The bill which will be adopted in the National Assembly this Thursday, will facilitate the process of changing your surname.
Readers of "20 Minutes" who want to take this step, explain their motivations.
Painful family history, unknown parent, name that provokes ridicule… There are many reasons for wanting to change one's identity on paper.
They will no longer suffer from a family name that does not correspond to them or that brings back bad memories.
This Thursday, the National Assembly provided for the final adoption of the bill on the change of surname.
Presented by the Minister of Justice, Eric Dupond-Moretti, as a text awaited by "many of our fellow citizens to soothe the pain of bearing a name", which recalls an unfortunate intimate story, the bill of the deputy LREM Patrick Vignal " relating to the choice of the name resulting from filiation” aims to come into force in July.
The child, at the age of 18, will be able to choose his family name to keep that of his mother, that of his father, or both.
In addition, parents will be able to ask the town hall to change the name of use (of the daily newspaper) of their minor child.
"It's time for me to finally take on the identity that is mine"
This prospect is welcomed as a relief by some of our readers who are considering changing their name because they no longer have a relationship with a relative whose surname they bear.
This is the case of Maywenn who bears the name of her mother, with whom she has not had contact for more than 15 years: "My family at heart is that of my father, but I do not bear his name. because my parents were not married when I was born and my mother only "authorized" my father to recognize me when I was 18 years old.
I will therefore have the greatest pride in finally wearing that of my father, that of a family to which I have always been very close.
Changing your name is the materialization of a feeling of belonging, it is the recognition of a family spirit, it is an act of love towards those who have never hesitated to support me”.
Alex, who hasn't heard from his alcoholic father for a long time, shares the same mindset: "I'm not ashamed of the name I bear, I have no grievance against the life I had, but that name simply does not belong to me.
It is time for me to finally take on the identity that is mine, so that in my turn, I can be at peace,” he explains.
For Sandy too, the name she bears has no meaning: “I don't feel like I am carrying the name of a family I don't know despite myself”.
A feeling shared by Emma whose father has always been absent: “I grew up with a name that is not mine.
I can't wait for this law to pass, because I would like to be able to pass on my mother's name to my children.
Tired of carrying this burden for almost 30 years.
"My name reminds me every day of the man who kidnapped me in Portugal"
Some family stories are even more painful.
And the surname recalls a trauma, as is the case with Julie.
“I would like to change my surname, having experienced a rape by a cousin with the same surname as me.
I wish I could take that last name off my ID and leave this pain behind me.”
Brenda, who suffered from paternal violence (touching, confinement, mistreatment, etc.), also bears her name like a burden: "Each time I have to give my damn family name or that someone has to call me by it, a film loops automatically in my head”.
Kévin also experienced a family tragedy and feels that his wound is rekindled each time he has to share his marital status: "The name I bear is extremely hard to bear, because it reminds me every day of the man who kidnapped me in Portugal when I was 8 years old.
I lived for a year completely separated from my mother, far from my country.
During this period, he threatened me with death and subjected me to sexual touching”.
Loïc, for his part, suffered psychological violence, from childhood and until young adulthood, from an officer father: "The proposal of the law relating to the choice of the name resulting from filiation will to finally be able to allow many people like me to free themselves from a burden, to find new life, a new meaning to their existence by choosing to bear their mother's surname".
"My name has earned me a lot of ridicule"
Sometimes, it is one of the parents who wants the name changed for his child, in order to simplify the daily procedures.
This is the case for Sophie: “I have to prove that I am the mother of my own children (at the airport, when registering for school, at the leisure center and for outdoor activities).
I also have to prove my identity by going to the emergency room.
And ask the father for permission to leave the territory with my children.
Their father is exempt from all this.
Why ?
While custody was given to me by the family court judge.
For me, this law would be liberating and would allow me to be officially recognized as the mother of my own children.
Is that too much to ask?
“, she asks.
Another reader also called Sophie,
would like a change of name for his daughter “to facilitate the management of daily life.
Why am I constantly forced to prove that I am the mother and that I have to walk around with the judgment of the family court judge?
“, she is offended.
And when you have had several children from different fathers, you often want the siblings to bear the same name, because it is also a guarantee of family unity.
As Magalie testifies: “The name change for us would be a major step forward, because my son bears the name of his father, whom he has not seen since 2015. We have already tried legal procedures so that he can bear the same name as his little sister and me, his mom.
But it was too complicated”.
“All my life I have known mockery with my name”
In other cases, a name is difficult to assume because it arouses ridicule.
And in the long run it's exhausting.
As witnessed
Marion: “I have a surname that is difficult to bear, which earned me a lot of teasing.
I don't want my future children to go through the same thing as me,” she says.
Another reader also saw this uncomfortable situation: “I bear the name Duputh, I can no longer bear the fact that no one pronounces it correctly, it is heavy to carry because of the innuendos of certain people”.
At 50, Cyrille lives the same unbearable jokes: “All my life I have been teased with my name, because it is too feminine, this name has only brought me problems until today.
I think I missed a lot of things because of my name and I expect a lot from this law”.
Changing his name for him is therefore not a formality, but rather a promise of serenity.
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