The taboo surrounding the female orgasm: "It is quite common not to reach it only with penetration"

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Orgasm and penetration constitute an

binomial

.

Now that much of the discourse on the female body is focused on "what is real" and true, on the climax there is also a melon to open.

And go melon.

The cinema, above all, has taken care of showing us heterosexual couples having intercourse with final 'mascletás' that crack the concrete.

Ladies moaning, ladies screaming, ladies enjoying themselves.

All in a few minutes (when not seconds) and through the sexual practice of penetration.

In these scenes, clitoral stimulation is usually conspicuous by its absence.

Then when you try to land that in your bedroom... it doesn't come out.

Or it comes out 'more current'.

Or she fakes it (and another thing, butterfly).

This is counted less, because the

has not been invented by Instagram with the happy photos of him, but it drags the same years as the traditional 'I eat one and I count 20'.

This verbiage was more of a masculine feud, but many times we also signed up for that car.

Whether out of modesty or posturing, the fact is that everything that surrounds

is told in petit committee, which does not favor the creation of real stories.

So today it is time to review what is true about female orgasms through intercourse, if they exist or if

what women say

MD, 32, does not have a stable partner and explains: "I do not reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation, I have to stimulate it with my fingers or with toys. Penetration for me is something pleasant but

, no other physical contact.

She acknowledges that now she can talk about real sex with her friends, but that before she was 25 another rooster sang: "Conversations on this topic were very superficial. It was like 'sex has been incredible', when it really wasn't. So You didn't have to admit that it wasn't what we were supposed to expect from it."

CL, 31 years old and with a stable partner, more or less the same: "I don't reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation, I have to stimulate it myself. I don't get it any other way," she says.

She prefers not to talk about it much with friends, so as not to fall into comparisons.

.

Finally, LS, 35, declares that it has always been very difficult for her to have orgasms with her partners, and that it is something that has happened to her very rarely.

"I have had three stable partners in my life and with two of them

. With the partner with whom I did reach it with penetration, most of the time he had to accompany me with my hands during intercourse", bill.

On the other hand,

has given him a better 'result', and he almost always reaches orgasm.

And another efficient way: "Masturbating alone I do get there, especially when I help myself with a toy," she concludes.

Six out of 10 women need direct clitoral stimulation

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, to reassure so many who think they have a problem, says: "It is

to reach orgasm just with penetration, especially when positions are performed in which there is no stimulation direct clitoral stimulation. In fact, for a large percentage of women, direct clitoral stimulation is a requirement for orgasm during intercourse."

A survey conducted by the firm to more than 4,000 participants, support it with this data:

of women need to

to reach it.

Navarro also explains that for many it is easier to achieve an orgasm in solo self-stimulation.

"

, we feel more liberated and it seems that we do not have to answer to anyone if we do not succeed. This detail and especially the fact of going directly to what we know we like, without intermediaries, makes it easier for us to relax and let us be able to develop our erotic capital more freely without fear of being judged," she says.

No, there are not two different types of orgasms

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According to the Diversual sexologist, an orgasm produced by clitoral stimulation or vaginal stimulation are

The narrative of the existence of two different types has become very obsolete and even more so the idea that if a woman did not experience both, she was incomplete.

To combat these false beliefs, Navarro is clear: "True and quality information, transmitted from an environment of

, without neglecting the importance of rigor and scientific evidence."

Ana Lombardía, an expert in wellness and sexual health at the

reiterates: "It is important to remember that orgasm

, and that it can be different practices, situations or stimulation of different parts of the body that trigger it. If a woman finds penetration very exciting and the stimulation of the G-spot is pleasurable, she can reach an orgasm. That does not mean that all women can, or should, achieve it that way. It is not better or worse to have an orgasm one way or another".

So why so much fuss about experiencing climax with penetration?

"In most cases, this

has more to do with men than with women. A lot of times men feel that if women have orgasms solely from vaginal penetration—that is, from their penis— and without clitoral stimulation involved, it's because they are better lovers,

, continues the Womanizer sexologist.

So... some pretend

According to the Diversual survey,

of women have faked an orgasm on some occasion.

And if we segment by age,

of the

year olds have faked orgasm at some point;

between

;

of those between

,

of those between

and

of those

Ana Lombardía explains that, in fact, many women fake orgasm because they feel that they are expected to climax during penetration and that it is common to think that other women can.

"Others, although they know that the most frequent thing is that women do not reach orgasm only with penetration, they also pretend so as

male partners, to appear more sexual, to try to make them want them or, simply, to avoid a difficult and uncomfortable conversation," he concludes.

But the remedy, as Rosa Navarro said, is "quality information" and self-knowledge of the female body.

"There is still a great lack of knowledge of the anatomy of one of the most important points of our pleasure: the clitoris. A lot of pedagogy is necessary, but also investment in research on sexuality," she claims.

And he explains that it was not until 1998 when Helen O'Connell described in detail the true anatomy of the clitoris.

"We are talking about an organ designed

, but which has never previously been given the attention it obviously deserves," she concludes.

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