There is a Qingming Festival every year, and a memorial day every year.
Do you have anything to say?
Didn't you have time to say it to those who have passed away?
If I could say something to the person who passed away,
What do you most want to say to TA?
01
What does it feel like to lose a loved one?
In a picture circulated on the Internet, a student wrote in his composition:
"I found that my eyes can hold everything, except tears. There are more people in my grandma's house, and there are more portraits of grandma, but my grandma's house is missing my grandma."
——Many people came to grandma’s house, but grandma was missing.
Image source: Weibo screenshot
In the movie "Goodbye, Li Cola", Li Yan had no expression on her face when she closed her account for her deceased father, as if she had accepted the fact.
But when I saw my father's ID card being cut open, I realized that
there really was no such person in the world.
Image source: Movie screenshot
On weekdays, you work hard and constantly enrich yourself, but you may have neglected your loved ones around you intentionally or unintentionally. But as long as your loved ones are there, you will feel an inexplicable sense of security.
When one day you look back and want to see your loved one, he has already disappeared. No one will ask you "when will you go home" anymore, and no one will nag you in your ear. Discover that he has always been by your side to accompany you.
But now, I can no longer experience it...
When I was a child, I didn’t understand the true meaning of Qingming Festival. That’s because our closest relatives are always waiting by our side.
We grow up day by day, and there are fewer and fewer elders. After many years, only memories are left, and we truly understand the meaning of reunion and separation.
The departure of loved ones is not a temporary heavy rain, but a lifetime of humidity. Those accustomed moments are the past that can never be returned.
Only those who have experienced life, separation and death will know how to love and cherish.
"Qingming Festival helps us learn to grow."
02
It is said in the movie "Coco" that a person will die three times in his life:
The first time is when your breathing stops and your vital signs completely disappear - this is biological death;
The second time is during the funeral, when your identity will be erased from the world - this is death in a social sense;
The third time is the death of the last person who remembers you in this world - this moment will be the real death, and you will completely disappear from this world...
Therefore,
the best way to commemorate a person who has passed away is to remember him.
While all festivals are defined by words like joy, gathering, and perfection, only Qingming is about death and sorrow.
Zengzi said: "If you pursue your goals with caution, the people's virtue will be strong."
Qingming Festival is the most important custom of the Chinese people. On this day, wanderers return to their hometowns, weed and sweep the graves of their ancestors, place offerings, and whisper their longing for their loved ones.
"Qingming Festival gives lovesickness the most solemn sense of ritual."
Data map: Citizens pay homage to their ancestors. Photo by China News Service reporter Li Zhihua
03
Tomb Sweeping Day is not only a festival, but also a solar term.
"Everything growing at this time is clean and bright. That's why it's called Qingming."
Qingming is a time for deep affection and reminiscence, as well as a time when the sky is clear and the air is clear, and people can go out and find spring.
For farmers, this is a good time
for spring plowing, spring planting, and spring management
, so there is a saying that "before and after the Qingming Festival, plant melons and beans."
Customs on this day include offering sacrifices and sweeping tombs, as well as
spring outings, planting willows, flying kites, planting trees, and eating green balls
.
The reincarnation of the four seasons begins with spring, and the reincarnation of life begins with love. Death is the end of life and the beginning of another reincarnation.
So,
after mourning, life must go on.
While remembering our ancestors, it is also a time to revere life.
Cherish the good times now, cherish the relatives and friends in front of you, and cherish everything you have. Living a good life is the best memorial to an old friend.
"The true meaning of Qingming Festival is not only to not forget, but also to cherish."
April 4th, Qingming Festival,
It’s the green grass again in spring, and it’s Qingming Festival again,
Who are you missing at this moment?
What do you want to say to him?
The dead are gone, and so are the living.
Light the candle below,
Let us send a bright light to our loved ones in heaven,
May they never be sad again,
I also hope that you and I will live up to the present moment and be happy for the rest of our lives!
Source: China News Service WeChat official account
Author: Liang Jing