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Addicted to love' (1997) is a romantic comedy starring Matthew Broderick and

that could be used for those long weekend chats on the couch.

In the plot there are two couples who break up.

At this point, jilted dropouts become unhealthily attached to their exes.

Although it is not a serial of classic love comedies, the title is not enough to draw the

that some people have on their

.

There are those who cannot live without a partner.

It doesn't matter if it's his better half or not: they are always immersed in a relationship.

Sometimes, this inertia is not exclusive to relationships, but extends to many other facets of life and even to toxic substances.

Maira Kelle told Yo Dona how her core problem was addiction and thus, she "got hooked" on sensations produced by alcohol, drugs, shopping and, also, love.

Although the latter seems less frequent to us, it occurs when we do not control certain emotional dynamics: in fact, they dominate us because we are incapable of being alone.

At this point, we may suffer from

But does this exist?

Dr. María Consuelo Vilasánchez, psychologist and member of

, clears up any doubts:

Are you a love addict?

As with substances or behaviors, such as drugs or gambling, love can become an addiction if we are dependent, that is, if we need it to feel good.

Like any addiction, it causes a withdrawal syndrome if we lack it, such as

etc.

In this case, the addiction consists of compulsively seeking romantic love and without it, the person feels insecure and vulnerable.

and, therefore, you need to spend as much time as possible with her.

Eye, it has nothing to do with

, since love addicts always seek an emotional bond.

They consider relationships as the main motivation in life, and even the person may get involved in bad relationships or unhealthy relationships just because of not being alone and having someone.

That is why it has a lot to do with the

, that is, people who link one relationship with another without a break in continuity, a dynamic that takes its name from when Tarzan hooked from one rope to another to traverse the jungle.

These people, as soon as they end a relationship, are already looking for another to continue, so they don't give themselves time to work through the breakup of the previous couple.

They do not stop to look for someone compatible, but their main need is to be accompanied so as not to feel bad.

The reason is that more than seeing the person themselves, what they are looking for

Reasons for love addiction

The pattern of people with love addiction is characterized by their insecurity.

They seek to fill their emptiness through the other and usually have

and poor self-concept.

They have a hard time taking responsibility for their own life and happiness and therefore need the approval of another person.

explains

that they are afraid of failure and find it difficult to make decisions on their own.

For them the main thing is to be accepted and loved, even at the expense of themselves.

But where does this need come from?

The psychologist adds that the causes can be traced back to childhood or youth, since similar family models can be reproduced.

"You can grow up in families where you get distorted ideas and beliefs, caring about the opinion of others more than what you think and need yourself," she says.

more women than men

It is

with emotional dependency than men, the expert clarifies.

Among the reasons, the cultural ones stand out: "It is worse seen that men consider themselves dependent and until recently, women have been subservient to the masculine world, which has made them more insecure and dependent in general. This fact has been considered normal and has been even more accepted.

However, there are also biological reasons why women have a

and maintain these relationships for longer.

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