Why we would all want to hug Tamara Falcó now

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As if it were a delivery of 'The island of temptations', we all want to know if there are more images for her.

We want to know

and, above all, if there will finally be a wedding.

She was happy, full, brilliant.

For Tamara Falcó it was impossible to hide her excitement and enthusiasm.

Íñigo Onieva, the boy with whom she had been dating for two years, had knelt down.

"I leave worldly perfection behind for one that has much more value for me:

A union that we hope God blesses with his light and that, although it is not exempt from crosses, is built on the trust and affection that we profess in one for the other", thus announced their marriage commitment on Instagram.

She accompanied the text with an idyllic image, where she boasted of an imposing ring and an attractive lover.

It seemed that, at last, the Marchioness of Griñón was going to fulfill one of her dreams.

The impending wedding not only constituted a reaffirmation of her traditional and Christian values, it also reflected that longing to be loved, to continue enjoying what she considered a fairy tale.

What few could expect is that

The illusion was shattered and the nightmare began.

public and private

In the digital age, betrayal can hardly be isolated from impudence.

What used to stay in the strict private sphere, now has more chances of going viral and with it, of

The video where Onieva kissed another woman, just a few weeks before the request, has not left anyone indifferent.

Possibly, not so much to show the deception, but because of the management that the boy has made of it.

After all, the rumors of infidelity have been continuous since the relationship was made public.

So, from my humble point of view and that of many others, it is not so much the what that is surprising, but the how and why.

A matter of cruelty or emotional immaturity?

Certainly,

especially when said lies have an impact on the health and emotional stability of the other, as well as on the quality of the relationship.

In this act there is deliberation and perhaps very little awareness of the damage.

The lie as a way out

In addition, it is no less true because it is obvious: there are many reasons to lie after being caught red-handed.

Some seek to preserve their own ego and thereby distance themselves from our bad behavior.

That is,

or blunders.

Other reasons to lie after discovering a disloyalty try to guarantee the romantic fantasy and, consequently, the

We find here a mixture of selfishness and narcissism: we do not want to lose what we like, what is good for us;

but we act against the moral and emotional integrity of the other.

a higher being

It is a fact that Onieva has lied and that the lie, together with his infidelity, can be more than enough reason to break up a relationship.

In this behavior

what she excuses, and ultimately, what she invents.

It entails dehumanizing the other while projecting a false superiority.

It is neither ethical nor fair.

Now, regardless of whether it is something isolated or routine, there is something that deserves to be highlighted:

All with Tamara?

Perhaps that is why it is so easy to empathize with Tamara.

We all want to get into her bed, curl up with her and hug her.

When we are victims of infidelity, the hardest emotional blow is often not found in personal and public humiliation but in

Our sense of self, our identity and our self-esteem are cracking: why me? Why now? How could I not have known before?

step by step, with life.

Now it's time to give space to pain and treasure the lessons of heartbreak: not confusing past and present is the key to trusting again and loving without fear.

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