Following the explosion of Cui Jian's video concert on the evening of April 15, late on the 19th, "WeChat Moments for 10 Years" also rushed to the top of Weibo's hot search, and netizens read the first friend they posted. In the circle, "it's youth" has become a common sigh of everyone, especially among the post-60s, post-70s, and post-80s, there has been a wave of "memory killings". Some netizens commented: Most people listen not to songs, but to Feelings; what I look at is not a circle of friends, but memories... A generation will eventually grow old, and "a true warrior is nothing more than seeing the essence of life and still loving it".
Shu Ping
Full of memories to kill, both beautiful and embarrassing
What is "Memories Killing"? I deliberately googled it. Originally it refers to the memory plot in the anime plot, but now it refers to the memory of the past, and it is easy to cause emotional fluctuations when recalling these things.
There were laughter, tears, and all kinds of embarrassment.
Let's talk about beautiful first.
One of my long-term friends, Mr. Su, shared a story with me.
She used to be a soldier when she was young. Last summer, she accompanied her family to Qiulinggou in the depths of the grassland. There used to be the garrison of a certain equipment division. The poplar trees have all witnessed the years of that year.
Villagers watch movies and see a doctor, still in the auditorium and barracks of the year, and the feelings between the army and the people are particularly harmonious.
While visiting, she was moved and proud of her military career.
On the grassland, wild flowers, wild vegetables, wild mushrooms, and various Chinese herbal medicines can be seen everywhere, all of which are pure wild.
She is a doctor and recognizes Bupleurum, Astragalus, Motherwort, Xanthium, and many others who cannot be named.
In summer, the locals like to dig wild leek flowers, and there are also a lot of leeks. The leek flowers are used to make leek sauce, and the tender leeks go home and make leeks dumplings, all of which are delicious in the world.
When she went, she also saw a large area of dried branches and plums in full bloom, which even people on the grassland said were rare.
At that time, the equipment division of the frontier was praised as the spirit of Ganzhimei.
The dry branches and plum blossoms bloom but do not fall. They are not afraid of strong winds and snow and ice. They maintain their blooming appearance even in the worst environment, and remain unchanged for several years.
She looked at the thriving dry branches and plums in surprise, and sincerely thanked the grassland for the love.
I was fortunate enough to hear about Mr. Su's past, and I was deeply moved. If a person has had such a passionate and splendid time, even if it has become a memory, he will be youthful without regrets and be proud of.
It's no wonder that every time I see Teacher Su, I feel that her laugh is extraordinarily bold and heroic, which makes people both like and envy.
As for myself, I am much more ashamed.
When I was young, I seemed to have come here in a daze, and I hardly left any special memories.
At that time, I liked to read martial arts novels, like Jin Yong and Liang Yusheng, and also liked to follow dramas, "The Legend of Condor Heroes", "Swordsman" and "The Deer".
I also like to watch "Journey to the West". Every summer, as soon as the electronic music of the "Journey to the West" prelude is played, I hurriedly sit in front of the TV with my eyes shining, and as a result, I get a pair of myopia early.
I haven't heard much of Cui Jian's rock and roll. At that time, I was still young and couldn't understand it.
"It's not that I don't understand, the world is changing too fast." It is true that the joys and sorrows of human beings are not necessarily the same, but there are always some emotions and emotions that are connected. Going down, there is still light in my heart, and I try to make my ordinary days colorful. It seems that there is still a lot to choose from.
The same reality, don't become a "cave" to escape
On the evening of April 15, the rock musician Cui Jian's video concert with the theme of "continue to spread wild" refreshed the screen overnight. Over 40 million people watched the video, and the number of likes in the live broadcast exceeded 100 million.
In the late night of the 19th, "WeChat Moments for 10 Years" also rushed to the top of Weibo's hot search. Netizens read the first Moments they posted, and another wave of "Memories Killing" surged.
"It's youth" became the common sigh of everyone.
The circle of friends of the post-60s, post-70s, and post-80s are mostly life documentary, both happy and sad.
I remember that my parents used to talk to their old classmates and colleagues about what happened in their time, about who passed away, who was sick, and I thought, why do they keep talking about this? Unexpectedly, now me and I My classmates are also called "old classmates" and "old classmates" on WeChat, and the topics they talk about are the past, as well as the inevitable birth, old age, sickness and death.
Looking at the circle of friends of the post-90s and post-00s, there are more records about eating, drinking, and having fun. It’s so good, youth is still there, you can dream, chase dreams, and enjoy youth as you want.
However, you must remember not to waste your youth.
Everyone's youth has one and only one time, it is too precious and should be cherished.
In the past two years, everyone has spent more time online than ever. Every time I see young netizens shouting "boring" online and fighting with words, I will worry about them. How can they waste time like this? But, More often, I know that they are writing their own youth stories in their own way.
It was about a reading club the year before, and I met a girl named Wenwen. She studied comparative literature, liked reading, and liked poetry. She rarely posted on Moments, but once in a while, she also went on a trip.
