Dialogue "Working and saving money for ten years and moving into a rough house" Post-95 girls: Envy people who can go to college
In July of this year, Xiaoli, a post-95 girl in Taizhou, Jiangsu, paid a down payment of 280,000 yuan and finally moved into her own house—a rough house.
280,000 yuan is her savings for ten years of working.
In the voice of doubts that "girls don't need to work so hard" and "buying a house is useless, you have to marry", she almost paranoidly believes that owning a house of her own has a place to stay when she is down.
On July 7, after the media reported, the story of Xiaoli buying a house appeared on the hot search.
Xiaoli told The Paper that she was still saving money for renovations.
Although she lives in a rough house, she is very happy and "does not dislike it at all."
"The handful of dirt and dust in it, for every square meter, I earned hard work." Due to family financial difficulties, she didn't finish elementary school and went out to work when she was a teenager.
I have done various jobs, such as being an apprentice, entering a factory, flowering shop, and selling crabs.
"I envy people who can go to college." "I hope to find someone I like."
Some netizens said that this may be "the process of ordinary people struggling out of the dust and blooming their own flowers."
Xiaoli felt that she just did an ordinary thing, and the reason why so many people paid attention might be because it resonated.
Many people are working as hard as her.
Dialogue with Xiaoli
The Paper: Your experience of working for ten years and saving money to buy a house is hotly searched. What do you think of this "popularity"?
Xiao Li: I was quite surprised at first. I thought it was just a normal thing, and I was used to the feeling of a house.
But then I think about it, where I live, there are almost no girls who buy houses independently.
I think that the reason why my business has attracted so many people's attention is that it resonates. Many girls should be like me, hoping to own their own houses.
The Paper: How is the money for buying a house saved?
Xiaoli: Mainly relying on working outside, saving for ten years and collecting the down payment for buying a house.
Because my family was poor, I didn't finish primary school.
At that time, I had the idea of working to make money, and my parents did not stop me.
When I was more than a decade old, I went to a factory in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province to be an apprentice as a sweater pullover (stitching). In fact, I put all parts of a piece of clothing together, and I had a few hundred dollars a month.
After coming out of the sweater factory, I went to work in a textile factory.
The salary in Suzhou is still quite high, two to three thousand yuan a month, but it is very hard to go to work, one month for day shift and one month for night shift.
After 12 hours of work, and another 12 hours of rest, I don’t have enough time to sleep every day. How can I have time to spend money?
This is how money is saved.
At the time in the factory, wages were not paid on a monthly basis, but a little bit of living expenses were given to you every month, and the bills were paid to you at the end of the year.
I don't care how to settle the salary, because I don't spend much.
The Paper: What were relatives and friends around the same age doing at the time?
Will there be a gap?
Xiao Li: At that time, my relatives and friends, including my brother, were still studying, and I felt that they were very happy.
I have become accustomed to this sense of gap.
After working in the factory for a long time, I feel like a robot. I don’t like this job, but it’s also for making money.
A young girl, what can you do if you don't go to work?
The Paper: In addition to working in the factory, did you do other jobs later?
Xiaoli: After working for a few years, I have the idea of opening a shop and want to be a boss.
I told my grandma that I want to open a clothing store or some other small shop to do business.
My grandma was surprised. She said, "Do you still want to open a shop? You are so brave!" I insisted that I must open a shop.
When I was 19, I opened a flower shop in the suburbs of Suzhou.
The styles of my flowers are very novel, and I am willing to spend money with flowers, and the quality is better.
I am also very diligent. I like to run around in the market, go to restaurants and KTV to promote sales.
The money was mainly saved at this time. At that time, the profit of the blossom shop was quite high, and it could make 20,000 yuan on Valentine's Day. Of course, it was very busy and tired.
Actually, the flowering shop is quite romantic, but it is troublesome to look at the shop.
I have been driving for two years, dizzy every day, and gradually tired.
After that, I changed jobs one after another, selling crabs, doing micro business, etc., slowly saving money.
The Paper: What resistance have you encountered when buying a house?
Xiaoli: Mainly because of the opposition of parents and family members.
I told them about this once, and they thought I was crazy, so I said, I not only want a flower shop, but I also want to buy a house of my own.
My mother said, you have some money, you might as well go home and build a house for me.
They think that I always want to marry, and I will have a house to live in after I find a husband. Now it is useless to buy it back.
They brainwashed me, and I brainwashed them.
I said, why can't I buy a house?
