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"Tuk Sik" .. Jane or victim?!
Dr..
Yousef al-Sharif
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August 24, 2022
The term “Tok Sik” has recently spread on “Social Media” and in TV series, and even in our social life, which is why I wanted to highlight it today.
A “tok-sik” or “poisonous” is a person who feeds on the harm of others, through which he satisfies his own needs and shortcomings by humiliating others, and making him feel bad about himself, so he wins over him and rises a degree, and that is only in his sick imagination.
Sometimes we meet in our lives people who make us feel bad about everything in life.. our appearance, our feelings, and ourselves in general and in general, sometimes they do this consciously, and other times unconsciously, but in the end the result remains the same, loss of self and damage that is difficult to treat in the long run, Some may even commit suicide.
The strange and unfortunate thing is that these “tok-siks” do not even appreciate the amount of harm they cause to those around them, they are always right, and they do not do anything wrong, and whatever result the person who deals with them has reached in terms of harm, he is the one who did it himself. They may even justify their actions by saying that he really deserved what he got.
This category of people may have studied or read a lot in psychology books and reading body language, so that they can manipulate their victims with all merit. He knows very well the extent of his ability and its negative impact on him.
Sam does not rise or feel his self-worth except by despising others, belittling them, and insulting them in any way whatsoever, and often, but mostly, indirect and dark ways. It may be evidence or argument for them later, they just put poison in honey, but we are not children, and even children feel and understand when they are abused, even if that abuse is indirect.
Many believe that "toxic" is a person who has already been harmed, and from his great suffering, he turned into a violent personality, pouring his anger and what happened to others around him, until he feels some strength and control in his life that he could not control when he was weak - from his point of view - So is the person with such thinking that we can think of him as a victim or as a perpetrator, and we treat him according to this logic, so that we do not hold him accountable for his actions, behavior and harm towards others?
Or do we charge him with accusations that cause frustration and destruction to those around him, and perhaps make them commit suicide because of his bullying and his stubbornness?!
In the end, my advice to you, the strength is within you, no one can really hurt you, as long as you know your worth, what you deserve, what you should expect from the person you are dealing with, and what he should give you.
And remember: “No one will be able to break you, unless you show your weakness in front of them.”
A “tok-sik” or poisonous person is a person who feeds on the harm of others, through which he satisfies his own needs and shortcomings by humiliating others and making them feel bad about themselves.
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