Couples who come to couples therapy, requesting the activation of their desire, are usually surprised when I invite them to schedule sexual encounters. "But if that's something you can't force," they argue.
"Of course," I reply, "never force, but you can provide the appropriate circumstances for the encounter," I inform them. "Because if you do not organize, you will think that fate will offer you the ideal moment, but it never comes," says the therapist. Planning it can be as real, satisfying, and fiery as any spontaneous sexual encounter.