I have my own house. It’s pretty good. It’s the 21st century now, not the same (theory) it used to be.
After I actually bought the house, they thought it was pretty good, and it began to "sweet".
They didn't appreciate me before, but now they think I'm quite thoughtful.
The Paper: Why did your family stop you in the first place?
Xiaoli: I grew up in a county-level city in Taizhou, where boys are more patriarchal.
Both of my parents are ordinary farmers. At first they farmed at home, and then they worked in the factory. They didn't have much money at home.
I also have an older brother who is three years old.
Here, boys will receive more attention, and the expectation of girls in the family is that you want to get married soon.
Girls can live in the man’s house when they marry.
I remember that when I was young, my family gave the boy 20 yuan in red envelopes, and they gave me 5 yuan.
Usually my parents give pocket money and give my brother 2 yuan. My words are 50 cents occasionally. If you don't give it, there will be no.
Because no one cares about me, I have been very independent since I was a child. My parents would lock me up when I was farming or going to work. I would sleep alone, play alone, and do something to fill my stomach. I am used to taking care of myself.
The Paper: Without the support of family members, where does the motivation for persistence come from?
Xiaoli: It may be because of lack of care and insecurity when I was young.
I have seen a saying: Childhood affects a person's life. Some people use their life to heal their childhood, and some people use their childhood to heal their life.
me too.
I had a desire to make money since I was a child. When I was young, I didn’t have pocket money. I was envious when I saw other people having snacks. I always wanted to earn money to buy things for myself, but at that time I didn’t even think about buying a house.
After going out to work, I always hope that I can grow up quickly and earn money to support myself.
Later, the idea of opening a store and buying a house came into being, all of which were carried out step by step.
The Paper: What practical problems does the house bring to you?
Xiaoli: The economic pressure will be greater.
I considered an apartment before buying a house, and the down payment may be less than 100,000 yuan, but I really understand that it is not easy to change hands, and the property rights issue is also troublesome, so I finally decided to buy a house.
Now the area of this suite is 120 square meters, 8,500 yuan per square meter, which is actually beyond my expectation. I think it is enough to buy an eighty or ninety square meter, but there are almost no small apartments here.
Now, I need to repay a loan of about 3,000 yuan every month, which is under great pressure.
But I think this kind of pressure can make me make better money and feel more secure.
If there is no money in my hand, I will panic.
The Paper: Many netizens are curious, why did you live in the house in a rough state?
Xiaoli: Because I don't have money to decorate.
I must wait at least two more years to save enough money before I can decorate it.
But I think the rough house has no effect on my daily life.
This is much better than the previous house.
In the past, our family lived in an earthen house, and I didn't have a room of my own.
Rather than going out to socialize, I prefer to stay at home. I don't like to be in contact with others very much unless a good friend calls me out.
On the way home, I bought some side dishes and made a meal. I felt very happy.
I still remember that today is the 19th day I live in, and I will record the daily life here every day.
It is my own thing, my own place.
A handful of dirt and a piece of dust in the house, every square meter, I have earned hard, so I don't dislike it.
The Paper: What changes have taken place psychologically after having a house?
Xiaoli: Buying a house brings me, it should be a kind of confidence and a way to go.
I have talked about love a few times, but the experience has been rough, I have been cheated, and I don’t trust people.
As I grow older, my classmates and friends are basically married, even divorced or married.
What follows is some practical problems that may exist in marriage. I will consider these factors. Whether I am married or not, at least I have a place to live.
I think even if I am married, if I am quarreling with my husband, or being bullied at my in-law’s house and I am not happy, and someone tells me to go, I have at least one place to go, and I don’t have to go back to my natal house.
I don’t want to improve my quality of life by getting married, but if I buy a house by myself, I will stay with myself for the rest of my life. I will live in my own home and in my own world. Very practical.
The Paper: What are your expectations for your future life?
Xiaoli: I want to pay off the mortgage now. It doesn't matter whether the house is decorated or not.
If the mortgage is paid off, people will be more relaxed.
Talking about the object is still reckless, hoping to find someone I like.
Before my family urged me to marry, I would reason with them, but then I didn’t urge me.
When I was young, I complained about my family because I didn't get enough care, but now it doesn't matter.
I am a quick-tempered person, and I don't hold much grudges.
But I still regret the fact that I dropped out of school so early.
My expressive skills are a bit lacking. Maybe it would be better if I read more.
I envy people who can go to college.
The Paper Journalist Zhu Xuan