Chiara MaffiolettiCorriere della Sera
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Updated Monday, February 5, 2024-21:33
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To know someone you have to go beyond their facade. Even when that façade is so bright that it dazzles, so sumptuous that it intimidates, so perfected that it seems false. Judging
Paris Hilton
, the heiress of all heiresses, the blonde party girl who loved (loves) sequins, the color pink and Chihuahuas, is quite tempting. And, for this reason, the model (and singer, actress, businesswoman, stylist, DJ, philanthropist and
influencer
), about to turn 43, has decided to give herself the best possible gift that
an adult woman
can give herself : giving herself a voice. A surprisingly honest voice with which she narrates her life in
her autobiography Paris.The Memoir
.
The desire to go beyond what has been repeated a thousand times is evident from the first pages of the book:
Paris.The Memoir
is the makeup-free version of Paris Hilton, full of revelations and some very painful memories that explain who she really is. the great-granddaughter of Conrad Hilton, the founder of the famous luxury hotel chain that bears his surname. There is an idea that soon emerges before the reader clearly:
the great party of Paris Hilton's life was a response to the suffering and discomfort in which she grew up
. Hilton writes patiently about ADHD, the behavioral disorder she was only diagnosed with when she was an adult. "Should we accept who we are or die trying to be someone else?" she asks in her book. And then she writes: "Fuck the adaptation."
It's not a slogan, but the most reasonable response Hilton came to after feeling deeply misunderstood, even in her own family. A family that, "for her sake," she took away from her when she was little. One night, she was taken away from home by two men who entered her room.
Paris thought it was a kidnapping
but those men were carrying out the orders of her parents, who attended the scene without intervening. Her destiny was a kind of farm-sect created with the aim of
"taming" the most rebellious teenagers
. From Hilton's description, it looked more like a concentration camp than a summer camp. There, the pampered heiress suffered very serious harassment and humiliation and she frequented a dark room in which the most undisciplined children were stripped naked, isolated and kept under observation. Hilton says her experience left a mark on her.
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His escape attempts are told without euphemisms but also without rhetoric, as is the harassment he has faced over the years. Including that of Harvey Weinstein, as revealed by
Paris. The Memoir
. Hilton writes about
the "horribly wonderful" kiss
from the teacher she had a crush on when she was 13. "I never allowed myself to talk, or even think about what that kiss really was... It took me decades to use the right word: pedophile," she reads in her autobiography.
It takes courage to write such an honest and powerful book. What prompted you to share such intimate and painful moments in your life? The media has always controlled the narrative of my life. I felt like it was time to get my voice back, that I could finally do it. The other motivation was to help other people who have had similar experiences to mine and to use my voice and all my channels to shed light on important topics. By sharing these vulnerable moments in my life, I wanted the whole world to know the real me and contribute to a positive change in the world. Regarding the diagnosis of ADHD, do you say that it was a kind of liberation for you after years in which She felt "different," "wrong." My book includes a quote from Dr. Edward Hallowell: he states that the ADHD brain is like a Ferrari with bicycle brakes. A powerful machine, but difficult to control. My ADHD made me the person I am, so I've learned to treat it like a superpower. It has unleashed a lot of creativity and helped me succeed in many areas of my life, from being CEO of my own company to being a wife and mother.
Paris Hilton, in 2022.RICK KERNGETTY
However, that sense of feeling misunderstood continues to surface in Hilton's book, even among the people dear to the author. The passages about the center to which he was sent give goosebumps. How did he digest that? When I look back, I realize that I was like any other girl who wanted to enjoy her youth and, at the same time, tried find out who he really was. The difference was that I had the world watching me and the tabloids reporting my every move. It is clear that he does not want to be cruel to his family, in the book he worries about what his mother will think when reading his memoirs and he treats her very kindly. tenderness. How is this possible after everything that has happened? Has she forgiven them? My family and I have always been very close. Deep down, they always wanted the best for me, they wanted to protect me. In the new season of my show,
Paris in Love
, we share many aspects of the process of working on forgiveness and, even more importantly, about my recovery. All steps that will lead to our closer relationship, eventually. He has fans all over the world. But how much do you think they really know about you, deep down? Throughout my career I have always tried to create a real connection with my fans around the world, it has been something very important to me. If there was someone who always made the effort to understand me and love me for who I am, it was the fans. From the beginning. Now, since the release of my show and my memoir, people come up to me and tell me that something new has opened their eyes to who I really am. Many also identify with the experience I tell and that moves me a lot. I played the dumb blonde, I made it my character on
Simple Life
[the first
reality show
about his life], I used it and exploited it, it was a kind of brand. But in reality I'm not a dumb blonde, I've just faked it well. Today she presents herself as a winner, a woman who has managed to succeed in very different worlds. Did she foresee herself feeling this way 20 years ago? I have had a very full life and I am grateful for all the love and opportunities I have received. I believe that people love you for who you are and that is why we should live authentically and never let anyone dull our shine. I also have some advice for everyone: be kind, because the world could use that. Kindness is what the world needs most. The book insists on that a lot, it says that you are doing a lot of your part to make the world a better place. Are you feeling optimistic? For example with the situation of women? I hope to continue changing the world through my work. I am very attentive to the status of women and always try to defend them, but, above all, I do my best to remind them to be the bosses that I know they are. For me, right now, I'm focusing on raising my family and trying to fulfill all of my passions and desires. But I do it because I am very convinced that women can have it all. She says that her husband was the first person who made the effort to really understand her, to enter into "the crazy whirlwind" of her life. Now they are parents. What is the family you have formed like? Motherhood has been one of the experiences that has changed my life. I was lucky: I was able to carry a fairy tale to the end. Becoming a mother opened my eyes to a love I never knew existed. Carter is the most devoted and loving husband imaginable. And together we had Phoenix Barron and London Marilyn, our beautiful and intelligent children. We couldn't be happier. In her autobiography she talks about her last name. "I'm a Hilton and that's a huge weight. Here I am, I admit how lucky I am, okay? My last name has been defined as 'American royalty'. I'm not going to relativize the incredible privilege I've had. I'm grateful for everything," he writes. Is the last name Hilton still important in your life today? I have always admired my grandfather. He taught me a lot about business ethics and hard work. I am very honored to be able to continue his legacy as a successful entrepreneur and to do so in many different industries. Today I am a CEO, DJ, writer, philanthropist, as well as a wife and mother. I will continue to use my voice and all my tools to inspire, help and make a positive and lasting impact on the world.
"I was born with great privilege and live an extraordinary life... I had to leave all that behind, this book is my way of looking through the mirror," Hilton writes. "Every year that passes
I care less and less whether other people love me, hate me, adore me or ignore me
. And it's strange, because it seems like I can understand people better." So, after about 10 lives lived and countless years of analysis, Hilton's vision begins to become clear: "I know that we are supposed to turn the negative things that happen to us into positive ones. It's nonsense. A heart attack does not save our lives. Cancer is not a gift. Whoever raped you did not make you better. Bad things are bad, there is no need to think about it any further. If you have discovered in them some form of strength or of wisdom seems great to me, but you should know that that strength has come from you, that it was there all the time.