Chinanews client, Beijing, March 23 (Reporter Ren Siyu) Many people are familiar with Chen Luyu. It started with the "Luyu Have a Date" hosted by her. In the show, she is friendly and has no sense of distance. Luyu is in the eyes of friends. There are some contradictory overlaps: life seems to be casual, but it has always had its own rhythm and a very firm self-identity.
Recently, at the premiere of Chen Luyu’s new book "Still Believe", Lu Yu talked with host Yang Lan, actor Ke Lan, Wuhan University teacher and debater Chen Mingchang about life stories, and discussed with readers about self-discipline, workplace, age anxiety And other topics.
Lu Yu also personally refuted the rumor that she "only ate three grains of rice", "It was all harmed by these friends such as Ke Lan and Wen Tao. Obviously, this is impossible."
Chen Luyu.
Photo courtesy of New Classical Culture.
Don't doubt yourself
In the BBC documentary "Impression of the Countess", British national treasure actress Maggie Smith, who is over eighty years old, was asked a question: "What would it be if I said a word to myself when I was young?"
She replied: "When in doubt, don't (when you feel doubt, don't)." Lu Yu was deeply moved by this sentence and regarded it as the English name of the new book.
If you leave this question to Luyu, she will say to her 20-year-old: "I think you are very cute, you don't have to worry about a round face."
At that time, Lu Yu had just started an internship at a TV station. Yang Lan and other hosts were already famous. She would often care about her round face, "This seems to be a very inconspicuous thing, but I think this is how every girl is growing up. There must be some confusion about appearance in the process."
But not long ago, she saw those old photos while recording the show and suddenly felt very cute. If she knew this, she would be more comfortable and enjoy the moment.
"So the same reason can be proved. I think I will feel good when I look back at myself today in 20 years."
Photo courtesy of New Classical Culture.
These mental journeys about growth were also written in her new book "Still Believe."
In an audio column titled "Encounter Lu Xiaopang", many young people asked Lu Yu: Can we live alone?
How do social fear patients socialize?
Which career do you like or be good at?
How do women face the anxiety caused by age?
Do you want to marry someone you don’t love for stability?
In the face of these confusions, Lu Yu took the initiative to share her own growth story and life experience. She talked about her childhood, her friends around her, and the various interviewees. There is not much truth in the book, and they are all small things worthy of fun. story.
Regarding the current anxiety of young people, Lu Yu said that young people in different periods will encounter the same problems. When the ability is not enough to carry the dream, the collision will produce a kind of anxiety.
And people in this era will have more ways to express their anxiety and share them with others, so the response will be greater.
"The process of human growth is to constantly solve problems, and then encounter new problems. This is life."
The so-called "Rumors" is not true
At the event, the guests gave two important suggestions to newcomers in the workplace: self-discipline and persistence.
Lu Yu once said, “I have encountered a lot of such cruel characters along the way. They are all gods and they are extremely self-disciplined. According to my standards in different periods, they are also extremely good. Of course, they are not only excellent because of self-discipline. , But one of the costs of excellence must be self-discipline."
Speaking of self-discipline, Ke Lan was deeply impressed by Lu Yu's insistence on being thin many years ago. She ridiculed her always eating a few pieces of rice when she ate. Lu Yu also shared a very funny experience:
Once in a bookstore, she was queuing to buy books when she suddenly heard two salespersons discussing "Did you know? Chen Luyu only eats 3 grains of rice a day". The two sang a harmony, and even the details of eating only 1 grain per meal, Dai Wearing a mask, Lu Yu almost “exposed” himself by swiping a credit card.
Lu Yu said with a smile that the rumors of rice grains that did not exceed double digits in the arena were all "harmed" by these friends such as Ke Lan and Wen Tao. Obviously, this is impossible.
"If this is the case, it would be nice to find one day every year and eat up the whole year's rice. Why do you work so hard for every decimeter of rice?"
"Still Believe" three-dimensional cover.
Photo courtesy of New Classical Culture.
Yang Lan said that Lu Yu’s particularly lovely part is that she never held it up and was able to be herself very truthfully. In the eyes of her friends, Lu Yu has a slight alienation, and at the same time she has a real and grounded attitude towards life. Observed.
At the event, several guests shared their thoughts during the epidemic. For example, Yang Lan’s daughter stayed up late and secretly made her a birthday cake, which made her cry. Lu Yu also talked about her own changes. After experiencing the epidemic, those who would have ignored them. The fragments of life, warm and kindness of life will make people deeply moved.
No anxiety about age
From 2002 to the present, "A Treaty in Luyu" has gone through nearly two decades. In Luyu's view, it means "the time and place are favorable, and the outside world allows you to do it, so you can keep doing it. If the external conditions are not available, Persistence is meaningless."
In addition to more than 10,000 interview subjects, she also has some regrets that she has not interviewed.
Lu Yu said frankly that he has always admired legendary women and was very curious about them, "I always wondered what would I ask if I could interview Diana? I also particularly like Sanmao and Zhang Ailing, including Baihui Yamaguchi. If I have a chance, I One question I really want to ask is do you regret it? Especially after they have made a particularly critical decision in their lives, have they ever regretted it."
Chen Luyu.
Photo courtesy of New Classical Culture.
In the new book "Still Believe", Lu Yu received a lot of questions about women and age, and she had to rethink these questions, who didn't care and were not bound.
At the event, Yang Lan raised a question that many women would ask when she interviewed: Would you like to return to the age of 18?
She said that she was confused about what she wanted to do and what life she wanted, and she didn't want to go back to such an anxious era.
Lu Yu said that he did not want to go back to the past not because of anxiety, but because he had no control over fate at that time.
She once met a 60-year-old entertainment reporter abroad. "She made me understand that if you want to, you can still be in an industry that others think is a young person at the age of 60 or 70. There is nothing wrong with it."
It is necessary to admit that getting old is not a particularly pleasant process, but different ages will encounter different scenery. In Luyu's view, the age number has nothing to do with him. The so-called post-70s, post-80s, and post-90s are actually artificially added. The label, this boundary is not important and should not be constrained.
In the book, she writes frankly that she will be 50 years old when the new book is published.
At the time of writing that article, Lu Yu's team was planning a show called "20, 30, 40". She often joked. If you don't do this show, you can't do it because she has already passed the 40 option.
She remembered going to interview Qin Yi once. The 95-year-old Qin Yi looked like 60 years old, or even better. “After the interview, I felt more firmly that age is a number and it doesn’t explain anything. When someone asks you How old is it? When you can answer "I'm 90', it's really cool. I look forward to that moment."
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