Chinanews client, Beijing, April 10th (Reporter Shangguan Yun) "(This flower) is for me alone, or does it belong to other girls?"
As one of the famous bickering scenes in "A Dream of Red Mansions", Lin Daiyu's sentence is quite out of the circle, and many people can make up the following lines at a glance: "I know that if others don't pick the rest, they won't give it to others. Me." Only Zhou Rui's family smiled awkwardly.
Image source: Screenshot of the 87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" video
Because of this scene, some people labeled Lin Daiyu as "stingy", mocking her for being unsophisticated; others ridiculed her as "Lin Daodao" and her words were sharp.
Some even imitated her tone and created a series of "Lin Daiyu Crazy Literature".
What is Lin Daiyu like in the book?
Sensitive personality?
Daiyu, who had just arrived at Rongguo Mansion, was careful no matter what she did, "I don't want to say a word or walk a step further, for fear of being ridiculed by others."
When interacting with people, from Wang Xifeng to Mammy Li, to Xue Baochai and others, Lin Daiyu almost "resented" one by one.
For example, when she went to play with Baochai, Jia Baoyu happened to be there, so she said lightly, "If I knew he was coming, I wouldn't be here."
Once, Wang Xifeng teased Daiyu, "You ate my family's tea, why don't you give it to my family as a wife?" Others said it was "humorous", but Daiyu immediately replied, "It's just a sloppy tongue that makes people hate it." .
Later, everyone went to Qingxu Temple to have a ceremony. When listening to the play, Jia Mu saw a red-gold and green unicorn in the congratulations and felt familiar. Baochai replied that Shi Xiangyun had one, "it's smaller than this".
Image source: Screenshot of the 87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" video
Others praised Baochai for his intentions; Daiyu was unhappy, and sneered: "He is still limited in other aspects, but he is more careful about what these people bring." Baochai had to turn around and pretend not to hear.
In this way, Sister Lin sometimes seems to be not generous enough.
Some people say that perhaps because of the loss of her mother at a young age and her many knots in her heart, she always seems to be very concerned about the words and behaviors of others.
grow gradually
In fact, Lin Daiyu is not a particularly careful person.
As she grows older, she treats people more and more gently and gradually grows up, and she will not hold on to a trivial matter.
Once, when Lin Daiyu went to Yihong Courtyard, Qingwen refused to open the door, causing a misunderstanding.
But as soon as Baoyu explained, she immediately thought: "Yes, it must be your girls who are too lazy to move, and there are some who are dejected."
She is not a vengeful person either.
Lin Daiyu was once annoyed that Shi Xiangyun accidentally compared herself to a "player", which caused a lot of trouble for a time.
However, she dealt with her emotions quickly.
On the Mid-autumn night, Daiyu and Xiangyun wrote poems together, and they had no grievances.
Image source: Screenshot of the 87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" video
When she felt that she had misunderstood Baochai, she would sincerely apologize, "It was me who was wrong in the past, and I have made a mistake now... I can't blame girl Yun for saying hello, I saw her praise you in the past, and I didn't use it. Yesterday I Go through it yourself and find out.”
Acknowledging her mistakes face to face and frankly admitting her jealousy is enough to show that Lin Daiyu is a very real person and will not try to trick others for the so-called face or interests.
If you can see yourself and others transparently, you will know how to advance and retreat when dealing with interpersonal relationships.
stay true
However, perhaps the label of "Xianshu outside the world" is too prominent. When people mention Lin Daiyu, they always think that she is aloof, does not eat human fireworks, and is even less able to manage a big family like Sister Feng.
But in fact, Daiyu's emotional intelligence is not low, and she "sees through but not speaks" about many things at home.
She has never been enthusiastic about the income and expenditure of Jia's house, but she knows it well, "Although I don't care about things, I always have time in my heart, and I will calculate it for you. Don't take it."
Image source: Screenshot of the 87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" video
She is very generous with her servants.
Once, Baochai was worried about Daiyu's poor health, so she asked her mother-in-law to send bird's nest.
Daiyu knew that the old woman might have a gamble at night, so she said, "It's difficult for you. If you made a fortune by mistake, I will send it here in the rain", and at the same time ordered someone to give a reward of several hundred dollars.
The mother-in-law was naturally happy, and in the end everyone was happy.
In the Xiaoxiang Pavilion where she lives, the girls and women perform their respective duties, speak and do things in an orderly manner, and there are hardly any problems.
The relationship between Daiyu and Zijuan is also as close as a sister, better than the general master and servant.
Everyone has a "Dream of Red Mansions" in their hearts. From different angles, they see different stories.
Therefore, many people believe that Lin Daiyu's sharp words are due to her life experience and character, and it is also a true temperament of "knowing the world but not the world".
In reality, some people will choose to smooth the edges and corners after going through the vicissitudes of life, and some people will choose to retain a bit of edge after seeing the truth of life. Lin Daiyu is probably the latter.
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