Tania Llasera: "I needed years of therapy to conceive being a mother, I thought I was going to stop being sexy"

• QUESTIONNAIRE The secret agenda of... Tania Llasera

• PSYCHO Why do we insist on wanting everyone to like us?

(

Bilbao, July 21, 1979) has plenty of boards.

The Basque has climbed into towering heels even just after giving birth to introduce herself, but the actress and broadcaster remains a sea of ​​nerves when faced with new projects.

"I am excited and excited because it has taken me 42 years to get to this book to tell it all," she emphasizes in two syllables.

The swear words do not invalidate her argument: "That's what they are for, to use them", she clarifies with a smile.

The first one arrives: "The obligatory question is not

The question is: how can we not be, if we have plenty of reasons?"

Those who have endured

related to their bodies receive ZEN at Salón des Fleurs, one of the most beautiful flower shops with a cafeteria in Madrid, to present their new book

(Dome Books, 17.90 euros).

"She is green, hope for new generations like you and I am dressed in shit, because of all that we women have to swallow," she jokes without hesitation, touching the fabric of her

.

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It is not a single size, it is from 36 to 46, and it is made by hand in Tudela, he explains.

"So that it adapts to each girl with an adjustable system. Thinking that we

, so the clothes have to adapt to us and not us to the clothes," he says in his first statement addressed to women.

He does not hide, although he hates the word sorority, "already very burnt", he wants everyone, of any age and culture, to pass the book if they like it.

"You can't be thinking about others giving you

or approving your friends, your co-workers or any other foreign gaze.

. This seems very Buddhist, but it seems that it costs us. That's what we complain about."

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'Woman had to be' is a very recurring phrase, especially in certain contexts.

I imagine an argument in the car.

Have they used it with you? Exactly, it is the typical thing that is said in a derogatory plan.

I want to turn the tables and for us to say 'yes, yes, it had to be a woman'.

Since 2005 she has been on television as the ideal presenter, with good physical appearance, magazine measurements and always so correct, to star in a change of size publicly and start talking without hesitation about pressure and inclusion.

Without being a psychologist or nutritionist.

At what point did that click occur and did you stop worrying about what others thought? When they didn't renew my Mediaset contract.

She had been exclusively working for a chain for 11 years and was not free to say what she wanted.

I had a script and I was paid for it.

By freeing myself from everything in the pandemic, I realize that in my networks there was an audience that did value me.

For me it has been the key to change to continue communicating and reaching many people.

And also, in my own way. However, the strongest criticism is produced on social networks, especially against other women.

Perhaps in terms that would not even be said looking into our eyes. We protect ourselves in anonymity, which makes cowards brave.

There is a breeding ground of frustrated people or people who envy you and take out their poison.

It comes to you directly, it is very democratic.

But I think it says more about the person saying it than about you.

Tell me what you criticize and I'll tell you what you're afraid of.

If you have a problem with me, the problem is yours and not mine. He hasn't had a problem getting into a fight, in fact... I have a hard time keeping quiet, ever since.

That's why I've gotten into so much trouble.

I'm like this.

I come from a long career of women taking up arms and if there is something I don't like, I will say it.

When it comes to a famous woman, the media focus is brutal, from the millions of Google searches for 'girlfriend of' to the photos with the

on the beach.

How has she managed it?When one accepts herself, she knows what is there.

They will always talk about you, but it helps me to know that at least I am myself and that I do things honestly.

If people like it, fine, and if not, too.

I can't control everything, so it's a waste of time to go crazy. She has bragged about the money it cost her to accept herself.

Is the stigma of going to a psychologist after the pandemic fading? Both mental health and menstruation, abortion and so many other dark issues that involve women, finally come to light.

Stop!

We cannot be constantly being perfect.

We have to go through negative emotions such as sadness, depression, depression, anxiety, fear... They may not be

, but if we don't get them out of the mental storage room we are going to get worse.

Are we ourselves the ones who boycott ourselves the most?

We have a beastly load.

There are women with very big problems and who can't take it anymore.

What I call the glory, the illustration and illumination, we choke.

On the other hand, we have a great time with mud: we are ductile, versatile... We are used to being pissed off, that's why we lose focus when things are better for us.

It happened to me when I presented

, at my best, I had attacks of agoraphobia and anxiety.

That's when I started going to the psychologist.

Instead, now that I'm forgotten and working on my own is when I'm better.

I don't care if they say: 'This one has nothing to do on TV and takes out a book'.

I am calm and happy. What do you mean in the book when you say that we pay a very high price for female empowerment?

The empowerment that society sells us is false: you can handle everything, you are a super

[woman], you can have chicken in the oven, have sex with your husband every night, be the best at your job and without complaining, raise impeccable children, educate them as if you didn't work and work as if you didn't have them, be great in networks and, in addition, wear everything phenomenal.

Real empowerment, as I understand it, is to be a lady standing up and stay home if she wants to.

It is not a step backwards that you go forward.

Authentic empowerment is that your life is your own and you do what really satisfies you. What do you think about the Government's measure regarding sick leave due to menstruation? I have no opinion, you know?

I do not know.

And the same thing happens to me with the 'trans law'.

I am not a politician because being Basque is something I reject, I have experienced terrorism.

Of course, I think that menstruation can be disabling,

but on the other hand I don't know if it's an advance or a delay and I still can't apply. to the parents.

Why is it so difficult to reach an agreement when it comes to, in theory, rights? I am nobody to give an opinion on it, but it makes me very angry that we are always divided, because the moment we get together we have a lot can.

88.9% of women are the ones who take care of the home and that is not said.

Things change, but slowly.

