Zhao Yongyong, who was abducted and trafficked, went home for 10 years: he and his family became "the most familiar strangers"
Dazhong.com · Poster News reporter Dong Haoqian Zhang Haizhen reported from Jinan
In the past 2021, the story of reunion is constantly being staged.
This year, after waiting for 24 years and thinking about it for 24 years, Guo Gangtang and his wife, the prototype of "Lost Orphan", finally waited for the abducted son Guo Xinzhen to say "parents"; Sun Haiyang and his wife, the prototype of "Dear", finally hugged their abducted son Sun Zhuo; this year, the reunions of missing and abducted children and their families have been reported frequently, more than in previous years.
However, compared to the emotion of recognizing relatives, and the happy endings that appear in more film and television works, why did the kidnapped child go home?
How should the victim family get along after reunion?
It has become another problem to be solved after the anti-trafficking operation.
At the beginning of the new year in 2022, the dialogue between Dazhong.com and poster news reporters has found Zhao Yongyong, a former trafficker for 10 years, and listened to him about his life, psychological changes, and New Year's wishes after returning home.
"This place of peace of mind is my hometown".
I hope that the story of Zhao Yongyong and his family living alone after reuniting with his family can bring some inspiration to more "just reunited families".
Witnessed the murder of his mother and the abduction of his younger brother
On December 29, 2021, Zhao Yongyong left a message on his Douyin account "@赵永勇, living alone and living alone": "The studio has completed the task, start work tomorrow, and work hard to move bricks."
Another 14 days, his video content shows "Lonely people always sleep late", with lyrics "Actually I'm very troubled, but you can't see..."
In the video, he is sometimes full of energy, sometimes confused.
Just like his life, he went through hardships and never gave up his efforts.
Zhao Yongyong, who was born in 1986, is 36 years old.
As a child, he had a happy home.
His suffering began in the summer of 1994.
On July 12, 1994, in Jiankouya Village, Yongxing Town, Kaijiang County, Dazhou City, Sichuan Province, Xiao Xueqin went to the town to buy a shirt for his lover Zhao Daifu.
The eldest son, Zhao Yongyong, who was less than 8 years old, and the younger son, Zhao Yongkuan, who was 5 years old, were arguing that they wanted to follow, and Xiao Xueqin agreed.
After shopping, the mother and son were about to go home. When they passed a front house in the town, a stranger came out and took the initiative to chat with Xiao Xueqin.
The mother and son entered the unfamiliar house one after another, where the two brothers under the age of 10 saw a group of strangers kill their mother Xiao Xueqin with their own eyes.
Subsequently, both brothers were trafficked to Fujian.
At his adoptive parents' home, Zhao Yongyong was renamed "Sun Yang", and his life was not satisfactory.
Due to the harsh conditions, he not only had to do all kinds of farm work, but also often did not have enough to eat.
The book is also only read up to the 5th grade of primary school.
Since he can paint, he took advantage of the opportunity of a neighbor from the same village to make jade carvings in Guangdong, and went to a jade carving factory in Guangdong as an apprentice at the age of 13.
"At that time, I was alone and young. I couldn't afford two or three hundred yuan a month's rent, and I couldn't afford instant noodles. I often drank tap water to satisfy my hunger." Those days were too difficult, Zhao Yongyong once thought of committing suicide, but When I got to the top of the building, my mother's appearance appeared in my mind.
Because his adoptive parents did not treat him well, and the pictures of his mother being killed often woke him up from his dreams, around 2005, Zhao Yongyong, who had been living independently in Guangdong, decided to draw from memory while looking for his hometown based on the pictures. .
"There was a lot of pressure during that time. I always dreamed and wanted to avenge my mother." Zhao Yongyong said that once he came to Sichuan, he thought that his hometown should be nearby by the taste of the dishes, "because the taste is very similar to that of when I was a child, but I don't know which city or village." Later, he left his own information on the website of Baby Home.
In those years, he ran all over the country, and he ran to the bank almost every day, taking three hundred today, five hundred tomorrow, then buying a bus ticket and looking for his hometown...
After a lot of travel, I finally found my father and brother
On September 11, 2012, with the help of volunteers in Chengdu, Zhao Yongyong met his father at the head of Yongxing Town, Kaijiang County, Dazhou City, Sichuan Province, and found his home.
"As soon as I arrived in the village, I knew that this was my hometown and what I remembered." Later, Zhao Yongyong and his father Zhao Daifu did a paternity test to confirm their father-son relationship.
With the efforts of the police, they found the real culprit who killed Zhao Yongyong's mother and trafficked Zhao Yongyong's two brothers in 2013.
After being abducted and sold for nearly 19 years, Zhao Yongyong finally found a home with his own efforts, and let the truth of the year be revealed to the world, and found justice for his mother.
In 2013, he and his father also found his younger brother Zhao Yongkuan through the police.
At that time, Zhao Yongkuan's name had been changed to "Wu Qingfa". After graduating from junior high school, he went to Beijing to work.
"I learned about my brother's situation and bought a train ticket (station ticket) for the next day. It was a nearly 30-hour journey from Sichuan to Beijing." The train was very crowded, and Zhao Yongyong didn't care at all. At that moment, "He's still the same as when he was a kid!"
