"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams": can the famous quote from the former American First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt satisfy Céline, who never ceases to dream of a man she has never never conquered since the start of containment? However, his awakenings are as disappointing as his nights are rich, and this listener confides to depress a little in front of this shift. In the show Without appointment on Europe 1, Monday afternoon, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc answers him.
Céline's question
"At the moment, I have very pleasant dreams, mainly with a man I like. With him, nothing has happened in reality. These dreams are extremely disappointing when I wake up, as I believed it. confinement is going pretty well, but those dreams are depressing me. What do you think? "
Catherine Blanc's response
"First, maybe Celine was not attentive at other times, or in a less recurrent way. Dreams can be extremely real, we can really have reactions of fear, cold, intense enjoyment. We are very much confronted with a bodily reality. Our body participates in all of our emotions which play out in the staging of our dreams, orchestrated by our unconscious. It is quite classic, we can live them all. let's wake up in time before we die, for example. We make cold sweats or endless delights.
There is a dichotomy between her days of confinement which go very well, in which she seems to be in comfort, and her nights of enjoyment, as if waking up was the acceptance of the frustration accentuated by the state of confinement. Obviously, one can ask the question of whether confinement allows her all the sexual freedoms that she would not allow herself in normal times. That may be what is at stake.
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She is in an extremely erotic situation because in her daily life, she would forbid it. There, as there is no possibility of acting out, there are all the freedoms, all the doors that open. Perhaps confinement fulfills its usual prohibition: it is confinement that says stop, and therefore it opens wonderful windows during its nights. Except that when she wakes up, she is in frustration with the lag.
Is it premonitory? Should she send a message to this man?
"It is always difficult to make out the premonitory and what is not. It is premonitory of his desire, in any case. She is animated by desire for this man, by desire quite simply which arises because he is the man who caught her eye perhaps before confinement or who represents enough things that are personal or familiar to her that she projected that desire.
Even if she presented herself to him, she could feed eroticism a little more or be in the meeting of frustration even more, because she would see no echo there. In any case, it tells of his desire which needs to authorize itself; perhaps has long been prohibited, limited or inhibited. The confinement made him want to open the window of that desire. "