I talk a lot about the gaps, because society is interested in this confrontation in abortion, surrogacy, now menstruation... And 8M arrives and we don't make a tribe.

I understand the ideological divisions,

but we are women and that unites us all.

Let's make pineapple! In the media, the world from which it comes, it has cost a lot for a woman to run a newspaper.

Reconciliation seems complicated, to say the least.

A woman's career comes to a standstill on many occasions when she has children or the working day is reduced.

Does it cost more to achieve real equality in this sector? It is a fact that there is a lot of machismo, especially on television, because it is a job where appearance is important.

Where image is lived, machismo is sown.

I have lived it in my flesh: I have been objectified, I have been the pretty girl, and I noticed a change when I put on weight.

I have needed years of therapy to conceive of being a mother, because I thought I was going to stop being

It has cost a lot for a woman to run a newspaper.

Reconciliation seems complicated, to say the least.

A woman's career comes to a standstill on many occasions when she has children or the working day is reduced.

Does it cost more to achieve real equality in this sector? It is a fact that there is a lot of machismo, especially on television, because it is a job where appearance is important.

Where image is lived, machismo is sown.

I have lived it in my flesh: I have been objectified, I have been the pretty girl, and I noticed a change when I put on weight.

I have needed years of therapy to conceive of being a mother, because I thought I was going to stop being

It has cost a lot for a woman to run a newspaper.

Reconciliation seems complicated, to say the least.

A woman's career comes to a standstill on many occasions when she has children or the working day is reduced.

Does it cost more to achieve real equality in this sector? It is a fact that there is a lot of machismo, especially on television, because it is a job where appearance is important.

Where image is lived, machismo is sown.

I have lived it in my flesh: I have been objectified, I have been the pretty girl, and I noticed a change when I put on weight.

I have needed years of therapy to conceive of being a mother, because I thought I was going to stop being

Does it cost more to achieve real equality in this sector? It is a fact that there is a lot of machismo, especially on television, because it is a job where appearance is important.

Where image is lived, machismo is sown.

I have lived it in my flesh: I have been objectified, I have been the pretty girl, and I noticed a change when I put on weight.

I have needed years of therapy to conceive of being a mother, because I thought I was going to stop being

Does it cost more to achieve real equality in this sector? It is a fact that there is a lot of machismo, especially on television, because it is a job where appearance is important.

Where image is lived, machismo is sown.

I have lived it in my flesh: I have been objectified, I have been the pretty girl, and I noticed a change when I put on weight.

I have needed years of therapy to conceive of being a mother, because I thought I was going to stop being

.

I thought that I could not work on my image for having a child, because clearly there is a price to pay in society for motherhood. Many taboo topics for women are now being brought to the fore.

When you lose a child, for example. Curettage is suffered by you, and the hormones are also revolutionized, but the child is lost by both of you.

Suffering or loss is shared.

That's when you say: Why can't the man tell?

That already says it all.

The day that men verbalize women's problems, there will be a real change.She always speaks highly of her father and her husband.

They belong to different generations.

Is it a matter of education? Education and interest.

My father was not raised in equality, and in fact my mother was the housewife.

But she liked her children and she sucked.

If you are interested in your children and your family, you are going to accept everything.

Obviously, in the first year there is a dependence on the mother for breastfeeding but, later on, it is the man who must want to be a participant.

It has taken me many men and a fairly long casting to find a husband who was not only in love with my essence, because he doesn't care about my appearance, but who was also interested in being a father.

There has to be a lot of communication but she responds, carries her school bag, goes to the supermarket and we both run the house. Why do women live permanently on a diet and not like what they see in the mirror? I have never done diet.

When I have lost weight it has been by playing sports.

It is good for the fashion and beauty industry that we always want to be better than the next.

But it is a capitalism that consumes us. Is it positive that advertisements are beginning to show women everywhere outside the canons of blonde and thin? Wonderful!

They validate that we exist.

It is not healthier or more unhealthy to be at one weight than another.

There has to be physical and mental variety.

Richness lies in diversity and it's good to see it. As a society, do we have a different magnifying glass to look at women or men? Pfffff [snorts].

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If it is, we criticize it to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

Is it positive that advertisements are beginning to show women outside the canons of blonde and thin everywhere? Wonderful!

They validate that we exist.

It is not healthier or more unhealthy to be at one weight than another.

There has to be physical and mental variety.

Richness lies in diversity and it's good to see it. As a society, do we have a different magnifying glass to look at women or men? Pfffff [snorts].

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If it is, we criticize it to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

Is it positive that advertisements are beginning to show women outside the canons of blonde and thin everywhere? Wonderful!

They validate that we exist.

It is not healthier or more unhealthy to be at one weight than another.

There has to be physical and mental variety.

Richness lies in diversity and it's good to see it. As a society, do we have a different magnifying glass to look at women or men? Pfffff [snorts].

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If it is, we criticize it to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

It is not healthier or more unhealthy to be at one weight than another.

There has to be physical and mental variety.

Richness lies in diversity and it's good to see it. As a society, do we have a different magnifying glass to look at women or men? Pfffff [snorts].

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If she is, we criticize her to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

It is not healthier or more unhealthy to be at one weight than another.

There has to be physical and mental variety.

Richness lies in diversity and it's good to see it. As a society, do we have a different magnifying glass to look at women or men? Pfffff [snorts].

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If she is, we criticize her to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If it is, we criticize it to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

Women are taught to compete from a young age, something that men are not.

We are educated so that our weapons are appearance and youth.

That's why we're always looking at the girl next door to see if she's smarter and prettier.

If it is, we criticize it to make ourselves feel better.

It is a behavior that has to change.

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