China News Service, Beijing, March 26 (Reporter Wang Shiyao) There is a saying on the Internet that people go through three stages in their life: facing the ordinary of their parents, admitting that they are ordinary and accepting the ordinary of their children.
Parents and children, we have no choice.
Then, is it difficult to know oneself, accept oneself, and reconcile with oneself?
01 Knowing yourself is also a shortcut
Some time ago, on the talk show "Thirteen Invitations", actor Gao Yuanyuan claimed to be an "actress with a bigger image than her role", and even said that she had no talent for acting.
Screenshot of the program
She clearly knows that a beautiful face makes herself "God's darling", but it is also a "double-edged sword".
For a period of time, Gao Yuanyuan rejected the outside world's attention to her appearance.
But gradually, she realized that in order to change other people's views, she had to change herself first.
Others may ignore their appearance if there are other things they are better at.
Gao Yuanyuan, who tried her best to improve her acting skills, tried her best to get herself into the role, but most of her attempts ended in disappointment.
In the end, she found that she could never show the best completion of a role because "my talent as an actor is limited".
Gao Yuanyuan once mentioned in an interview that she was very disappointed with herself for a while.
I used to think very highly of myself, and I always felt that I had many doors in my heart, and every door opened, there would be treasures inside.
Later, she slowly got a chance to open them, only to find that the door was empty.
"It's not that there is no chance, it's that there is no talent."
Screenshot of the program
Gao Yuanyuan, who was 20 years old, had high expectations for herself, thinking that "a flower will grow out of the ruins".
Now she realizes that a thorough understanding of herself may be another shortcut.
Gao Yuanyuan, who is no longer "twisted", has found a way of redemption. Who can say that this is not a shortcut in life?
highway.
Photo by Hu Yu
02 Efforts don't work, change your mind
"Gu Li in the world" is a label Guo Caijie wanted to get rid of but couldn't tear it off.
In the "Send One Hundred Girls Home" program, Guo Caijie mentioned that when filming the movie "Xi Bao", she felt that this role was something she had been waiting for for a long time and hoped to change everyone's established impression of her.
Screenshot of Douban score of the movie "Xibo"
But after the movie was released, the overwhelming negative reviews hit Guo Caijie hard.
Her efforts didn't work, and in the eyes of the audience, she was still that "Gu Li-style" acting.
Guo Caijie later reflected, maybe it was her "bad habit" of acting that caused this situation, imprisoning her soul in a certain "mode".
Faced with the predicament she couldn't get out of, she burst into tears and made up her mind, "I don't want to act anymore."
Is she not in love?
At that time, there was a popular acting competition program, Guo Caijie cried when she saw it, "I think I actually like acting."
Data map: The press conference of the movie "Little Times", the second from the right is Guo Caijie.
Photo by Li Xueshi issued by China News Agency
She strengthened her determination to love acting, but also said that she would be more cautious in taking on the show and would not try it lightly.
It is not easy to do such self-examination in the entertainment industry that is chasing fame and fortune.
Accept the failed self, have the courage to give up, and maybe see a brand new self.
In our student days, we have all encountered classmates who are "easy in front of others and hard work behind them".
Many people have the idea that "you can only look effortless if you work hard enough".
So it takes a lot of courage to admit to trying and failing.
Data map: Guo Caijie.
Photo by China News Service reporter Li Jun
03 Applauding for others is not necessarily disrespect
"Which door did God close to her?"
A while ago, the 18-year-old Olympic champion Gu Ailing shocked the audience too much.
This sunny, confident, and powerful talented girl is full of brilliance.
According to netizens, if her life was written into a novel, it would be "too exaggerated".
Data map: Gu Ailing shows off her Winter Olympics medal.
Image source: ICphoto
Faced with such a "daughter of the sky", some parents excitedly began to study how to create the next Gu Ailing.
There are also people who use Gu Ailing as a reference template and feel a little discouraged, "I can't become such a person in my life..."
We all know that the scenery on the top of the mountain is very beautiful, and the feeling of "being the top of the mountain and seeing the small mountains at a glance" must be great.
Data map: Gu Ailing "compared hearts" after the game.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Tomita
However, there are not many people who can really reach the top...
"When the heroes pass by, there are always people sitting on the side of the road and applauding."
Please don't be sad or discouraged, your applause is also precious on the way to the top.
Just like watching Gu Ailing break through herself, the people who applaud her will also be inspired.
Admit that you are ordinary, nothing really.
When you look at the top of the mountain and sigh, turn your head to see that the scenery on the mountainside is actually beautiful.