After the marriage, the woman returned to her natal home and did not return to the court. The court sentenced: refund 100,000 yuan for the gift
Recently, Xiao An, a young man born in the 90s in Panzhihua, Sichuan, had troubles. He was introduced to Xiao Li, a girl who is 4 years old. After the blind date, the two have a good impression of each other.
So, after more than 20 days of acquaintance, Xiao Anyi went to Xiao Li's house to propose a marriage, and successively gave 206,000 yuan as a gift.
However, this relationship only lasted for three months. After the marriage, the two quarreled constantly, and the relationship between the two families fell to a "freezing point."
Seeing that the relationship between the two could not be maintained, Xiao An's request to the other party to return the gift was unsuccessful and sued to the court.
A reporter from Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News learned that recently, the two families had "differentiated in court" due to the betrothal gift, and both sides held their own words in court.
In the end, after court mediation, the two parties reached an agreement and Xiao Li's family returned 104,000 yuan in gift money from Xiao'an's family.
The reporter learned that although the two parties held the wedding, they have not yet gone through the formalities for the marriage.
Now, the gift money has been refunded through mediation. So far, this "beautiful controversy" has finally come to an end...
Engage
Be engaged more than 20 days after the blind date
The man gave the woman more than 200,000 gifts
Xiao An was born in October 1997 and lives in a small mountain village in Yanbian County, Panzhihua City.
In November 2020, under the introduction of a matchmaker, he and Xiao Li, who was born in 2001, met at a restaurant in Yumen Town, Yanbian County, which was a blind date.
After meeting, the two added WeChat to each other and began to associate.
Both of them had a good first impression of each other.
According to Xiao'an, the first time I saw Xiao Li, it was a coincidence, and he didn't think much about it at the time.
However, after the two met, they rarely had the opportunity to meet, and they all chatted on WeChat.
With the deepening of the online chat, the relationship between the two gradually warmed up.
After getting to know each other for more than twenty days, Xiao An's family decided to propose marriage to Xiao Li's house.
On this day of November 9, 2020, Xiao An, his parents and relatives came to Xiao Li's house. At that time, the two parties had a pleasant talk. According to the agreement between the two parties, the man gave the woman 200,000 yuan as a gift.
On the day of the engagement, Xiao An's family first paid Xiao Li's 166,000 yuan as a gift.
Xiao An’s father, Mr. An, said that the night before his son’s marriage, An’s family paid Xiao Li’s family another 20,000 yuan, and the next day when the wedding was held, he paid another 20,000 yuan. Together with the money for the wedding banquet, a total of more than 300,000 yuan was spent. Since the family did not have enough money at the time, most of them were borrowed."
On February 27, 2021, in accordance with local customs and witnessed by relatives and friends of both parties, Xiao An and Xiao Li held a lively wedding.
Although the bride price made An Jia owe a lot of debts, seeing his daughter-in-law successfully married in, An Jia did not care too much, but hoped that the young couple could live a good life after marriage.
crack
Disagreement often quarrels
The woman didn't return after returning to her natal home
However, the good times didn't last long, and soon after the wedding, Xiao An and Xiao Li's relationship cracked.
Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News learned that because the two parties met on a blind date through introduction, they did not know each other well before marriage. After marriage, they lived together in the name of husband and wife for a period of time. Due to the large differences in personalities between the two parties, conflicts gradually appeared.
"At first it was a good deal. Later, when I found out that all opinions were disagreeable, my temper came out. In addition, the eating habits seemed to be different, so I often quarreled over some trivial matters." Xiaoan said, originally thinking that the two could have a happy small family. But after more than a month of marriage, the two often quarreled over trivial matters.
"I have a good impression of this daughter-in-law and I am quite satisfied. The main reason is that the two young people can't get along." Xiao'an's father said that he didn't know that the two were quarreling at first. Later, after learning about the situation, he tried to persuade him many times. , But no effect.
On June 15, 2021, Xiao Li suddenly proposed to go back to her family's home. After setting up the house to no avail, Xiao Li took away all his personal clothes.
On the same day, An Jia delivered Xiao Li to his father's hands.
After that, Xiao Li never returned to settle down again, which deepened the conflict between the two families.
Why send Xiao Li back to her natal family?
In this regard, Xiao An said that he had been with Xiao Li for three months, and her temper was also very strong, and she was always noisy. "If we continue to keep her here, we are also afraid that she can’t think about it or go to extremes. If you really can’t get along, you might as well separate earlier.”
Open court
The man's request to withdraw the lottery was unsuccessful
Suing the woman
Xiao An's family believes that they gave Xiao Li's family a "huge amount" of betrothal gifts, but after the marriage, Xiao Li never returned home after returning to her natal family, and should refund the money that had been paid.
However, Xiao Li's family disagreed.
After the two parties negotiated repeatedly to no avail, Xiao An's family took Xiao Li's family to court and demanded the return of 206,000 yuan in gift money.
Recently, the Yumen Court of the People's Court of Yanbian County, Panzhihua City opened a court session to hear the case.
At the court hearing, the two sides held different opinions on the reasons for the breakdown of the relationship. Xiaoan insisted that the woman repented of the marriage, while Xiao Li insisted that it was the man who had retired.
"As the time spent with each other increased, the two had constant conflicts and often quarreled, so they proposed to go home for a few days. Their family left me in the cold and had a bad attitude, and they beat and scolded me at any time." Xiao Li said, the reason why they have not returned to the man. At home, it was because the man not only didn't come to pick her up, but also called and said, "The fate is gone," and it was the man who wanted to divorce.
In court, Xiao Li’s father stated that, in fact, their family only received more than 190,000 yuan as a gift from Xiaoan’s family, of which 6,000 yuan in clothing and red envelopes were returned to the man. “The money was spent, and the man had retired. , Our family is not at fault, and the gift money should not be refunded."
ending
Both parties are unwilling to continue the marriage contract
After mediation, the woman returned 104,000 yuan as a gift
The reporter learned that although the two had previously held a wedding in accordance with local customs, because Xiao Li was not of the legal marriage age at that time, he had not yet received a marriage certificate from the Civil Affairs Bureau.
In court, Xiao An and Xiao Li both expressed that they were unwilling to continue to fulfill this marriage contract, and they were unwilling to live together, and wanted to end this relationship as soon as possible.
Then, how much the gift actually paid, whether or not it should be returned, and how much should be returned, have become the focus of the debate in this case.
After the trial, in order to properly handle the bride price dispute, Judge He Tianjun specially invited the people's mediator Liu Wanhui to the defendant's home to participate in the mediation of the case.
The judge decided to do the mediation work of the defendant first, because if it is not refundable and how much it is refunded, the first thing to do is to inform the defendant's thinking.
After popularizing the law and doing ideological work, Xiao Li finally agreed to refund part of the gift money.
In the subsequent mediation with Xiao'an, Xiao'an proposed that Xiao Li's family should return at least 100,000 yuan as a gift, and that it cannot be instalmented.
In the end, after repeated communication between the judge and the mediator, the two parties finally reached a mediation agreement: Xiao Li's party returned 104,390 yuan to Xiao An's party as a gift fee.
Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News Reporter Jiang Long