How do you deal with your child's awkward situations in front of strangers?

Shaimaa Abdullah

Exposure to embarrassing situations with children is a must. In the course of her long experience with motherhood, she is not exposed to embarrassing situations with her children, whether in the context of family relationships, street or public places, and many who resort to violence to react to child restraint , And others consider ignorance is the strongest weapon in the face of those positions, but always remains the child is the victor, even if his mother believed that the strongest.

Between comedy and embarrassment and what people think of "no education," the children's positions are summarized in one of the groups of mothers. One of them writes about her child, a few months old, who never likes to eat a certain kind of cheese. As she sits with her neighbor and tells about it, I was surprised that her child eats cheese and fights with the neighbor's child, because he ate the last piece. "I found myself unable to respond. I just complained about his weak appetite."

Mirror behavior of parents
The most disturbing thing to mothers is that the mother is described as a failure to raise her child and teach him good behavior, and even attributed any inappropriate behavior of the child, claiming that children do not lie and imitate the parents innocently and unconsciously.

The food has many stances, whether with the family or in restaurants, other than the nuisance that occurs in restaurants while trying to feed, entertain and calm the child, as well as the child's attitudes with strangers inside the restaurant laughable most of the time, tells Nessma Mahmoud about her child who did not learn from Speaking only one sentence, he repeats it in all situations "Tzzik", and when entered the restaurant and asked her worker for her request, her child's answer was faster than "Tzik Vick."

As a child, they are used to the stomach loudly, and do not forget to call themselves health and wellness, and are subject to the views of rejection and disgust of the surrounding, as if it was the conduct of this inappropriate.

At a time when women are courteous and courteous, the children present them with embarrassing situations, as happened with Manal and her four-year-old daughter. When she visited her family in one of Egypt's most famous restaurants, she was surprised to tell the owner of the restaurant her mother's complaint about the crowd. It's crowded, its smell is outrageous and the food is bad. "

The positions of crying mothers embarrassed

"In the market I stopped to buy a few fresh home and vegetable orders. I picked up tomatoes carefully, so one of the ladies surprised me by asking her: Is not the person standing there your baby?" "She turned to my son to find him undressed and remained dancing in the middle of the store in front of everyone," says Shaima. She was unable to speak from the surprise, only to help her baby wear his clothes and slip out of the market.

One of the mothers - through a women's group via Facebook - said that she convinced her child that this product was to protect against sweating. What the child would only have to bring A sanitary napkin from the mother's room while visiting a guest suffering from excessive sweating.

7 steps to face embarrassing situations
"We are dealing with a child, everyone knows, and everyone has children and knows how embarrassing parents are, but there are only some caveats. Which you should be careful when dealing with your children:

1 - You must abide by the truth and explanation for children no matter how difficult it is, and just find the appropriate formula for that, according to their age.

2 - Use stories and videos that explain the embarrassing situations that others are exposed to because of their children, and to provide children in a simplified manner, and you only see that some of these stories put parents in difficult situations, and show the children themselves in a bad image and because they are good to maintain the behavior Always good.

3 - There are conversations that should not go before the children, especially differences husbands, and talk about relatives and friends, so that children do not repeat those conversations to hear others at the earliest opportunity.

4 - Never compare your children to others, whether it is a comparison of behavior or talent and individual abilities, because this will make you vulnerable to constant provocation of them, you only support and appreciation, and accept their failures.

5 - Always be an example, your good behavior throughout the day, do not feel your child that we are acting in front of strangers, but make good behavior usually daily automatic.

6 - Do not be too upset to take your child to eat outside the house, but dealing with the situation simply and fun, not all children's actions embarrassing, it may be sometimes in our appreciation of attitudes, and exaggerate in assessing the behavior of the child and the look of others to us.

Just remember that we do not aim to please the surroundings, just as we raise healthy children, gently embrace your child and whisper in his ear by directing him to proper behavior, a better reaction than using violence to discipline a child .