China News Service Client, Beijing, July 21 (Reporter Shangguan Yun) Recently, topics such as "What should the post-00s rely on to rectify the workplace" have been on the hot search, attracting many people to share their problems in the workplace, such as Not knowing how to deal with relationships, etc.

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　　In this regard, psychological consultant Li Songwei said in an interview with a reporter from Chinanews.com that we need to adjust our inner cognition, not to deny ourselves completely, and to relax our mentality.

At the same time, take a long-term perspective and accumulate workplace experience.

　　At the same time, he mentioned that "psychological counseling" is very popular now, but it is not so magical. "It is to provide a field where people can truly face problems and relieve some pressure."

Coping with workplace problems: adjusting inner cognition and accumulating experience

　　How to deal with various problems, including interpersonal relationships?

This may be a problem that many "newcomers in the workplace" need to face.

　　Li Songwei said that young people who are new to the workplace can first accumulate and learn some workplace experience and take a long-term perspective. This process may take a year, two years or even longer, "but the important thing is that your personal work ability will be enhanced. ."

　　"The general environment may not be able to change. What we can do is to adjust our inner cognition, and not to deny ourselves completely," he said.

　　In the new book "5% Change", Li Songwei once put forward a point of view: when we encounter problems, what we have to do is to try to do 5% well first.

With a very small and unusual action, to break the inertia and predicament.

　　New actions bring new experiences.

And when the new experience breaks the inertia, the change happens step by step.

　　"In our daily life, we can take the following self-relaxation methods: chat with friends for encouragement and support; write a journal or meditate, have a dialogue with our own heart, and slow down the pace of life," he said.

How to relieve "anxiety"?

　　The pace of life in modern society is fast, and opportunities and competition often coexist. To a certain extent, this may indeed bring pressure and varying degrees of anxiety.

"5% Change".

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　　"When you feel anxious, you must first have a clear position on your own situation, recognize the problems you are facing, but don't blame yourself for all the responsibility." Li Songwei said, and then you need to adjust your emotions and find an accurate place to settle down.

　　He shared a case: a girl once said that due to work, she was very anxious for a time, and then began to eat constantly to try to relieve the pressure.

　　However, this triggered a new round of self-blame: if you eat too much, you will gain weight, and if you gain weight, you will not look good, so you will fall into a kind of "vicious circle", and the problem at work has not been solved.

　　Li Songwei gave advice, "For example, if you want to eat anyway, then plan a small 'gluttony ritual' to make yourself happy while ensuring your health."

　　Later, he received a letter from the girl, "She told me that she gradually stopped competing with herself, and when she saw a little chubby lady on the road, she could also dress up beautifully, and her mentality gradually calmed down. "

"Psychological counseling" is not so magical

　　Not only that, the "family of origin" is also a topic that is frequently mentioned and discussed.

There is a view that the family of origin has a great influence on the formation of a person's character.

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　　"It is generally believed that a person's family of origin is the family in which he was born, and it mainly depends on what his upbringing environment includes. If he grew up in a large family with many elders, or had the experience of being fostered, the family of origin would be more complicated." Li Songwei said.

　　In other words, family of origin refers more to people's childhood experiences, but most of these experiences are completed in the family.

　　At work, Li Songwei encountered many people who came to inquire about the family of origin, "Actually, in psychology, there are both positive and negative cases. Some people can control their own lives; family impact."

　　"There is a counselor who is particularly strong. He has to do everything on his own. He is very tired. I told him that you are also affected by your original family, so there is no need to blame yourself too much." In Li Songwei's view, this is the psychological What the counselor has to do is to give the counselor a kind of relief.

　　He emphasized that psychological counseling is not so magical. "Some people want to vent their emotions, and some people are looking forward to some changes in their work and life, so they come to seek advice. Psychological counselors provide a field where people can Facing the problem truly will relieve some of the pressure.” (End)