Couples without sex, more common than it seems?

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We can learn a lot about love by understanding why

when they no longer share

It is an uncomfortable and often silenced reality, above all because of the value that our culture places

Paradoxically, in a society where a

and forms of bonding proliferates, it seems that it is still difficult for us to accept that

can be satisfied and even

But what do we understand as a couple without sex?

A standard definition could be that couple who, in absolute terms, do not have sex or have

Behind a couple without sex there are different reasons and contexts.

Although in this definition we would leave out those people who,

or limitations, are prevented from having sex (for example, a couple where one of the members has been left in a coma after

or a couple where one of the members is going through degenerative diseases such as Alzheimer's).

Just as people can have sex for a variety of reasons, they also choose

for many different reasons.

More time together, less sex, and other reasons

For example, it is common for couples to have

The frequency of sexual encounters is generally much higher at the beginning of the relationship, that is, in the phase of falling in

where intensity and idealization set the pace.

When the infatuation phase ends, couples may notice different experiences.

The first, a loss of fascination for the other, but

The second, a loss of physical attraction towards the partner, although

persists as a need or a motivation that can be fulfilled by the partner, either partially or totally.

Yet another experience, the

due to situations associated

age, the arrival of children, biological changes or the onset of a disease, but the physical attraction towards the partner continues.

The last one,

they disappear because the couple, for different reasons,

(for example, bad communication, infidelity,

different interests, loss of the common life project, contrary values ​​or lack of trust).

Not having sex is not equal to asexuality

Considering the previous scenarios, we can point out how

with a partner

related to a

towards it.

Nor to a question that must be reduced

or whether we are facing a mature relationship.

Adults can even compensate for this absence of sex by positively valuing other needs that are covered:

status, emotional well-being or stability.

Does this mean that these people

or have become asexual?

No not at all.

Although asexuality may explain why some couples are not interested in erotic activity, this does not mean that all couples who forego sex do so because they are not interested in such contact or because it aversions them.

Love, much more than passion

tends to be considered

as an irrational force, as the element that ignites and maintains relationships.

Evidence of physical attraction, the search for pleasure and

But love is not only built with desire.

Apart from the

the one that has been fattening the Hollywood industry for years and, more recently, the successful Turkish soap operas, love needs a strong and shared commitment, a high level of communication and, of course, trust, respect and honesty

The effort

to procure these elements must be

As we have already repeated on other occasions, it is difficult for a relationship to be healthy and satisfactory when reciprocity is dispensed with, when only one of the parties of the couple maintains an interest in caring for the bond.

in the absence or infrequency of erotic encounters.

Giving greater value to sexuality and

is a relatively recent change.

There is

greater acceptance of diversity, less fear or sexual prejudice.

Inalienable eroticism?

As

in our society has been redefined, separating itself from the reproductive function and distancing itself from adjectives such as 'dirty', 'immodest' or 'immoral', its

Therefore, it is essential that in the absence of sex, we ask ourselves why we feel bad and

Laziness as opposed to sexual initiative (and variety), giving priority to activities that do not require effort or the lack of time in the face of marathon work days can make

but it is a necessary element for the well-being of the couple.

If

is turning your

my recommendation is clear: don't settle and go for

The fullness with the other drinks from many sources and for some people, eroticism is an inalienable.

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