Life partners for how long the challenge?

Dr..

Yousef al-Sharif

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December 22, 2022

I often wonder: How long will the tug-of-war between men and women last?

Will it last forever?!

Or will the day come when we reconcile with ourselves and with others, whether we are men or women, and know what the differences are between us, and at the same time get to know the nature of the other party, and the way we deal with each other, according to our different psychological and sexual nature and makeup?!

Here I am talking about the relationship of a man with a woman as life partners, living under one roof, and they are supposed to have a relationship based on love, affection and compassion, but unfortunately there is a permanent state of challenge and tug of war that overwhelms both parties, and an attempt to prove oneself and who has control, or in other words who He can break the head of the other first, and impose control on that relationship, which also leads me to wonder: Is our human nature inborn in this relationship?

Or is there an imbalance that has occurred over time, affecting our behavior and thinking and making our relationship like this?!

Recently, we have begun to notice great challenges between men and women in the matter of self-affirmation and the imposition of control within the relationship, and we found songs urging these behaviors, and television programs calling on women to show strength and non-submission, and others responding to them from the other side, as we found publications and videos There are countless numbers that explain how the relationship between a man and a woman is conducted, and all of them call for the necessity of challenging and controlling the other party, which increased the tension in relations between life partners, and made the matter a state of permanent tension that prevails in homes, which in turn transformed our homes, Which is supposed to be a place to rest, to a gladiatorial arena, in which we fight day and night.

There is no doubt that the nature of a man is different from the nature of a woman, and each of us has his own nature, and his unique characteristics that define his personality and control his actions, so we must be certain of this matter, and measure our actions and the reactions of others against it that may contradict our desires and not be in line with what we want. We love him all the time, which will inevitably lead us to reconciliation, thinking of our relationship with life partners as a relationship based on cooperation, sharing and love, and trying to reduce the tension between us, but how do we do that and everything around us pushes us to do the opposite?

Whether it is family or community awareness messages, or what we find on social media, or even our internal beliefs, which have also become based on trying to impose control and challenge the life partner, creating problems with him, and intransigence in the relationship, we no longer seek excuses for each other, and find excuses for each other. Attempts to forgive and pardon, but we have become angry, and we fight over the big and the small, and we stand on trivial matters, so how long will we remain

So?

Are there solutions to such a problem that negatively affects our lives?!

If we go back in history to hundreds of years, or advance in the future to hundreds of years, problems between men and women will remain, and this is inevitable, but we escalate matters day after day, demand our rights at the expense of the other, and set many and many unnecessary duties We can turn a blind eye to it – on the shoulders of our partners in life, and we prejudice each other, and we fight here and there among ourselves, to impose our control on the opposite side, and on the relationship itself, and we say that the word is our word, and we turn our homes into a battlefield, for this is completely unacceptable, because we We do not want our societies to be like this, as this will make our generations move away from the institution of marriage as a whole, and find for themselves new institutions, under other names for their relationships only in an effort to escape from this conflict and these problems, and this is something I find very dangerous, and it threatens the future of our nation, and it must be stopped. , waking up from our wraps, and trying to fix things, which makes us ask a very important question to ourselves and our partnersour lives, so we say: How long will this challenge be?!

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