Chinanews client, Beijing, August 11 (Reporter Ren Siyu) "Assuming that your body has become like me, with a ventilator 24 hours a day, do you think it is necessary to stick to it?"
In a recent video, Zhu Mingjun said to netizens with a heavy expression.
This is his rare "negative energy" video.
Since "A Record of a Highly Paraplegic Firefighter for Seven and a Half Years" burst into flames at station B, he has been known to everyone as a psychological counselor. Many people were moved by his persistence and regained the courage to face life. However, illness and Accidents will still affect his mood from time to time: "Brave Zhu Zhu is not afraid of difficulties, but these difficulties seem to be a lot."
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The suppressed "Monkey King"
Many netizens got to know Zhu Mingjun from station B. In the video, his knowledge of popular science and psychology tells the memory of firefighters, how to wash their hair, play games with their mouths, and even try to challenge "biochemical weapons" canned herring, Perform a cross-eyed fight to make everyone happy...
"I think you are living so strong and happy, so happy, and I will continue to work hard." Netizens say so.
Zhu Mingjun was a strong and handsome firefighter.
In a campus drill eight years ago, he accidentally fell from a 2-meter-high parallel bar, causing spinal cord injury: he lost consciousness below his neck, he had a hole in his neck, a tube was inserted, and a ventilator was attached to the other end. , The air intake is controlled by the machine.
In the first two years of injury, I couldn't even speak.
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When he was in the most emotional breakdown, Zhu Mingjun thought about leaving. He remembered "biting his tongue and committing suicide" in the film and television series. He tried for a few days, but he did not "success" after biting off one third of his tongue. The blood in his mouth was flowing. He was stopped in time by his mother, "It is too misleading to say that it is too misleading to commit suicide in TV dramas or novels." Later in the video, he said with a smile.
In order to prevent suicide again, the nurse added a compulsive device to his teeth. He once asked his mother to unplug the ventilator and let him leave the world quickly. His mother was unwilling to say, "The end result is all crying, and I cry too, mother. Cry too."
During that time, Zhu Mingjun used his mouth to bite a stylus to operate cell phones and computers every day. He often read "paralyzed" and "terminally ill" and wrote many pessimistic words. A psychologist sent him private messages. But he only thinks that the other party is a liar: you have not experienced my life, how can psychology help me?
By chance, he read a book called "The Last Wish List", which recorded the wishes of some people who were about to die. The book mentioned "PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)" several times. Zhu Mingjun began to talk about psychology. With curiosity.
He thought of the counselor again, and chatted with QQ, he found that the other party did not say some innocuous comforting words, but as if two patients with high paraplegia were communicating, which gave him a great sense of peace of mind.
Accompanied by the teacher, Zhu Mingjun began to get in touch with psychology, slowly adjusted his mentality, and accepted the teacher’s suggestion to work hard towards his career. He found various psychology textbooks and learned word by word with his stylus every day. Qualification certificate examination, become a psychologist.
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Cross oneself
On the shelf of Zhu Mingjun’s bed, there is a small Monkey King ornament, “Actually, I am a very outgoing person. High paraplegia is like imprisoning me. It keeps me under the Wuzhi Mountain and I feel very uncomfortable.”
In the past few years of injury, except for his family and comrades in arms, his connection with the real world was almost zero, and his desire to contact the outside world was very strong. In the summer of 2018, his family pushed him to the center of the square and asked him to talk to strangers and do charity. speech.
At that time, he wanted to escape, but he could only bite the bullet. After trying again and again, he gained the attention and applause of many strangers, and also met the first batch of consultants.
In fact, this "breakthrough" of going out is still not easy for him.
Because of his low self-esteem, he was afraid of other people's eyes and talk, "I know they are all well-intentioned and not malicious, but they are afraid. In fact, I have been in the process of overcoming, but it is impossible to overcome it."
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The cover of Zhu Mingjun’s station B is a photo of "Lianglin Psychologically". Starting in 2019, he plans to open a physical counseling room. Today, he receives an average of 3 patients every day, and counselors of all ages , But more of them are confused teenagers.
Whenever he communicates with the counselor offline, he will ask his family to adjust the angle, turn his body sideways and try to communicate face-to-face as much as possible. He feels that this is the professional performance that a counselor should have.
He often starts with a relaxed topic to eliminate the tension of the other party and slowly ease their confusion.
Will listening to so many worries every day make it difficult to resolve emotions?
Zhu Mingjun’s answer is no at all. This is what the teacher said is the “advantage”. After passing through the ghost gate, he suffered deeper and longer than most people, so he will not be affected, and it is easier to interact with others. Empathy.
Become an UP master
One afternoon at the beginning of this year, Zhu Mingjun felt depressed, and there was no suitable person to confide in, so he talked to the camera in front of him for ten minutes, and then uploaded the video to station B.
At first, he didn't care at all, until he went online 3 days later, he suddenly found that the message list "exploded", private messages flooded in like a flood, concerned, encouraging, popularizing science, sending prescriptions, suggesting where to go for treatment... …
"Psychology does make me feel a little better through self-education, but for 7 and a half years before I posted the video, I was alone, and then I found out that I could meet many strange netizens on the Internet, so I decided to do it. An UP master."
If his body permits, he will broadcast live broadcasts every day, read the comments of netizens, sometimes share psychological knowledge, and sometimes play games. He has a unique "Mouth King", using his mouth to manipulate the four tubes in front of him, while explaining and controlling. Game character actions and attacks.
Games were once an important entertainment when he was rebellious in his youth, and it was also one of the reasons why he was engaged in psychological counseling for teenagers, but now after the broadcast, Zhu Mingjun will no longer take the initiative to play games.
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Zhu Mingjun in the video is often humorous, optimistic, and positive. "I don't deny that life is difficult, but it seems to be able to survive through gritted teeth." In the comment area, many netizens cheered for him and talked about how they were frustrated. How to be inspired by his optimism.
However, he also saw some evaluations of "selling miserables" and "mastering the wealth code". The online world is complicated. What he can do is not to output negative information as much as possible. "I have always wanted to get rid of these evaluations, that is, this person It’s not here to sell miserables, but also want to change the public’s stereotypes about the disabled. Don’t associate them with miserables, wealth codes, and sympathy when you see the disabled."
Some time ago, Zhu Mingjun was out of heatstroke and the ventilator couldn't breathe in. Although he kept thinking about persisting in his heart, he fainted until his mother arrived in time and rescued him from suffocation.
In the video that he thought was "burst of negative energy", many netizens told him that it is also brave to accept and speak out these negative energies.
Speaking of the six months of becoming the UP owner, Zhu Mingjun said that he was so lucky to know so many friends on the Internet, "I will be very grateful and cherish that I can have the life I am today. I don’t want to give up quickly like that. , Leaving this world, not at all, how much I wanted to give up before, how much I will want to live well today."
He said that happiness now occupies most of his time.
"It is impossible to say that negative emotions are impossible. After all, my body is like this. When negative emotions come, there will still be thoughts of wanting to leave. But now I can stop myself from continuing to think and prevent some pessimistic thoughts from occupying my My mind, now I can control myself."
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During the eighth year of his injury, he updated the video to thank the netizens for their support. Later, he replaced the wine with mung bean soup, drank it in one breath with a straw, and toasted to the netizens remotely.
At the end of the video, he said to everyone: "Even if there are ups and downs, will it be extremely calm?" (End)