No motorcade, no reception, no groomsmen and bridesmaids, small and beautiful weddings are favored

"Three Nos Wedding" is simple but not simple

　　Our reporter Liu Bing

　　The so-called "three-no wedding" generally refers to no motorcade, no reception, no best man and bridesmaid, and even a simple wedding banquet without a master of ceremonies. Everything is simple, and it is also called a minimalist wedding. In recent years, with the continuous changes in social concepts, young people's requirements for weddings are also changing. The new wedding format of "Three Nos" wedding is gradually gaining favor among the younger generation.

"Three-Nothing Weddings" Become Popular

　　Xiao Chen and Xiao Zheng, who were working in Beijing, returned to their hometown of Hanzhong, Shaanxi Province, and invited relatives and friends to hold a wedding. But this time the two held a minimalist wedding.

　　Xiao Chen told reporters that he and Xiao Zheng are from the same hometown and classmates, and they have been childhood sweethearts since they were young. "There is no need to make it so complicated. Over the years, I have attended some friends' weddings, listened to the same lines of the emcee, and had similar food and wine. I just wanted to treat them at home. Cook some home-cooked food to entertain everyone. After all, your life is your own, and you don’t have to follow the procedures according to other people’s expectations.”

　　Xiao Zheng also agrees with the benefits of minimalist weddings. She said that it felt good to have no marriage troubles and no time pressure. "We don't have a preset pick-up session, so we can put on makeup quietly without causing a storm in the city, and there may be traffic jams on the way." In Xiao Zhang's view, there are many advantages to the "three-no wedding": there is no emcee, and the whole scene is completely dependent on the wedding. Hosting it yourself makes the wedding more comfortable, and there are no sensational and tear-jerking scenes to avoid embarrassment.

　　Xiao Sheng, a Hangzhou citizen who got married during the National Day in 2023, told reporters that she also chose a "three-no wedding". During the vacation, Xiaosheng and her husband traveled and got married, and traveled to many places in Yunnan and Guangxi to enjoy life. "After we returned from our trip, we held a very small thank you banquet at our home for some relatives and friends. Our friends were very envious of our wedding style."

　　The reporter learned that in recent years, the number of young people choosing minimalist weddings has begun to increase. They decline groomsmen and bridesmaids, delete lengthy ceremonies, and pay more attention to their own feelings. Recently, a newlywed couple in Hunan gave a speech by themselves. After the groom said a few simple words, he ended the ceremony with the words "Let's open the banquet." The minimalist process makes it particularly comfortable for many young people to watch, and the video has also become popular on social media.

Wedding ceremony "subtraction" is popular

　　Marriage is a major event in life. With the improvement of living conditions, why are minimalist weddings becoming more and more popular?

　　First, minimalist weddings reduce costs. In recent years, wedding costs have been rising steadily, becoming a considerable expense for many families. The reporter learned that in Xiao Chen’s hometown of rural Shaanxi, the general cost of a wedding is more than 100,000 yuan.

　　Secondly, if the wedding process is too cumbersome and complicated, it may make young couples feel stressed. A minimalist wedding not only saves money, but also saves time and effort. "I saw that my classmates who got married before took less than half a year to prepare for the wedding. Wedding photography, venue selection, wedding planning and other preparations were very busy." Xiao Sheng told reporters.

　　Xiao Chen told reporters that in his hometown, some wedding procedures were very cumbersome, which was the direct reason why he chose a minimalist wedding. "In our place, some couples often don't have a whole meal at their wedding banquets, and they often ask for drinks. Basically, the groom will get drunk. In addition, there will be a wedding ceremony and all kinds of tricks to tease the groom, which makes people very tired. Both my partner and I are very tired. He is someone who likes quiet."

　　Nowadays, more and more young people are beginning to take the initiative in their own weddings. Compared with their own feelings, they are not as concerned about the opinions of their relatives, friends and outsiders as before. Professor Chen Zhongyun of China University of Political Science and Law believes that more and more young people do not want to be involved in the assembly-line wedding process, and are more willing to give up some "ostentation" and hold a wedding that is truly for themselves to pursue the joy of self-recognition. and a sense of ritual. "In this context, the 'Three No Weddings' came into being, providing them with a brand new choice."

Weddings become small and beautiful

　　The simplicity of the "three-no wedding" attracts more and more young people who are preparing to get married. However, many young people, while subtracting from the cumbersome wedding ceremonies in the past, strive to make their weddings small and beautiful, simple but not simple.

　　Xiao Chen told reporters that they plan to use the money saved to travel, get married and buy new furniture. "We plan to take our parents on a trip to Chengdu and Sanya, Hainan in the first month of the year to express our filial piety. They have not been to these places yet and have little travel experience. Being together as a family is the best ceremony."

　　Xiao Sheng believes that despite the name "Three Wus", her wedding is full of love and a powerful expression of values. "I was inspired by Xiaohongshu and chose to organize a wedding according to my own feelings. I think the formalism of blocking the door was replaced by taking a group photo with friends; the old rules of toasting were replaced by playing poker and drinking tea in my own courtyard. , and it feels good. Moreover, only close friends and relatives are invited to the wedding, so you can refuse to be watched by unfamiliar people." Xiao Sheng spent her energy on organizing photo albums and videos of her husband's wedding trip and past exchanges, and she already considered herself an editor. A master of video.

　　According to market analyst Liu Huan, it is natural for wedding forms to continue to change with the times. "In the 1980s, 'three turns and one ring', star hotels in the 1990s focused on ostentation, and 21st-century weddings are characterized by individuality. Nowadays, many young people do not like to be obsessed with grandeur, but focus on details to make weddings small and precise. . This should inspire wedding companies on how to plan more simple but novel wedding ceremonies in order to reverse the gradual shrinking of the market."

　　Chen Zhongyun believes that although the "three-no wedding" caters to the demands of young people, it may also face certain controversies and challenges, such as the disapproval of elders and gossip from relatives and friends. This means that if the "Three No Weddings" want to be truly barrier-free, they still have to face some difficulties. For young people, while challenging the secular world, they must also communicate seriously with each other, and also require the understanding and tolerance of their elders, relatives and friends, and seek a balance between their own demands and the demands of their elders, relatives and friends.

　　"Worker Daily" (page 03, April 6, 2024)