At a time when the rhythm is getting faster and faster, "post-95s" have become the main force in the blind date market, and "post-00s" have gradually stepped into the "door" of blind date.
Compared with the traditional "blind date corner" in parks and the introduction of parents and friends, WeChat blind date groups have gradually become the "mainstream of blind dates", directly uploading photos, videos, and chatting on the right track. Voice and video are available. In fact, behind these, WeChat blind date groups and Like all dating platforms, it's a business.
Introduce into the group
Pay 600 yuan to fill in personal information
Around 2015, with the application of WeChat, public account blind dates and WeChat group blind dates have become one of the ways for young people to solve personal problems.
At the blind date corner in a well-known park in Beijing, the WeChat business cards of the "matchmakers" are exchanged and passed. These matchmakers have mysterious identities and abundant resources, including full-time and part-time workers.
Once you are in a certain group, your information will become an undisclosed secret, and new matchmakers and organizations will take the initiative to call and invite you to join the group.
Mr. Jiang, who lives in Dongcheng District, is over 200 years old. Because of his busy work, he has a small circle of heterosexuals around him, and he has always been single.
For his life-long event, his parents went to the "blind date corners" in major parks.
During the festivals, the seven aunts and eight aunts also introduced objects to them.
Not long ago, a friend around him suggested that he try WeChat group blind date. After being recommended by his friend, Mr. Jiang met Mr. Gao, the owner of a blind date group.
"By paying a one-time fee of 600 yuan for half a year, you can join the group of single nobles." When I first met Teacher Gao, I was asked to provide all kinds of materials.
"Every young person who wants to enter the single aristocratic group needs to provide materials including ID card, real estate license, driver's license, salary certificate, etc., and a video interview if it is convenient." The group rules are "strict", the group owner said. There are nearly 1,000 men and women in my hands, and there are 4 groups of different levels and categories. The team matchmakers come from all walks of life, so they have accumulated a lot of contacts and resources.
Precise push
The service also includes "personal order"
"Matchmaker guarantees to introduce three to five girls in the first membership period." Mr. Jiang said that in addition to the large group of nearly 500 people, Teacher Gao also subdivided small groups according to different categories such as civil servants, doctors, teachers, law-related, and IT. , Mr. Jiang, who joined the group for the first time, received the preferential treatment of "one big plus two small".
"I belong to the civil service system, and my mother is a teacher, so I chose these two small groups. I was looking forward to it at the time." He was most attracted by the high matching degree and accurate push.
He happily paid the fee and joined the group. After joining the group, there were as many as seven or eight matchmakers who added Mr. Jiang. Each of them was known as a "Gold Medal Matchmaker", and he immediately started a small group for him.
"Blind date groups have more women than men. Like you, you have a local hukou, and you are an only child, and your income is stable and easy to find." Before modifying each matchmaker's remarks, Mr. Jiang ate one." Peace of mind".
Immediately afterwards, the group host matchmaker began to popularize the blind date process within the group to "newcomers".
"Every night, male and female guests send blind date information, including photos and basic information. If you like it, you can chat with yourself." In addition to self-selecting, each member's exclusive group is a place where matchmakers recommend and connect individually, that is, "Personal order" in the service.
"The first impression is that it is very professional and has many ways. It is suitable for single people like me who are busy with work and are not very good at interacting with the opposite sex." Seeing that his blind date information was pushed to the large group, he received all kinds of praise within a few minutes. Mr. Jiang is more confident.
take the initiative
Like "checking account" to open a "blind box"
Three days before joining the group, Mr. Jiang heard the word "excellent" the most. According to the "arrangement" of the matchmakers, he added his favorites to the large group while waiting for the matchmaker's recommendation.
"After the people I actively added introduced each other briefly, it was easy to fall into the embarrassment of having nothing to say." Due to the lack of basic understanding in advance, most of the people who actively "seeked" add WeChat, and they will turn into a question-and-answer type of conversation , which is the common "checking account" in blind date.
"Even though they both read each other's profile, they still feel like strangers, and they give back to the matchmaker, and the answer they get is just a chat. If it doesn't work, it's not fate." Mr. Jiang said.
Taking the initiative to attack is like opening a "blind box", Mr. Jiang simply told the matchmaker: "I am too busy with work and have little experience, so please recommend it."
"Little Jiang, don't worry, there is a Ms. Wen who is very suitable for you. I will send you the information." Within 10 minutes, Hongniang sent Ms. Wen's information.
Clicking on it, a middle school Chinese teacher likes traditional culture, opera, and literature, which is highly matched with Mr. Jiang's hobbies.
Mr. Jiang couldn't help but look forward to it.
Matchmaker Recommended
Many opportunities were rejected by "eyes"
Add WeChat, pass, take the initiative to say hello and cute WeChat emoticons, the "first impression" of the two can be rated as 100 points.
With the preliminaries of Matchmaker, Mr. Jiang and Ms. Wen communicated very smoothly.
The online chat was hot, and the first meeting between the two was a matter of course.
After a long conversation in the afternoon, Mr. Jiang felt that he was about to be released.
