Cristina Galafate
Updated Tuesday, March 5, 2024-15:58
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The
Gen Z
or postmillennial psychologist
María Gómez
(Santander, September 29, 1997) recognizes that, in some environments, she finds it difficult to be taken seriously.
Not so on all social media platforms, from TikTok to Instagram to YouTube.
Under the alias
@merigopsico
she accumulates
followers by the thousands
and turns important topics into
viral
ones in just two minutes.
Now he turns to paper, where he can expand, in
Good Company
.
How to understand yourself well to relate better
(Ed. Topics of today), with illustrations by La Prados and a prologue by the
podcaster
-like her- Molo Cebrián, from
Understand your mind
.
A good example of her art to combine science and
mainstream
culture to
understand human beings
.
Because she cites a study on behaviorism and the renowned sociologist Zygmunt Bauman who uses stanzas from
Sakura
by Rosalía or
Perra
by Rigoberta Bandini.
The point is to approach the new generations to understand who we are and how to be happy in a fast-paced society.
"Every day young people, and I include myself, do an
infinite
scroll on our screen that works by
intermittent reinforcement
, like slot machines. All the time you are thinking what is next. And even more serious is the infinite comparison that
undermines your self-esteem
without that you realize with always perfect houses, lives and plans," he explains.
MENTAL HEALTH ON SOCIAL NETWORKS
The young psychologist triumphs in social networks.JAVIER BARBANCHO
The most important thing for her is self-care and good values.
"Mental health is no longer taboo thanks to our generation, which expresses itself freely on social networks. But sometimes we go to the other extreme and
pathologize
our emotions. Almost without feeling, we already want to give them an explanation."
The key is to keep functioning despite being sad.
"Maybe you're just arguing with someone you care about and it's not a toxic dependency. You don't have to put a
limiting label
on everything that happens in everyday life."
Psychological therapy is more effective than drugs, he says in the book.
"Medication is a patch on so much demand, because most people do not have access to private therapy and there are not enough professionals available in public," she criticizes.
With this he does not blame the individual, because he insists that we are social beings: "My focus is
myself, others and the world
. I find it very useful to see what things are in your power and you can change, which ones do not depend on you and take away "that responsibility depends on how the system is set up".
DEFENDER OF DOUBT
He advocates building a
more critical mindset
.
"The self-help genre is very controversial because it aims to give you an infallible method to be happy that forgets everything around us."
The constant state of well-being is a trap, she says.
"You have to go through that envy or that death of a loved one. There is no universal magic recipe that I tell you so that you can achieve it."
Even she has fallen, she confesses.
"During the race, the typical 5 in the morning Club
comes to mind
, where everything is solved by waking up at dawn to meditate. And it was said by a person who worked at home, of course. Let's see who can maintain that! routine!", he laughs out loud.
In the same way that we all have a soccer coach inside us, Gómez thinks that
we are all potential psychologists
.
"There is a lot of quackery and that is not something that happens with other sciences. You can speak from your personal experience, but on social networks the conversations become very reductionist and can be misinterpreted."
That's why he feels every message he sends as a responsibility.
"Movies and songs should be used much more in education to motivate students."
She is excited that people who don't read buy her book.
"I want
to show the grays
, without saying how you have to think or what you have to do. It seems that you have to position yourself the second something happens and that the more negative and drastic you are, the better."
The worst thing about networks is the
anonymity
and the feeling that anything goes, he says.
"I use the metaphor of cars: you shout at yourself because there is that barrier and you say things to the driver that you would never expose to the driver's face."
To try to understand, rather than justify, she thinks about how bad she must be.
"I value the curiosity and humility of not knowing in a world where doubt is not allowed."
ANXIETY AND HOPELESSNESS
She recommends meditation to calm anxiety, although she herself finds it difficult because she seems very mystical.
"At a scientific level, the benefits of
stopping and breathing
have already been demonstrated . It says a lot about us as a society that we are not able to sit down because our work world is merged with the personal world and with the mobile phone. It is sad that it is utopian to remain in the present moment ".
We tend to think that any time in the past was better.
We are in full nostalgia recovering classics.
"Young people today have uncertainty and hopelessness. We did not imagine this present, but with life very much done."
Networks of friends and family are essential to understanding that we are not alone.
"
Life cannot be reduced only to work.
They tell us that we can't put up with anything, but we are putting our priorities where they have to be. And I'm glad that we don't put up with things that we don't have to put up with."
The good company is published by Temas de hoy and you can buy it here