These women experience a tremendous

sense of loss and pain

and go through childbirth or cesarean section knowing that they will not have the child they expected.

In many cases, and while still in a

state of shock, they

have to listen to comforting phrases such as 'these are things that happen', 'nothing happens, you will have more children ...', they must return to their work and lead a normal life in very few weeks and they do not receive the necessary psychological attention.

Currently in our country when a woman suffers a gestational or perinatal death within the

first 180 days of pregnancy

(the equivalent of 6 months), she is not entitled to leave or maternity leave, while the woman who has suffered it at 185 days or more it does.

Claudia Gómez, who lost her son in the 17th week of gestation, asks that the law also take care of the first ones through a

campaign

through Change.org that has collected more than 37,000 signatures and addressed to the Ministry of Labor.

THEY HAVE SPOKEN

"Sitting on a hospital bed, watching my husband's heart break as he tried to hold up the broken pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, 'Are you okay?'" .

These are the words of

Meghan Markle

in a letter published in 'The New York Times' in which she narrated how she lost her second child during pregnancy.

The Duchess of Sussex has not been the only one who lately has voiced the pain felt by women (and men) who have had their expectations of having a child shattered when the pregnancy was already advanced.

The model

Chrissy Teigen,

married to musician John Legend, also spoke about it when she lost her third child at five months of gestation.

"Jack will always be loved,

we will tell our children about him and he will continue to exist in the wind and in the trees and in the butterflies (...) His ashes are in a small box, waiting to be buried under a tree in our new home. , the one we bought with her room in mind, "the model wrote on her Instagram account along with black and white photos in the hospital where she had an abortion.

THE MEMORY OF RAÚL

Before picking up her 15-month-old son Alejandro from the nursery,

MCS cries as she remembers the day she lost Raúl,

who was to be her first-born, after years of operations and fertility treatments: "At 22 weeks of pregnancy she died of anemia caused by a parvovirus. I had a cesarean section with general anesthesia so that I would not find out and suffer less. I was fatal, I

had already prepared the cart and some clothes, which I still have, four years later,

like a memory of Raúl ".

MCS did not ask for psychological help to overcome her perinatal grief, but now she admits that it would not have gone badly for her.

Experts from the Juana Crespo Team Psychological Unit define perinatal grief as "a

loss based on the needs and desires that we project as parents."

"It is a traumatic life event that encompasses a range of feelings and behaviors such as

sadness, anger, fear, guilt,

apathy, hyperactivity, etc.", continue the specialists.

PROTOCOL AND WITHDRAWAL

Doctor Paloma Baviera, a gynecologist and formerly a midwife for 10 years, explains that there is a

protocol

to attend to these cases in most hospitals, for example not putting those affected in the same ward as the women in labor and avoiding taking them to the hospital. delivery room, where they would meet other women who do give birth to their child, they would see them and hear them cry.

Baviera also recommends sedating the woman to avoid the pain of a childbirth whose end will not be the reward of having a baby in her arms, and to fix the body of the fetus and show the parents at least her little face, so that they can

say goodbye. of the.

"All this," says the specialist, "adapting to the needs of each person, because each woman in these circumstances needs a different treatment."

Dr. Baviera affirms that "the particular situation of the patients would have to be studied, but, apart from medical complications, she would recommend a

minimum of two months of

medical

leave

to overcome the grieving process before recovering their normal life."

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