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Looking at the other in a job interview without conveying insecurity, fear or that you are lying
At first,
María Manuela Fernández Jaime's
smile
froze
.
A smile that is not easily frozen, everything must be said, and that is the one that usually carries through life,
we refer
to
, this 26-year-old Argentine.
María Manuela works professionally in
Human Resources,
so she has read something about job interviews and non-verbal language. But this time it was she who was looking for a job and had to face the task of digesting the response given to her by a company with which she had recently had a selection interview:
"We found your CV and what you have to contribute to a company interesting to us. But you
smiled too much,
you laughed, you were
very nice,
and we do not find a person who smiles at all the interview very professional. It is nothing personal, we just believe that that can affect the performance of your career in the future. It is only advice, sometimes
being an extrovert
denotes a
lack of commitment and seriousness ",
said the message that María Manuela now had in front of her eyes.
Read to believe.
OUT OF HERE, FRIENDLY
"You were very nice." Eye. Hard to find a more twisted reason to deny someone a job. In the absence of knowing if the company for which María Manuela was applying was a funeral home or a Russian restaurant (Russians unanimously consider that smiling because it is a clear sign of mental weakness), what is clear is that their managers of selection of staff have a rather unique concept of
extroversion
,
professionalism,
or
commitment
. It would be wonderful, by sheer gossip, to know who was finally chosen for the job. Wednesday Addams?
"At first
I was angry,
but now I laugh," explained María Manuela.
And she adds: "I think that laughter is stronger than me. I like to
be positive
, to see the full glass, to see
the good in situations and people."
We believe you, María Manuela.
In any case, the situation is so picturesque that it has encouraged us to turn to the personnel selection experts to interpret it for us.
Is it true that a smile can harm us in a job interview?
SUSPICIOUS SMILES
Well, apparently yes, it is possible that a
smile that is too wide
or too
permanent
is perceived as a
lack of self-control
,
maturity
and even
attention
. When the smile becomes a permanent gesture it begins to look like a
mask
, and like any mask, a shield behind which
weaknesses
are hidden
.
As
Nilton Navarro,
Brand Manager of InfoJobs,
explains
, "it is true that, sometimes,
smiling excessively
can be counterproductive and that a
false smile
is easily discovered and can also cause a bad impression. In the end, it must be borne in mind that professionals Human Resources are always looking for
authentic profiles,
people who do not try to
sell an image of themselves,
but show themselves as they are ".
What does Navarro mean by "a fake smile"?
The one that we all recognize as false without the need for a manual.
It is very easy to detect, because the lips smile but the eyes do not].
An investigation carried out by the University of Helsinki and recently published in the
Journal of Research in Personality,
once again confirmed that
false or 'courtesy' smiles
damage the image that others have of us.
Come on,
Isabel Pantoja could use
"teeth teeth" to annoy journalists, but to get a job ... definitely not.
CHOOSE THE SMILE THAT REPRESENTS YOU
In any case, the expert clarifies, it is necessary to underline that "smiling in a job interview is
your best business card.
It is a gesture that generates a
positive attitude in the recruiter. It
shows
confidence
and
sympathy
. There are studies that show that, in In most encounters between two people, smiling has a cause-effect: that is, if the other person sees that we smile, it is very likely that they will smile back at the same time. If the smile is accompanied by
a positive attitude,
optimism
and
motivation
will be the
key to finding a job. "
And at this point we have no choice but to ask: what then is the
perfect smile
for
getting a job?
Nilton Navarro has it very clear: "For me, the ideal smile is
the usual one for each person.
When facing a job interview, you do not have to force a smile, but rather smile more to connect with the Human Resources professional If you are a person who finds it difficult to smile in general, you do not have to make an effort to smile in a selection process but to
be yourself.
Of course, as
Chaplin
said
: "A day without smiling is a day wasted."
BECAUSE IT IS WORSE NOT TO SMILE ... IN BELGIUM
As in Don Mendo's description of the seven-thirty game in
Muñoz Seca's
famous work
,
in this matter of smiling it seems to be that "either you pass, or you don't arrive."
In 2009, news broke that a census worker from Herve (Belgium) had been
fired for not smiling
enough.
"He is not kind enough and people perceive that he does not care about their affairs," they justified from the institution.
She, a 28-year-old girl, shy but with good intentions (she had taken several courses to overcome her sociability problems), did not understand anything.
Like María Manuela.
Only, in her case, the smile was already cold as standard.
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