Recently, looking at her circle of friends, she was volunteering with her friends, helping children in remote villages to read, exercise, paint, and learn music.
In the hustle and bustle of the world, she quietly does what she wants to do.
Whether it is our parents' generation, our generation, or the younger generation, we all face the same reality, each with its own difficulties, its own opportunities, and its own choices.
We can't go further, we have more time gaps, so there are so many "memory kills", right?
Ms. Su said that she recalled the past with pride and no regrets; as for mine, there are regrets and embarrassment, but they are also plain and true.
After I went to university, I suddenly worked hard, and in one of the most beautiful campuses, in the library under the Cherry Blossom Castle, I quietly read more books. , All my current writing skills should be based on the foundation laid at that time, and it can be considered a timely awakening; my dear niece is also a graduate student in a famous university, and she reads every day without sleep or sleep. She is good in English and has a wide range of knowledge. Wider, there will be greater achievements in the future.
Therefore, no matter how the world changes, the pace of most of us has never stopped.
The famous philosopher Epictetus said: "When I see a person in a state of anxiety, I say to myself, what does this person want? Because if he doesn't want it, it's out of his control. If it is within the range, how can he still be anxious?"
I recently saw a course by anthropologist Xiang Biao, discussing how years of work have become "job holes"? Why do we work so hard, not because we like the job, but because we don't? How do we Turning work into a process of saving money, and then doing everything for future financial freedom, so that you can get rid of it? People get into the hole of work and work hard to get out of the hole as soon as possible.
This just leads to a kind of "suspension" of the present in our living state: we do not face the present directly, but always want to move towards the future, and the present becomes a utilitarian step towards the future.
But what is the future? What does it look like? I don't know.
Work done as an "escape from the present" will never escape anxiety.
This is also a rebellious solution. We do not provide tools to solve anxiety, but take you to understand the root of anxiety.
To see it, to face it.
In the end, only one has the ability to decide what meaning each person can give to his present moment.
Therefore, to those things that are not within our control, just face it calmly, and at the same time, find your strength in learning and thinking.
Do your best to do it well, create some better memories for the rest of your life, and don't waste every life.
We still need courage, warmth and sobriety
In the final analysis, our "memory killing", the songs, film and television dramas, variety shows, etc. that we miss, we miss more of those people, those things, and those times that flowed by like flowing water, they have witnessed The years of our growth, the traces of our youth, the throbbing of our dreams, are an integral part of our lives.
Staying on the Internet for too long, with overwhelming and varied information, can easily make people dizzy. If there is not enough screening ability, screening ability and good psychological quality, it is easy to lose direction, fall into uncertainty, insecurity, anxiety In the negative emotions of anxiety, it is easier to miss the good memories of the past.
The value of music, film and television dramas, and variety shows is that they can always arouse our emotional resonance, and let us follow them with joy, smirk, tears, or excitement. In memory, there are always some classic melodies reverberating, and there are always stars who have chased and people who have liked them. That is also a unique memory, which is indelible.
But our lives obviously don't stop there.
In any case, we must believe that online life is temporary, and we will eventually return to the fiery real life. At this time, it is a process of adjustment in life. Use the time to slow down to observe, To think, to imagine.
If the mood occasionally falls into doubt, pessimism and loss, it must be adjusted in time.
My method of adjustment is to read a lot.
April 23 is the 26th World Book Day. Have you read? What books have you read? Mr. Yang Jiang once said: Reading is like visiting people "invisibly". You can visit brilliant teachers, scholars, and everyone at any time without prior Say hello and ask to see you, and don't be afraid to disturb the host.
Author Somerset Maugham said that reading is also a sanctuary that you can carry with you, and all the unhappiness, stress and anxiety in life can be temporarily relieved in reading.
Another quickest way to regulate your mood is to go outside for a walk and be healed by nature.
April is the most beautiful season of the year, with new flowers blooming every day.
Kawabata Yasunari said in the book "Ancient Capital": "A flower is alive. Although its life is short, it lives beautifully and dazzlingly. It will bud and bloom again in the next year, just like nature is full of vitality." Flowers and plants, blow the fresh wind, look up at the sky, and your mood will suddenly become brighter.
There is also a simple way to revive people's blood, that is to cook and eat happily with the family. In the past two years, we have gone out to eat less, and our family's cooking skills and level have greatly increased, and we eat every time Be content, then take a deep sleep, nothing is insurmountable.
Some time ago, Ms. Su also told me that she wanted to know if there were any public welfare activities suitable for her to participate in. She would see if she could participate and give full play to her residual energy, which touched me again.
Isn't that what life is like? In times of difficulty, everyone helps each other, and when the most difficult times are overcome, we will go to distant places, travel, go to concerts, and meet people we miss.
Hopefully, my words can also give you a little encouragement at a certain moment. In this spring, we still need courage, warmth and sobriety. May we all watch and help each other, gather strength, and cheer together!