Rayden: "Men are still emotionally irresponsible brats"

The first thing you notice when picking up The approach of the cactus woman and the red man (Sum of letters) is a red cross that crosses the name Rayden. As if David Martinez...

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The first thing you notice when picking up

The approach of the cactus woman and the red man

(Sum of letters) is a red cross that crosses the name

Rayden

As if

David Martínez Álvarez

(Alcalá de Henares, 1985), in his first experience in the novel, had wanted to settle accounts with his past with his first and last names, without rapper nicknames, as he already did in the poems of he.

This is my way of killing the character, of declaring my intentions, of throwing that person aside

," he acknowledges as the sunbeams illuminate his face.

Because each of the characters in this love story, dotted with songs, is "the representation of an edge" of the author.

A slab that fades into the familiar, the social and the intimate.

From the "disused term" of his surnames to "distrust" as a shield.

Why does everyone in this novel deny the figure of the father? Every time you are not in your life, you have to get away from what is safe, from the concept of home and, taking it to the animal, from the protection of the father or from the mother.

Each one has his way to get away and know what he has come into the world for.

This is an X-ray of absent parents because some present are even more absent than those you have seen in your life. Do you want to say something to your father? It is true that with my son I do things differently and I don't have that relationship so upright, but I'm not looking to run away from my father.

Now I am the father of a son with emotional intelligence and that success is his and mine for creating spaces to express himself.

When you start to validate his emotions, he doesn't look at you with shame and when he cries he doesn't feel like he has to stop... I don't know, I learn a lot from him.

Have we men learned to educate our children? Each generation educates their children better, our parents did not know how to say sorry or please, it was all 'because I said so' and 'don't cry like a girl'.

Now it has changed, and more in men, because we have realized that they interrupted our connection with our sensitivity and made us defective.

As if by being vulnerable, empathetic or innocent, life was going to devour you. Have we been irresponsible emotional brats? Yes, and we continue to be, even though we have moments of lucidity, repeating old patterns and wanting to import our past experiences into new relationships.

We have an insecurity that has formed monsters, but now we chase them with torches. I feel that you seek to redeem yourself with this novel. Each person who writes a story,

he wants to free himself from weights and stones.

Without grudges, I have shed my baggage, such as breaking with the concept of home, forgiving people who have stayed behind in the past, and even forgiving myself. Does that include learning to love yourself? One way to redeem yourself is to learn to love yourself and leave to whip himself with the whip.

I have whipped myself all my life because I am a very reflective person and I always look for the reason for things and in the last three years I have understood that not all things have it.

Now I leave the whip for big occasions.

I cannot be a narcissist and seek meaning in what has no reason to exist. When and why did this change? It seems that saying it now is fashionable but therapy helped me to see patterns that I repeated since I was little due to an anxious attachment and for lack of affection