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From Seneca to our grandmothers, great minds never tire of emphasizing the importance of being grateful.
But between sandpaper napkins with their "thank you for visiting" and donating half a million dollars to renovate the north wing of the university library because your stupid son miraculously passed Financial Analysis II, there is a universe of ways. to show our gratitude.
Good will is often not enough and, even if your heart is in the right place, a little
practical guide
never hurts to say thank you and look as good as possible.
You have been invited to a party where you have met the next new love of your life.
How to thank your hostess?
You have received a magnum of Bollinger at the office from a client.
What price should a gift correspond to?
You have a quick dinner at home and the attendees bring such a good mood that the night becomes memorable.
Should the one who invites and pays also thank the
guests
?
Below, the whens, the hows and the whos to unravel the tangled skein of perfect gratitude.
When?
Always.
If Seneca catches you more out of hand, she thinks of your grandmother and hers "to be well born is to be grateful."
This is the typical example of a social occasion in which
going overboard
is preferable to falling short, because you will look better thanking someone who was not expecting it than leaving an innocent soul waiting for your thanks.
There are times when there is no doubt.
Playing the obvious, we can quote the co-worker who
takes you a coffee
from the machine because you haven't got change;
to the mother who waits with her son and yours at the after-school door because you arrive 10 minutes late or to the stranger who lets you pass in front of you at the supermarket checkout when you are full of things because, again, you were just going to for a loaf of bread, but the purchase has gotten out of hand.
On the other hand, if you find yourself in a situation in which you are not very clear, the Protocol expert's advice is
not to be shy
with the word thank you.
Your image and your personal brand will be strengthened but, in addition, you will put karma a little more on your side.
'Win-win situation'.
Of course, we are going to do it well.
Who?
Certainly, when you are the recipient of someone's attention.
If you are invited to a dinner, you have to say thank you as soon as you receive the invitation, you have to say thank you when you leave the dinner and, rounding off the move, the next day you have to send a little
detail
to the person who invited you to accompany your words with actions.
What if you are the one who invites?
You can be inspired by the great ladies of the 18th century, sitting at their desk writing notes of thanks to their friends who have accepted their invitation to have tea, or you can send a voice audio to the small group of friends for having stopped by the house to have some white hair.
The important thing is to emphasize that not only the guests at an event should say thank you.
Even if you are the one who invites
, and who pays, your guests have shown up with a big smile where you have summoned them, at the time you have told them to and they have stopped doing other things to accompany you.
And that deserves a thank you.
As?
The word 'thank you' should always be loaded with honesty and truth, with emotion but without going overboard if you don't want to end up like the brand new winners of a Goya when they turn down the microphone and turn up the music to cut short the endless thank you speech.
If you want to accompany the word thank you with a fact that supports it, you can send a detail to the person you want to thank.
Whether it is a detail or a detail depends on you and your circumstances, but there are factors that can help you decide.
Protocol recommends
not talking about money
on social occasions, but we are in trust, right?
Well let's go there.
Before taking the Visa out for a walk, give yourself a second of peace to remember that this gift is to thank someone for something and not to overwhelm the aforementioned person.
At the risk of being annoying, I emphasize again that good will may not be our best advisor and sending a Rolex Daytona to someone who has invited us to breakfast may not be the best idea.
Maybe we make that someone feel uncomfortable.
Maybe I could even consider it in bad taste.
And at the end of the maybes, there goes your good will disguised as bribery... upppss!
But what then?
So, protocol
golden ratio
.
If they invite you to breakfast, thank them by inviting them to breakfast.
If they send you flowers, put them in water and say thank you by sending a similar bouquet.
If a friend compliments you, respond with another.
Do you see Phidias smiling?
Sometimes proportionality can get complicated.
Let's say you are invited to a wedding, but you have been happily married for twenty-something years.
Or to a coming-out when you are considering being a fetish lady and leaving your gray hair.
Turning back the clock is, at the moment, impossible no matter how refined and wonderful we are.
To respond in these cases, it is necessary to think in microeconomic terms and make an estimate of the approximate investment that the host has undertaken to invite us to that event and make an income that, at least,
covers expenses
.
The room for improvement responds to factors such as, for example, greater or lesser proximity to the hosts.
And here, fortunately, is the accelerated microeconomics class because I am going to quote our grandmothers again, an infinite well of wisdom, remembering that there are three words that hold the secret to opening the doors of success: "please"
and " thank you"
.
But, above all, the latter must be applied well for it to be true.
By the way... THANK YOU, Grandma.