How to educate the "bear parents" behind the bear children
Hu Xinhong
Recently, an online video showed that at noon on May 1, a naughty little boy punched and kicked the screen at the end of the main film in a cinema in Dongguan. No parents stepped forward to stop him during the whole process.
After the theater called the police, after various investigations, the police have contacted the guardian of the child involved, and are currently actively guiding both the theater and the child guardian to properly resolve the problem through legal procedures.
This is not the first time that the bear kid kicked the screen bad.
During the National Day in 2020, a bear kid in Haikou kicked the movie theater screen when he was watching a movie, which once aroused heated discussions.
After negotiation, the parents of the child compensated more than 20,000 yuan.
Not far from Yin Jian, another incident of a bear kid kicking the screen broke. The public condemned the parents for their negligence in discipline and should compensate the theater for the loss.
The "Civil Code" stipulates that "If a person without or with limited capacity for civil conduct causes damage to others, the guardian shall bear tort liability. If the guardian fulfills his guardianship duties, his tort liability can be reduced." The guardian must compensate for damage to the screen when the child damages the screen. Corresponding loss, this is a natural reason.
How to prevent incidents like "bear kids kicking the screen" from happening again is a topic worth pondering.
The author believes that in addition to dealing with compensation matters in accordance with laws and regulations, parents’ educational concepts should also be corrected.
Regrettably, in reality, many parents do not know how to teach their children, and regard unprincipled indulgence to their children as respect for individuality.
Not long ago, the media exposed the incident of "Bear parents blocking the hotel floor drain and letting children play in the water". It was a typical example: In a resort hotel in Sanya, Hainan, a guest blocked the floor drain in the room in order to let the child play in the house. Indoor water storage.
What is even more incredible is that the waiter was discouraged and complained by the customer, who was despised by the entire network.
"Utter children are like killing children." Parents' words and deeds often have an immeasurable impact on children's growth.
In a sense, "bear" is one of the children's nature. "Bear" itself is not terrible. What's terrible is that because there is no guidance and education, children are only left with "bear".
Nature is not individuality, and letting it go is not just letting it go. Nature should be in line with nature, in line with the true, good and beautiful heart, while individuality coexists with good and bad, and needs to get rid of the waste.
Some parents regard their children's disturbance as a trivial matter, and often use "he or she is just a child" as an excuse.
As everyone knows, there are both good and evil sides in children's nature, and how "evil" the child can be with the indulgence of parents.
Unconditional satisfaction, bottomless indulgence, and unethical tolerance can easily give birth to "little devil" and "little overlord", which will inevitably deprive themselves and their family in the end.
In reality, there are countless lessons that bear children have escalated from "pranks" to crimes.
Raising children is the responsibility of parents, and raising a good child is also the responsibility of parents.
In this world, there are no good children for no reason, and no bear children for no reason.
As a parent, don’t take ignorance as a personality.
Respect the child's nature instead of letting the child's personality, guide the child to understand the basic principles of being a person and doing things, this is the real way of nurturing.
Parents must be liable for compensation if the bear kid kicks the screen badly, but if you don’t remember the lesson deeply and let the child liberate the “nature” anytime and anywhere, the parents may pay a higher price next time.
In this sense, accountability in accordance with the law is only the starting point for solving the problem, and education of "bear parents" is the key.
Comics/Chen Bin