However, when he returned from offline to online, he found that Ms. Wen's attitude was not as enthusiastic as before.
There are more replies such as "I'm busy". Although I chat every day, I obviously feel that I am dealing with it, and I don't give a clear time to invite again.
Mr. Jiang thought about it, but had no answer, so he had to feed back the question to the matchmaker.
In the evening of the same day, Hongniang asked for a reply from Ms. Wen: "You are a very nice person, but I still don't feel very good at meeting each other."
Mr. Jiang, who was rejected by "Eye Fate", was very depressed. He didn't understand. He had seen photos of each other beforehand, why did he not feel "Eye Fate" until they met?
As he spent more time in the group, he found that there were not a few members who encountered similar problems. Perceptual words such as "feeling" and "eye edge" became "universal reasons".
"I can't understand the reason. Once the other party says that there is no eye-catching relationship, the matchmaker will judge that this recommendation is over, record an indicator, and prompt to delete WeChat. It seems that multiple recommendation opportunities are likely to be missed one after another. consumed." Mr. Jiang said.
Senior member
Time and time again "routines" will exhaust the enthusiasm
Compared with a novice in a blind date group like Mr. Jiang, Mr. Zhao, who has been in a certain group for more than two years, can be regarded as a senior member.
For more than two years, apart from renewing fees again and again and waiting for recommendations, Mr. Zhao has not taken off the order as quickly as Matchmaker said.
"I've encountered almost all of them who have no eye for eye, are busy, have inappropriate hardware, and are forced by their parents to come here." Looking at the blind date information and new people who join the group every day, Mr. Zhao's confidence and enthusiasm slowly increased. Exhausted, take the initiative to ask the matchmaker to suspend the recommendation for a while.
"Almost every day, new members join the group, and the matchmakers also call on everyone to introduce all the singles around you." Mr. Zhao said, compared to paying money, the members of the group are most concerned about quickly finding people who are destined, time and time again "Routines" can easily make people lose their initiative in dating.
"This kind of mentality can't be measured by money. Many old members are tired in the end, and even if they really meet the right ones, they don't want to fall in love."
Recruit members
The end of a blind date is a "business book"
After a long time, Mr. Zhao gradually discovered that no matter how renovated, the main purpose of most blind date groups is still to earn membership fees.
"Compared with high-end WeChat blind date groups, the annual fee is 10,000 to 20,000 yuan or more. For a group of about 500 people like ours, each person costs 1,200 yuan per year, which is the mainstream of blind date groups now."
The membership fee of tens of thousands is "daunting", but the annual fee of one or two thousand yuan is enough to let people who are eager to get rid of the order join the group to "try their luck".
Based on 500 people in each group and an annual membership fee of 1,000 yuan, the matchmaker in the group earns 500,000 yuan a year.
According to different membership levels, the more the number of personal recommendations, the higher the fee.
Not only that, Mr. Zhao revealed that most of the blind date group charges are paid through WeChat transfers, and invoices cannot be issued, so there is naturally tax evasion.
Ms. Song, a matchmaker who has "retired", said that in the first few years of WeChat blind date groups, the common routine was a combination of online and offline, and even the same group of people could repeatedly "cut leeks".
The blind date group vertically categorizes users into VIP, general fee and free "atmosphere groups", "The larger the base, the greater the spread, and when there are enough people in the group, board games, werewolf killings, barbecues, partying, mountain climbing, Offline activities such as badminton are organized, but they are also clearly priced, and participation is charged." Ms. Song said.
Matchmaker says
Open the circle of communication
"Many young people are not in a hurry to get married, but just want to find the right person, communicate with each other, and establish a comfortable and intimate relationship." Ms. Song said bluntly, "It is better to ask for yourself, no matter how powerful the matchmaker is, it can only play the role of matchmaking. Rely on your own initiative." In any era, it is not easy to find the person you like.
"It's like interviewing for a job. You have to have an interview to find a partner. If you don't hate each other, you can contact each other again, and then you can get used to it, and then go down slowly." When Ms. Song was not retired, she liked to introduce people to people. Over the years, Ms. Song has facilitated couples and couples of destined people by comprehensively grasping the situation, arranging meetings, and making regular inquiries.
"As the saying goes, people are afraid of meeting each other. It's not enough to just look at documents and photos. There is no way to fully understand a person." Ms. Song said that when facing single people, what she heard the most was "busy at work" and "lack of face"" For reasons such as "small circle", every time she encounters such a problem, she will encourage these single boys and girls to take time, be bolder, and be more proactive.
"Since you have the idea of getting rid of the single, you must take the initiative to try with a correct attitude, but it is useless to wait passively." Ms. Song said that compared with WeChat group blind dates, youth associations are more authentic and reliable, and most of the organizers are street and district level. The government, personnel quality and identity are guaranteed.
Singles can get to know each other at events, try to work together on tasks, and get to know each other by "working together".
"When you expand your social circle and find someone who feels good, you should invite regular appointments, deepen your understanding, and gradually examine whether the two people have similar views and lifestyles, so as to achieve the goal of getting rid of the single." She said.
Our reporter Zhang Ao (the interviewees in this article are all pseudonyms)