It is now a habit when he makes love with his partner, Yohan feels spied on by his dog, always present during their sexual intercourse. The young man therefore wonders if it is normal for his partner to accept that their dog looks at them in these moments of intimacy. On Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and psychologist in Paris Catherine Blanc brings her elements of response in the program Sans Rendez-vous on Europe 1, Friday.
Yohan's question
"Often when we make love with my partner, the dog stays in the room. It doesn't seem to bother her but I do. She refuses to lock up her dog. What should we do to avoid a separation? "
Catherine Blanc's response
"For an animal, we make fun of what is going on in its head. The fact is that we bring a third party into the relationship with which we have, in addition, a real bond of affection. even a real exchange link, even if he doesn't speak. He occupies a real place, with a territory which is his. But that raises the question of why she absolutely wants to keep this dog in the room. "
Why doesn't she take him out?
"We can imagine a lot of things. Maybe she leaves him or he will scratch at the door. Maybe because she is afraid to abandon him. So we can imagine that if this couple had a child, the child would also be there.
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Yohan's reaction depends on what this dog means to him. If he takes it as a child, it's normal to have this reaction. As if there was a cot in the room. It is not conceivable for him and, as such, it is completely admissible. "
Should Yohan draw this parallel with his partner?
"Yes, absolutely. He can say to his partner: 'Tomorrow we have a child, he will also be in the room. If you are afraid that he will cry, not to hear him when he is in his, Will you always take it with you? So we won't make love if I don't want to do it with the baby present? Or will we do it in front of our baby who will be exposed to something that doesn't concern him? ""
But shouldn't Yohan ask an ultimatum: is it the dog or me?
"Everyone has their own modesty. Some people want to share their sexuality only with their partner. With a dog next to it, it's not like having sex in nature and there are birds around you. dog is your pet, it is part of the family and we have affection. Like a child. So if it does not suit one of the two partners, we put the dog in another room. Yohan’s case, his partner will then have the time to find his dog, cuddle him and give him food. But now is the time for love and there is no need to have this dog if it is disturbing for one of the two. "