The breakup of Shakira and Piqué: "Neither is he an old green man nor is she a selfless woman"

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Little do we know about the real reasons that have motivated the breakup between Shakira and Piqué, the protagonists of a love story that seemed perfect, indestructible, eternal.

How not to yearn for that way they had of looking at each other?

Some rumors suggest that Piqué would have been disloyal to the Colombian artist.

However, this narrative falls into the realm of speculation and clickbait.

But with or without infidelity, it is important to note the following:

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We also

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At the end of the day, the media news can be long before the lack of love experienced in the strict personal sphere and the circumstances that led to it.

What if in their apparent stability the mutual connection, the shared spark, vanished?

What if Shakira forgave and continued the relationship, despite her alleged infidelities?

What if they started living separate lives long before he was seen with someone else?

and in the eyes of others, it is very difficult to know what was the origin of the end.

Reasonable similarities

What we do know is that he has decided to rebuild his life with

, a 23-year-old public relations student who, curiously,

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This news, beyond filling endless headlines,

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Just take a look at the player's Instagram profile to find a large number of comments that, in addition to making Piqué's behavior ugly, extol the interpreter and classify Clara as a horny, as a powder, as a bad woman.

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It is evident that in this comparison there is a macho smell and a great desire to provoke a climate of animosity between one and the other,

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In these situations, where the man remakes his life before his ex, it is still believed that the self-esteem and social recognition of women depends on the physical attributes of the new partner, on their erotic potential.

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On the other hand, the defense that some fans make of Shakira highlights her role as a mother: yes, as if this condition made her superior to a girl who, for the moment, has not experienced (or does not want to experience) motherhood.

And what are you going to judge?

Added to this is the status of the man: his feelings, contradictions and decisions are simplified into an exclusively sexual interest, as if it were not possible to undo his previous relationship out of love and not simply to get laid.

But even if Piqué, at first, only had a sexual interest in Clara, what are we going to judge there?

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Also, just because he has fallen in love with another girl does not have to mean that his relationship and the feelings he has shared with Shakira over the years have been a fraud.

That sentence is truly toxic and unfair.

Secretly

Likewise, it is striking that a part of public opinion maintains that the fact that Piqué and Clara do not hide is a way of humiliating Shakira.

They impose discretion like a sanbenito, as if they had no right to live their love story in full light.

I am one of those who thinks that

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Doesn't he have the right, his current partner, to be treated as a human being, to live his experience naturally?

In a relationship, the transition to legitimacy and public acceptance needs expansion and presence, not more secrets.

But there is one more question here:

Neither relationships nor feelings are a contract for life.

That Piqué is happy with another person should not be understood as a way of belittling his previous partner.

As a society, we are more used to stories of middle-aged men who form a romantic bond with very attractive young women.

We believe that the age and beauty of 'the other' supposes a feeling of inadequacy for that woman who, until now, was the main couple.

In this context, it

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Apparently, she represents the most vulnerable part of the breakup.

Likewise, we evaluate her situation as a type of betrayal and in the face of this, a whole series of fears emerge: what if I am not reciprocated again?

Will I be able to bear another love failure?

Will I find no one to share my life with?

What if I can no longer trust anyone else?

It is obviously very human (and certainly irrational) to think about all this.

However, Shakira's pain and suffering is not the only thing she needs empathy for.

Piqué is not a repentant Romeo nor is he a dirty old man.

Shakira is not a selfless, immature and complacent woman, she knows that after a sentimental failure new opportunities open up.

Clara is not the sexy girl who seduces a happy married man.

21st century love and relationships are more complex, deeper, and transcend the old clichés.

Each individuality collides with another and the impact, there is not only an encounter, but also injury and learning.

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