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We disobey the couple

Dr..

Ahmed bin Abdulaziz Al-Haddad

August 12 2022

Islamic law has taken great care in stabilizing marital life.

Urging good relations, enjoining mutual rights, urging mutual charity, praising stewardship, recommending women...etc. to achieve family stability, which is basically built on the principle of affection and mercy.

However, if the marriage contract stumbles, and it is the stage that the wise legislator called “Nushus,” meaning exaltation, arrogance, turning away, inclination, and deviation from the truth, as the people of interpretation said, this stage is very dangerous, and it may be a reason for separation;

Therefore, I needed another method of treatment, starting with preaching, as Glory be to Him: {And a woman feared from her, as a result or a period of time, so there is no righteousness to them, for the husband, that is, from the husband, and that is the one who is good.

The woman must strive for reconciliation so that married life returns to friendship and mercy;

Because reconciliation is good, i.e. its outcome is good, the husband may see his mistake in disobedience and return to friendship and love.

{And those who are afraid of their eruptions, so they preach, and they will be immortalized in the beds, and they will leave them.

It is exhortation, i.e., encouragement of what God Almighty has prepared for righteous and obedient wives of reward, and intimidation with what God Almighty has prepared for disobedient women of great burden and punishment. For the wife in her bed, i.e. her sleeping bed, by turning his back on her, or withdrawing from her bed, or whatever he deems appropriate for her situation, this may prompt her to think about returning to the right path, and leaving defiance if she has a desire for married life. The husband can move to the stage that may suit some wives who do not benefit from preaching, and desertion did not affect them, which is the severe beating, i.e. beating

Toughness so that they may be scorned, and whoever is resolute

This stage, although not favorable to the street, as stated, “Your choice will not be hit” means that the choice of people avoids beating, following the example of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, who did not hit a woman or a servant. He is provoked by something that he forgets about his masculinity and virtue, as he may reach this stage that is not desirable by Sharia, and criminalized by the law. However, this stage is the separation that may be beneficial or repulsive. After that, it remains only to search for another means outside the framework of marriage, which is the stage of arbitration that God assigned to it by saying:{وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهَا إِنْ يُرِيدَا إِصْلَاحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا} فهذان الحَكَمان العاقلان العدلان لهما النظر الصائب في السعي للإصلاح إن أمكن ذلك حفاظاً على تلك المملكة المصغرة، فإن لم يمكنهما ذلك فلا سبيل إلا Differentiation that may be the treatment of the compelled.

Perhaps after that, God will enrich each of his abilities, as men are many and women are more.

Upon reaching this stage, the legislator forbade this situation to be a reason for denial of what is good. Rather, he forbade estrangement or persistence in quarreling. He said: {And do not forget the honor between you}. Perhaps the previous ten years may have resulted in family building, so this building must not be destroyed. This is the guidance of Islam that Muslims must heed.

God luck.

«The Chief Mufti, Director of the Ifta Department in Dubai»

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