5 minutes
toxic friendship
Abdullah Al Qamzi
Abdulla.AlQamzi@emaratalyoum.com
February 14, 2022
Not every friendship lasts throughout your life. There are factors that separate friends and weaken the communication process, such as moving between life stages such as getting married after celibacy, moving to work in a new environment, changing your place of residence, or even losing interest in a particular thing that brings you together with a friend.
These are natural reasons, but there are also behavioral reasons that make you alienate your friend or those who pretend to be your friend.
The most important of these reasons are:
Lack of trust: If you ever discover that others know private details about you, and you know that only one person knows them, then trust that the friend you trust betrayed your trust.
Disrespect: Mutual respect is one of the building blocks of friendship, but rather a cornerstone of any relationship, but when your friend raises his voice against you in front of others and deliberately insults you in front of them, know that he does not deserve you and hastened to end the relationship.
Miserliness: If we say that not spending is one of the reasons for divorce between spouses, do not be surprised, and it is a reprehensible habit among Arabs, but also do not be surprised if you know that it is a major reason for the separation of friends, if you are always the one who pays the bills and you know that your friend has money and evades payment, then this A sign to go a separate path.
Selfishness: This curse is a reason to alienate even the closest person to you, like your brother, let alone your friend.
There are people who show themselves to you at all times and see that they are more important than you and that you were created to serve them and make them happy.
Exploitation: He calls you to ask you for such-and-such and you find him persistent in his request, and when your turn comes and you need something from him, you do not find good from him, or in other words: you do not find the good you do in him that will be fruitful in his actions.
Leave him immediately and do not waste your time with someone who will leave you by himself if he finds an interest with another.
Hacking your friends' circles: This is very dangerous. After you introduce a friend to your group of friends, you will find him inviting them to events and ignoring you.
And the best way to get rid of him is to invite them to lunch or dinner and then post the photos on “Instagram” with “Mention” for his account.
A lot of controversy: If your friend argues with you a lot to prove his point and insist on it to the point that you are not given an opportunity to talk about the many interruptions of your words, then know that there is no point in accompanying him.
Attitude
True story: This man has been patient with his friend for 14 years, and he deliberately insults him and exploits him and refuses to share the payment of their exit bills. When the man asked his friend to pay once, the latter complained strongly, and the first mentioned repeatedly that he had asked him to pay as if the man had committed a sin.
And when the friend wanted to buy a certain item and he did not have the full amount, he asked the man to help pay very rudely in front of the seller.
That man woke up one day and his heart told him to do it, he sent his friend a message not to come near his house.
After more than 10 years, the friend saw the man on an occasion and sat next to him, so the man got up from his seat immediately and changed his place... because silence is stronger than 1000 words.
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