Sex 'Bondage' for beginners
If you have ever felt the urge to pinch a charming cheek or have hugged someone with great affection but so tightly that they scurried like a cat to catch their breath, without a doubt,
you are one more victim of the phenomenon called 'cute aggression'
, or which is the same, 'aggression before the adorable'.
This apparently contradictory aggressiveness fulfills a function that is none other than to
moderate the intensity of that emotion that overwhelms us
We usually put these behaviors into practice more times than we think, for example, with people we are very fond of, being a classic of grandmothers and grandfathers that of squeezing cheeks and giving machine gun kisses to those chubby cheeks of the little ones in the house and, sometimes, of the not so little ones.
Seeing other stimuli, such as a cute puppy, also
activates a "lovely" aggressive response, such
as hugging it irremediably, awakening a special tenderness in us.
But without a doubt, the greatest display of these
displays of explosive love
is carried out in the privacy of the couple or with those erotic playmates who make you sexually aroused.
Perhaps, we will overlook it in the meantime, but later we will find
the scratch on the back, the hand marked on his buttock or the tremendous hickey on the neck.
But these desires and behaviors seem to have a scientific explanation.
According to the psychologist specialized in neuroscience Nacho Roura, better known as @neuronacho, this would be "the
dimorphic expression of emotions,
since emotions can be expressed in many different ways."
For example, sometimes we cry when we are happy or proud, or we laugh when we feel very afraid.
Its effect would help to reach, again, an
optimal level in our body
and recover before the extreme emotional kidnapping that we are suffering.
When a person is in a stressful, high-tension situation or has made a great effort to achieve a certain goal, these manifestations are more likely to appear more easily.
Likewise, "the first neuroscience studies in the field suggest that, behind these emotions, are the brain circuits involved in emotional regulation and reward processing," says Roura, citing two studies by Professor Aragon, OR, Clark,MS Dyer,R, & Bargh,J.
or Stavropoulus, K.
& Alba, LA published in the journal Psychological Science.
some people are better at controlling their impulses and others get carried away.
However, the desire to do so seems to overwhelm all human beings.
"From an evolutionary perspective, it is proposed to help us get out of a trance that causes us very intense positive emotions, lest a tiger appear and eat us," says the expert.
And it is that distracting ourselves too much could have negative consequences for our survival of all mammals, including humans.
Ok, it may not have happened to you yet, neither as a sender nor as a receiver, but maybe the day will come when you find yourself
biting a delicious lip hard
, passionately squeezing a breast or slapping that pretty ass that looks cry out for a spanking.
Or maybe they give you one, the kind that stings, that you even have to call attention to for it.
And all this even if you do not consider yourself aggressive at all and you are clear that sadó is not for you, it can happen to you.
be careful, nobody justifies an aggression with this very human tendency,
because it shows when a 'cute aggression' enters the scene or if, on the contrary, there is an intention to harm you.
And if he discovers that you like these explosive practices of passion and excessive squeezing too much, you will have to hold back and
confirm with your bed partner if you want to receive those pinches, squeezes and hickeys
with a certain amount of added pain.
Let's never forget fair play or respect for the rules of the game.
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