tears in her eyes.

　　According to media reports, the woman had just finished the hanging injection in the hospital because of physical discomfort. In order not to be deducted from the 300 yuan attendance bonus, she had to keep going to work even when she was sick.

　　The woman's experience resonated with many netizens, but at the same time, some netizens criticized her for "don't want to die if you want money", "can work hard for 300 yuan"...

　　I don't know how this woman will feel when she sees these cold words.

But if it wasn't for life, who would drag the sick body to persist like this?

　　The novel "The Great Gatsby" has this sentence: "Whenever you want to criticize others, remember that not all people in the world have the advantages that you have."

　　Indeed, not all people are born with a golden spoon, and some people have to work hard to live.

Sometimes, a quick talk can cause irreparable harm to others.

Data map: The picture shows the picturesque scenery of Qilian in summer.

Photo by Zhao Haimei

you are not a fish, how to know the joy of fish

　　There is a saying in "Zhuangzi Autumn Water": "A child is not a fish, so how can you know the joy of a fish." In life, everyone has their own way of living and choices.

As the saying goes: "Arsenic for you, honey for the other", different people will have different views on the same thing from different angles.

　　Tang Taizong once asked the prime minister Xu Jingzong: "Manchu civil and military officials, you are the most worthy. But there are still people who keep talking about your faults in front of me, why is this?"

　　Xu Jingzong replied: "Spring rain is as precious as oil, farmers love it because it nourishes the crops, but pedestrians hate it because it makes the road muddy and difficult to walk; the autumn moon shines like a bright mirror in all directions, talented and beautiful people appreciate the moon, Reciting poetry and writing poems, but thieves hate it, for fear of showing their ugly deeds. The omnipotent God cannot satisfy everyone, let alone me as an ordinary person?”

　　Differences in positions lead to different views on the same thing.

Sometimes, it is difficult for us to judge the right or wrong of a certain point of view, and it is irresponsible to define a person or a thing without knowing the whole picture.

A truly wise person is someone who knows how to shut up.

Data map: The picture shows Changji, Xinjiang.

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A good word is warm in three winters, but a bad word hurts in June

　　To this day, the death of Liu Xuezhou, a young man looking for relatives, still makes many people feel sad, and his desperate suicide has once again made us see the terrible maliciousness of the Internet.

　　He was sold by his biological parents since he was a child, his adoptive parents died unexpectedly, and he was bullied at school... When he was deceived again and again by life, this fifteen-year-old boy smiled and faced with a smile, like a grass growing in the cracks. Tenaciously grow toward a ray of sunshine.

　　However, when Liu Xuezhou finally succeeded in meeting his biological parents, a story that should have ended in comedy ended in tragedy.

　　Prompted by a series of misunderstandings and poor communication, the overwhelming abuses and attacks on the Internet mercilessly rushed towards Liu Xuezhou, who was physically and mentally exhausted, becoming the last straw that overwhelmed him!

　　"Bad words hurt people in June cold", for this young man who has nothing, the warmth from strangers may have made up for the shortcomings in his life, but the fact is exactly the opposite.

　　When we are accustomed to being invisible behind the screen and enjoying the freedom brought by the Internet, have we ever considered that our intentional or unintentional speech may affect the fate of others.

　　Dislike or disapproval is certainly a right, but it is also a kind of kindness not to vent your emotions before the truth is revealed.

　　Hemingway once said: "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us sixty years to learn to shut up." Everyone is an independent individual and is destined to experience a different destiny. What you do is focus on managing your own life.

Even if you don't feel the same way, don't hurt people with harsh words.

Sometimes learning to shut up is also a kind of kindness.

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