Does 'fuck' mean more to a woman than to a man?

And I thought that we had left behind some topics about sexuality like that men are more prone to sporadic relationships than women or that they fuck and we make love!

But no, these beliefs continue to conquer generations and, although the discourse is one of liberation and sexual equality, there are concepts that have been burned into our hearts and, consciously or not, we continue to transmit.

Because our reason may not, but our emotion still regards them as true.

Thus, too many people continue to believe that a powder is more important for a man than for a woman.

And I'm going to tell you why.

1. The whore stigma

This label has accompanied us so much that it is difficult for us to shake it off as if it were a cojonera fly.

Hence, many continue without wanting to do it or admit that fucking is cool without thinking about whether, "this guy who turns me on so much", will still be there tomorrow.

Because looking for just a moment of shared, consented, consensual and desired pleasure is also for girls.

Hence the reappropriation of the term by some women stating, "I am a whore", to stop feeling it as an insult, turning it into an act of empowerment.

But no, you are not a whore because you want to, nor is being a prostituted woman bad.

2. The male biological imperative is a 'fake'

They are not prey to their libido, nor are they inevitably dominated by passion.

They also don't think only of "the only thing", as is cheerfully commented.

They have only believed it that way, because society has allowed and reinforced it.

"A man likes sex always, at all times and with whomever he comes within range. Owners due to the social imperative of conquest, and stressed by having to measure up. They also suffer from its stigma.

It's not just Testosterone that matters.

Beyond gender, education, attitude, context, past experiences, our interpretation and erotic growth, and many other issues, affect our desire to relate sexually.

3. Women don't need preliminaries.

Well no, but like them;

at least as we know them.

Well, preliminary sounds like prior to an end, which is usually intercourse and orgasm.

But yes, just like them, if that's how we consider those thoughts and desires for rapprochement.

Go over her entire body with our eyes, dream of kissing those lips and imagine a fiery scene with our object of desire.

Yes, because we are not going to always relegate ourselves to being just objects of desire.

Although perhaps we should reformulate the term by subjects, that we are people, regardless of gender.

We, sometimes we also come home horny, what do you think!

4. They fail more

You read right, they fail, they don't fuck.

In a casual fuck with someone virtually unknown, it is very likely that anyone, male or female, can "fail".

Although what we feel as a failure would be the most natural.

Without knowing the bodies and their erogenous points, their sexual desires and preferences, it is most likely that we will not enjoy it as much, nor will it be the best intimate encounter in history.

Moreover, if it were, perhaps it was due to many other factors, beyond genitality;

such as the bond or feeling generated, even for a little while, or the listening and respect that is offered during the relationship.

The fact is that in terms of dysfunctions, they are more evident in them.

A loss of erection of a penis, for example, is more noticeable than the absence of arousal, and its corresponding erection, of one.

5. Women are not slow

One of the issues that affects women when betting on a temporary hug, of "and if I've seen you, I don't remember";

it is the fact of believing that we are not going to enjoy it as much as them.

This not only makes us lazy but also makes us angry.

Because, let's see, if he's going to enjoy her and she isn't, I'd better not look for him and save myself that annoyance, right?

Well no.

If you feel like it, jump in because we are not slow.

Women do not have a harder time reaching orgasm than men when we stimulate ourselves or another woman does.

In fact we are faster and multi-orgasmic, if we know our body, we work on our erotica, recognizing our pleasures and strengths and we know the touches and postures that make it easier for us to reach climax.

6. They also fake orgasms

They don't come out as satisfied as we think from a punctual sexual encounter either.

In fact, they can also pretend and do it, even without you realizing it.

I know it's hard to believe because ejaculation and orgasm usually appear together, even though they are not the same phenomenon.

However, it can, especially by using a condom, which should always be used, and in this case, if the owner of the penis removes it, it is likely that the other party will not detect whether there was an orgasm or not.

And being a man, sometimes, it is taken for granted.

In any case, and for both genders, pretending is usually not beneficial, since it does not solve anything, but rather worsens the relationship.

However, in sporadic encounters that you don't like, and for this reason they may not be repeated more, you can use acting skills to avoid giving explanations to someone who neither was nor was.

7. Fear lowers libido

Another issue, which goes a long way, is that, due to the greater possibility of getting scalded in an occasional sexual encounter, we fear getting intimate with men we don't know at all.

Although the risk is also found with acquaintances, unfortunately, this fact sometimes invites us to repress our desires, so as not to be victims of sexual violence.

It is unfortunate because it is not our responsibility, but the aggressor's, but the physical and emotional risk that it entails leads us to take action on issues that should not correspond to women.

Logical that desire decreases, because terror does not combine with it.

A lot of sex education for them, so they don't have to be brave but free.

8. They also fall in love

Of course!

Let's remove mental and sexual cobwebs because they also want to bond, build a relationship, whatever it may be, love and much more.

Although sometimes you just want to enjoy and have fun.

Exactly like them.

So don't think, man, that she is doing you a favor or has fallen into your net of seduction.

Nor that sex is only for guys or that she is not a girl at all serious if she is doing the same thing as you.

ANA SIERRA

is a sexologist.

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