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Dr.

(Barcelona, ​​October 18, 1980), doctor in Psychology

with 20 years of experience

has earned her fame -and

on Instagram- her fame as a great communicator and disseminator in the field of

.

She is the queen of

: agile and eminently practical.

Hence her faithful community with more than 279,000 followers.

"I try to reach as many people as possible by offering solutions."

Aware that self-help books are less and less liked because "there are too many,

", he takes advantage of their practicality to expand a little more at the hands of Ed. Planeta.

In

A fictional character named after his eight-year-old daughter, Carla, offers psychological tools to get to know oneself in depth, value oneself, and lead a life more in line with one's desires.

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"How bad is the world" or "People are terrible!"

It is an increasingly widespread comment in society after the pandemic.

What's happening to us?

Why have we burned so much? Ha-ha-ha [emphasizes], I laugh at the assumption that we are going to come out better.

The coronavirus has turned the entire planet upside down.

The uncertainty and the feeling that everything was in danger has left us all with a feeling that this is over, that perhaps it catches you with the game halfway through and you without moving the game pieces.

Without going into political evaluations, the panorama is unfortunate: war, inflation, the economic crisis that is to come, the price of electricity and gas... More and more disturbing information reaches us and people are feeling bad.

Worries.

The pandemic has suddenly put all the social unrest on the table.

People need a brutal arsenal of tools to better manage their emotions. Have you been surprised by the enormous success of their advice on social networks? The positive thing in all this is how they have brought psychology closer to the general population.

People who had never considered how their mental health was, when suffering these consequences, have considered how important it is to have good relationships, feel better in their skins and with good self-esteem.

Many people live satisfied with the life they have.

Then it turns out they hate their job.

And what do they do?

Nothing.

They can't stand their partner either.

They hate each other, they don't talk or have relationships.

And there we continue.

It seems horrible to me.

When you are not satisfied with certain areas of your life, it is you who has the responsibility to do something about it.

There is beginning to be a movement so that work does not define us as beings.

In the United States, the Great Resignation or Great Resignation is a trend in Human Resources.

Even work that may seem more attractive from the outside has complaints.

Many people feel undervalued, poorly paid... What happens? Many companies have leaders who do not positively reinforce the work of the employee and the salaries are very low.

People feel exploited.

The problem is not only in the attitude of the worker, who is burned out and focuses too much on the complaint instead of what he could do to improve his work situation.

Companies also have to take care of the most emotional part of their workers.

I was recently surprised when a 26-year-old patient who has changed his position for the better told me that his new boss was pure inspiration and was delighted with the company, because it is not usual in a practice.

They have agreements with gyms and paddle tennis courts, they have raised the daily menu check to 11 euros because it was not enough in the surrounding restaurants... In short, they take care of their workers.

And they go with a smile.

The relationships established in the work environment must be satisfactory and this must be promoted from above.

The company has a lot to do. Why do we have good advice for everyone except ourselves? We are the ones who talk to ourselves the worst and the main thing is to realize it.

That training goes through awareness.

When you realize that you address yourself as "ridiculous", "it's that you're not worth anything", "you're not good for this"... Think: "I would say this as it is to the person I love the most ?".

I'm sure you wouldn't criticize a mother or a daughter for such a harsh defect.

Are we not the person with whom we are going to spend the most time in our lives?

Shouldn't we be the most important?

Do we deserve this treatment? Is the consumption of anxiolytics normalizing in Spain? I think so since we are leaders in their consumption.

It is cheaper to prescribe a Trankimazin or a Diazepan to the population than 15 sessions of psychotherapy.

Given the lack of resources, although it is a pity, it is a fact.

Mental health is light years away from being seen with the importance of other physical pathologies such as cancer."

You have to try to ask yourself the right questions to try to see that situation in a kinder way.

What would you say to your friend to make him feel better?

Has the conception of the psychologist as that character who listens to problems and gives sermons changed? Absolutely.

The pandemic has valued the professionals that many saw as jack-of-all-trades, charlatans, motorcycle sellers... We have the prestige that we should have as professionals in a science that is Psychology.

It has made many people feel that their suffering is solvable and has made them more proactive.

The knowledge that has been poured into networks has caused many people to open their eyes and work on it.

In his book he details the technique of the five steps of DZurilla and Goldfried.

Can it be applied to any problem? I can't make ends meet.

I don't talk to my daughter.

My friends don't call me to go out.

The first thing is to try to focus on what depends on us, instead of wasting energy on what depends on the circumstances.

The five steps are

1. Define the problem.

Writing what worries us is therapeutic and we process the information better.

2. Come up with all the possible solutions that come to mind.

Even if they seem silly to us.

You have to be creative.

3. Evaluate pros and cons of each of the solutions.

4. Execute the solution that I think is more valid for me.

5. Check if the problem has been resolved.

And if it hasn't, I reformulate the problem and rewrite the different phases, discarding the one that hasn't worked. He says that being happy is urgent.

But negative emotions invade us.

Perhaps serenity is more necessary? For me it is the same.

Each one has its definition.

Some people think that being happy is always being happy, happy and laughing.

Being at peace of mind is synonymous with happiness in my case.

There cannot be one without the other.

Being happy is having feelings of well-being most of the time. Another source of blockage comes from expectations.

How can you lower the bar or how to realize that no matter how hard we try we will necessarily achieve our goals? Perhaps the goal is not the goal, but to show ourselves that we are capable of working towards that goal.

The process instead of the result.

There are very high goals, such as getting out of the firefighter exam.

You may study like crazy, prepare for physical tests conscientiously, show up twice, three, five times.

And you quit because you don't get it.

Nothing happens.

There are thousands of things that can be done in life.

If you have not achieved your dream you are not a failure.

The goal is also to enjoy the road.

And if you have left your skin and have done everything that depended on you to achieve it with perseverance and discipline, you already have to feel proud.

Believe me, if you have spent energy fighting for five years, you may not be a firefighter but you can do many other things. Perhaps the goals that fail the most are the January resolutions.

Why do we leave them for the 7th, after the roscón, and forget them on the 15th (being optimistic)? A tremendous mistake is to set eight different goals.

It's frankly difficult not to lose motivation.

His thing is to mark two or three in writing, to remember, in his own handwriting, and leave them in a visible place to have a constant reminder.

An infallible trick is to monitor at least weekly if we are heading towards that goal or running aground.

If I want to do CrossFit three times a week, I write it down and put it on the fridge.

If in February I see that I haven't signed up yet, that should encourage me to call now and get going by seeing the facilities.

But society does not want to exert itself.

All that requires an investment of time and money is a: "Oh, I have so many things to do ahead of me...".

It must be clear that if you put aside your goals you are also giving up your well-being, your happiness and your self-esteem is affected.

That has to encourage me to call now and get going by seeing the facilities.

But society does not want to exert itself.

All that requires an investment of time and money is a: "Oh, I have so many things to do ahead of me...".

It must be clear that if you put aside your goals you are also giving up your well-being, your happiness and your self-esteem is affected.

That has to encourage me to call now and get going by seeing the facilities.

But society does not want to exert itself.

All that requires an investment of time and money is a: "Oh, I have so many things to do ahead of me...".

It must be clear that if you put aside your goals you are also giving up your well-being, your happiness and your self-esteem is affected.

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