- Patri Psychologist "The best advice to live with serenity is to stop running everywhere"
- Psychology Face your fears from bravery
There are more ghosts within us than real threats. What happens is that, many times, these fears paralyze us. According to Patricia Ramírez (Zaragoza, 1971), known as Patri Psychologist, if we find the origin of our fears it will be easier to solve them. "We cannot remain in the present with the fears of the past, which are often based on very protective parents. Unless we have had a very traumatic experience, we are not limited by the environment or circumstances, but most of the time it is due to our catastrophic interpretation of danger," he explains.
Phobias do not have a genetic basis, says the specialist, but are learned. "If you've seen your mother get on a chair and get paralyzed when she sees a cockroach, you think it's dangerous and terrible. You get scared of him. "We have many fears that we have taken in childhood by observation or what we are told. If they're alerting us to how bad people are, we don't want to relate to other people anymore." But not all fears are irrational. "Many warn us of a danger, we will have to see if that danger is real."
DESENSITIZATION
Aerophobia or fear of flying is together with agoraphobia, the feeling of anxiety about the possibility of not being able to escape a crowd, and claustrophobia, terror of closed spaces, the three most repeated responses by the population regarding their fears in a study of the Rescue brand.
To overcome fears, the psychologist relies on systematic desensitization (SD), a technique aimed at reducing anxiety responses and avoidance motor behaviors to certain stimuli. "You have to approach fear little by little with tools." Overcoming fear will depend on how emotional the person is. "One will get on the plane after a meditation that calms him down and another reading more information about aeronautics and statistics, because he is more rational, and thus feels more confident," he exemplifies.
Shock therapy, such as parachuting if we fear heights, may be too much, according to the psychologist. "If you face from the trauma, like a child with fear of swimming who is thrown into the sea to learn, it can generate a fear for life, because it paralyzes him and then it will be worse. That's why I'm not in favor of these therapies, I prefer to face fear from a safer and more approximate way, little by little, getting used to less stressful stimuli until the fear goes away."
THE 6 SOLUTIONS
Patri Psychologist explains the world of phobias, why and how to deal with them. EM
FEARS AT DIFFERENT STAGES
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- What do we do with parents' fears in the face of countless dangers? "Talk, talk and talk. Give them confidence. Try to tell you things and understand them with a lot of patience, without making value judgments. If we call them unconscious and immature, which is true because their brain is not formed, we are labeling them, the person feels bad and will not trust you."
- Low self-esteem also makes us feel more insecure in life. "You have to see why, if it is a physical issue or that you do not feel capable due to lack of resources. After analyzing it in depth, teach the person to find their talent and passions, to speak better to themselves."
- Imposter syndrome comes when you do not think you deserve the success you have or you believe that what you do does not have the value to be recognized so much. "You start thinking you'll be discovered and they'll realize you're a fraud. The problem is that who succeeds is usually because they dedicate themselves to their talent, it comes easy and does not give it value, but others do not see it as simple and they are going to give it to them. "
- Before a punctual attack of anxiety if you can not manage the situation, you have to sit down to breathe. "I tell my mind I'm going to let him be. It can be prevented with meditation exercises and managing the thoughts that you can't solve, observing them and leaving them there because they don't depend on me."
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