Instead of rewarding the child with money or things directly, give him a chance to play a small supermarket game.
This is an "open" award, and the outcome is fraught with uncertainty.
And this uncertainty is the source of the fun.
Recently, a third-grade elementary school student in Zhengzhou, Henan has become the envy of many children.
Because he usually studies very seriously and has good test scores, his father rewarded him for 60 seconds of casual shopping in the supermarket.
The child took a lot of snacks that he usually likes to eat, and found it very fun and happy.
It cost less than 300 yuan at the final checkout.
Seeing such a special reward, the first reaction of most people is, how interesting!
Netizens also said, "This is great!" "The happiness of children is so simple." But many people expressed their opposition, thinking that "this kind of family education is not worth advocating" because "the use of material temptation will lead to Make children's learning purpose impure."
How to reward children is of course a topic worthy of discussion.
However, this special reward is just a small fragment of the life of the father and son. Only from this small fragment, we cannot deduce how the father and son get along with each other and how the father educates the child. It is even more impossible to sum up his educational methods.
Just seeing a detail of other people's life, it is a bit arbitrary to assert that "this kind of family education is not worth advocating".
What needs to be clarified is that as long as it is a material reward, it must be wrong?
The answer is definitely not.
Now it is the end of the year, and many units will give out year-end bonuses to employees. So, will someone call for the year-end bonus to be replaced with spiritual rewards?
I'm afraid not.
Why do some people resist material rewards when it comes to children?
On the Internet, there are indeed many people writing articles to remind parents not to give their children material rewards.
However, if you know what it is, you must also know why it is. It does not mean that material rewards are completely undesirable, but that parents cannot rely on material rewards and ignore the role of spiritual rewards.
From the perspective of reward psychology, rewards must achieve the purpose of motivation, and diversification can be effective, not static.
If the same reward method is used for a long time, the rewardee may become more and more indifferent.
This is also the reason why "rewarding supermarket shopping for 60 seconds" caught our eyes, because "one trick" attracted us all.
For children, such a fresh reward method is full of motivation, exciting and proud.
In fact, the reason why this reward attracts attention lies in its fun.
When it comes to shopping in a supermarket, many people may think of a variety show.
This program also gave the participating guests a certain amount of time, allowing them to shop freely in the supermarket and take away as much as they bought. The ratings of the program were once very high.
I don’t know if the father in Zhengzhou has watched similar programs, but he is obviously very game-oriented. Instead of rewarding the child with money or things directly, he gave him a chance to play a small game in the supermarket.
This is an "open" award, and the outcome is fraught with uncertainty.
And this uncertainty is the source of the fun.
Life cannot be less interesting.
As the father said, wanting the child to relax and encourage him.
In the heavy study and work, only those who know how to make life interesting can go further.
Blindly sticking to the strings and rigid dogma, even if you can memorize all the famous sentences in pedagogy, I am afraid that you may not be able to teach children well.
We often say that life is a long-distance race.
Since it's a long-distance run, you need to gather your strength and learn to appreciate the scenery along the way instead of moving forward with your head covered.
Is it not a kind of wisdom in life to live life with gusto?
This kind of wisdom is itself a good education.
Why do some netizens want to be picky and insist on family education in their own way?
Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News special commentator Tu Turong