Later, his younger brother followed him back to Sichuan to meet his father.
With his father and younger brother, he became the "most familiar stranger"
I thought it would be a happy ending for everyone to find a home, a family and a younger brother.
After recognizing the kiss, the passion recedes, and what they have to face is the stark reality.
Due to their different life trajectories, the two brothers do not have much in common.
In addition, Zhao Yongkuan's later family cared for him very much. He has integrated into that family and does not want to change his life for more than 10 years.
Therefore, the brothers Zhao Yongyong and Zhao Yongkuan did not communicate much.
The father Zhao Daifu also formed a new family two years after his wife and children disappeared. His wife brought two children from his ex-husband, but the family has a harmonious relationship, and the children are also very filial to Zhao Daifu.
Later, his wife let Zhao Daifu out of his grief. Although the two had no children, they worked hard to build a new house together. They lived together for more than ten years. She gradually replaced Xiao Xueqin and became the most important person around Zhao Daifu.
Zhao Yongyong found that even if he found a "home", he could no longer integrate into that home.
"When I went to see the old house, the old house was gone and demolished. So I felt a little uneasy living in someone else's house."
The funeral of his mother deepened the estrangement between Zhao Yongyong and his family: he hoped that his mother's ashes could go to the Zhao family's ancestral grave.
But this proposal was strongly opposed.
In this matter, the father cannot be the master.
The brothers also disagreed about their mother's funeral: Zhao Yongyong was unwilling to relocate his mother's ashes elsewhere; Zhao Yongkuan believed that his mother had passed away 20 years ago, and he hoped that his mother would be buried as soon as possible.
Zhao Yongyong wanted to move his hukou back to his hometown, but he was unable to do so because of opposition. "Until later, I moved back secretly. After the decision was made, some relatives pointed at me from behind, or that the two of us have recognized our home. , you should share the funeral expenses of grandparents who have passed away for many years." A series of events made Zhao Yongyong's desire for "home" gradually wiped out, and he felt that he was not regarded as a relative by his relatives.
Finding his relatives did not relieve his pressure, but brought new troubles.
He has less and less contact with his family.
Until now, the mother's ashes have not been properly placed.
Zhao Yongyong, his father and younger brother have also become "the most familiar strangers".
Found his father and younger brother, but returned to loneliness again, whose fault is it?
Maybe Shen Junliang's helpless remark once made some sense, "All this is brought by human traffickers."
"Psychological home" is the real way back
Now, Zhao Yongkuan has married and lives in Beijing.
Zhao Yongyong is still in Guangdong, but he just moved to Zhaoqing to run his own jade business and has his own studio not long ago.
Entering 2022, Zhao Yongyong is 36 years old and still single.
"I was in love before. Not long after I found a home, I brought my girlfriend back to my hometown in Sichuan. But my father didn't agree. He later called me on a blind date, but because of the pressure of reality, I never formed a family." Zhao Yongyong He sighed, although he hoped to start a family, but now he hopes to start a career first.
"After all, most of my previous savings were used to find a home. Now I don't have a car or a house, so I still rent a house. Later, I started my own business several times, but all failed. I only recently opened a new studio." Zhao Yongyong said that in the past few years The business is not good, and the income is only enough for daily expenses.
Although life has hit him several times, the lad remains optimistic.
He likes to share his life on short video platforms, sometimes singing to the camera, sometimes cooking pleasing meals with simple ingredients, and sometimes showing his jade carvings.
It has been more than 8 years since he found a home. He has cut off his long hair and his body has become a little rounder, but he is still lonely.
Indeed, how to rebuild a sense of belonging for the kidnapped children after returning home is an important issue that cannot be ignored.
"Going home mentally" is the real way home.
In 2021, in the Sun Haiyang incident, netizens also left messages to Zhao Yongyong.
"We know him and are really happy for him." Zhao Yongyong said that he was also invited to participate in the previous TV station recording program, met with Sun Haiyang, and blessed their family after seeing the news.
On December 23, 2021, Zhao Yongyong showed the dozens of train tickets and bank withdrawal slips he still kept on the video platform. "I burned a large part and only left this little bit." He said that he originally wanted to All were burned, but after thinking about it, a small part was left.
Perhaps, what he is reluctant to bear, are those years of perseverance that have passed away.
Although his life after he recognized his parents is not perfect, Zhao Yongyong still pays attention to the news of those kidnapped children, and says he never regrets his efforts in those years.
"The studio has completed the task, start work tomorrow, and work hard to move bricks." On December 29, 2021, Zhao Yongyong wrote on his Douyin account "@赵永勇, living alone and living alone".
The new year is coming, and Zhao Yongyong has also opened a new studio. Facing the reporters of Dazhong.com and posters, he expressed his New Year's vision: First of all, I would like to thank the kind-hearted people for their help along the way.
In the future, I want to work hard, have a career through my own efforts, and earn a house and a car.
And find a kind girl in the future to form a family.
"Of course, what I hope most is that the kidnapped children go home as soon as possible, and I hope that there will be no kidnapping in the world in the future!"