Why does N. no longer want to oversee a project with me?
We have always worked together successfully.
C. no longer understands his small office world.
N. now prefers to work with P. or T.
Too bad.
Ursula Kals
Editor in business, responsible for "Youth writes".
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At the weekend, C's daughter is visiting, who fearlessly asserts herself in the academic world and solves the riddle in no time at all: "Tell me, you write project reports, dossiers, and they go to the board?
With authorship in alphabetical order?” Then it dawned on the father.
N. wants to be first, N. wants to shine, N. wants to be in the lead.
That doesn't work with a partner who is named first, and he always plays second fiddle.
tutoring from daughter
The daughter is well acquainted with this from the competitive everyday university life, but she also knows the fair procedures in which the employee who has done the most part in the work is named first.
All others who only “teamed” are listed either alphabetically or in order of their share.
"Let me guess," she asks, "he only works with colleagues who come after him in the alphabet?" Her father nods.
Now the daughter's curiosity is aroused and she asks uncomfortable questions: "Tell me, who will present the results in a large group?
Who speaks first, who interrupts often, who never writes minutes?
Let me guess!” The scales fell from the father's eyes.
N. does not feel valued and is now playing out his scheming side.
Wasn't N's voice heard recently, rambling something about "unfortunately, the colleague isn't here, I'm happy to take on your case", although the colleague was only in the canteen and by no means on a business trip?
And wasn't it N. who only showed the documents for the further training after the registration deadline had expired and allegedly overlooked them, but disappeared into the seminar in a good mood himself?
C. finally got it, coached by his daughter.
An X for a U can no longer be fooled.