China Youth Daily is located in the live broadcast room "Warm One Square" of BaoBao Youth Bookstore in Qianmen, Beijing. Zhang Weihua (left), a psychiatrist at Peking University Sixth Hospital, and Chen Zhiyan (middle), a professor at the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, talked about the things that young people often encounter. Psychological issues started a dialogue with reporters from China Youth Daily and China Youth Daily.

China Youth Daily, China Youth Daily reporter Jiang Lei / photo

　　"Everyone around me got married before the age of 30, should I hurry up to 'take off the single'?" "My friend is a little 'love-minded', should I 'splash cold water'?" "My boss asked me to sacrifice my personal time to work overtime, should I obey? "You who struggle and live in a big city may have encountered or are encountering the above confusions.

A few days ago, China Youth Daily and Tencent's variety show "Let's Reasoning" jointly launched a psychological talk show (hereinafter referred to as "the show"), inviting Zhang Weihua, a psychiatrist at the Sixth Hospital of Peking University, and Chen Zhiyan, a professor at the Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences. China Youth Daily is located in the warm BaoBao youth bookstore "Warm One Square" live broadcast room in Qianmen, Beijing, and has a dialogue with reporters from China Youth Daily and China Youth Daily on the problems faced by young people in their lives, such as lovelorn, loneliness, guilt, and anxiety. .

Find the psychological confusion of young people from the story, and carry out professional analysis

　　In "Let's Start Reasoning", the sister detective established an "anti-scumbag alliance website" for the "love brain" sister Jiajia to retaliate against the "scumbag". The elder sister thought it was a good way, but the younger sister disagreed and Deeper and deeper in love.

This episode reflects the difficulties young people often encounter about intimacy.

　　In this regard, Zhang Weihua said that if a person puts too much emotion into an event, it will affect his rational judgment.

For example, the younger sister Jiajia may not have gained enough sense of security in the process of growing up, "the self has not formed a clear boundary or boundary in the process of development".

　　Chen Zhiyan believes that how to better grasp the balance between "loving yourself" and "loving each other" in love is a problem that many people have to face.

"When we love someone very much, we will focus on the other person, we will have mood swings for each other's frowns and smiles, and we especially want to do something for the other person - this is the natural response of love. But at the same time, we need to know that this reaction may be 'status', and the long-term maintenance of the relationship requires some wisdom to grasp the balance between the self and this relationship." Chen Zhiyan pointed out that "loving yourself" is a The foundation of protecting relationships and ensuring happiness.

　　In response to the behavior of "helping my sister to take revenge on the scumbag" in the show, Chen Zhiyan proposed that if relatives and friends around us are injured in an intimate relationship, we should support them, "reduce her (his) self-blame and self-doubt, and improve her (his) self-confidence. self-confidence and self-worth.”

　　According to the characters in the plot, psychologists find the emotional resonance points and group psychological confusion of young people from the story, based on the starting point and purpose of "popularization", so that the audience can more truly perceive the temperature of the plot and the thickness of professional analysis.

Combining with reality, put forward "supportive" suggestions to escort young people's mental health

　　In the extra program, psychological experts not only reveal psychological phenomena based on the characteristics and experiences of the "people in the play" in "Let's Reason", but also put forward "supportive" suggestions based on real life to escort the growth of young people.

　　Song Meimei in the show was coerced by the "social clock" and wanted to get married before the age of 30, and felt anxious because of it.

　　In Zhang Weihua's view, the "social clock" that netizens often talk about is actually "the influence of social and cultural customs on individuals".

"This is a very common phenomenon. The formation of such a view and statement is itself because (the social clock) is suitable for many people's situations, and it also fits with the life trajectory of most people."

　　Chen Zhiyan believes that in the face of the pressure brought by the "social clock", young people should distinguish between "appropriate pressure" and "morbid pressure".

If it is morbid stress, it may cause young people to take some "violating the law" behavior, which is also bound to bring negative results.

　　In the plot, Ke Wuku's brother is overwhelmed by work, and many employees of the property management company in the "apartment" are also squeezed: some work overtime for up to 48 hours, and some employees are forced to help the boss with private affairs.

How to divide the boundary between "engagement" and workplace PUA?

How should young people deal with a boss who "does not distinguish between public and private"?

　　Chen Zhiyan reminded that although work is sometimes very busy, when the body or mind has "alarmed", I hope everyone can understand and perceive "some signals from the body and mind" earlier.

　　Zhang Weihua emphasized that he must dare to say "no" in the face of his boss's personal requirements that are obviously beyond the scope of his work.

If everyone can establish a clear sense of "boundary", we can create a better workplace together.

With the help of the "key" of reasoning, unlock the "Urban Youth Psychological Guide"

　　From parent-child relationship mode to partner intimacy, from family environment to workplace atmosphere, from individual spiritual development to group spiritual dynamics, from daily trivia to social hotspots... This immersive plot reasoning variety show is not satisfied with "solving cases" and "solving puzzles" ”, but with the help of the “key” of reasoning to open a door to the daily life and spiritual world of every young person.

　　Behind this "gate", the audience not only sees the familiar self, is inspired to reflect on the confusion and limitations that may exist in the self, but also sees the real situation of other people in the society, forming a more comprehensive, sober and objective view of the surrounding environment. Rational cognition and the establishment of "mutual aid awareness" provide warmth and strength to everyone who needs psychological support in life.

　　The extra program jointly created by China Youth Daily and "Start Reasoning" perfectly integrates "professional sense" and "variety show sense" on the basis of drawing on the advantages of their respective platforms.

　　The extra program takes the audience through the two time and space of "Apartment No. 11", the mysterious space of reasoning and suspense, and the "Warm One Square" of China Youth Daily.

In the wonderful chemical reaction of the two atmospheres, the audience was given a lively and interesting "reasoning psychology class" and unlocked the "Urban Youth Psychology Guide".

　　What should I do if I encounter difficulties?

When you encounter lovelorn, loneliness, anxiety, how do you deal with the world?

This sideshow tells you: love yourself, believe in yourself, don't exaggerate every difficulty, you must believe in your strength and the love of the people around you, enough to let you go through all the thorns and troughs and embrace a better future.

　　China Youth Daily, China Youth Daily reporter Shen Jiequn Source: China Youth Daily